What have you learned?

BoiJen · 12-31-2011, 03:35 PM

I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

spritzerJ · 12-31-2011, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BoiJen

I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

I understand the emotional connection with your kiddo, it is amazing. As is there memory for what we forget. OMG, I never imagined how much brain power I've lost over the years but she reminds me daily.

Julien · 12-31-2011, 03:53 PM

I've learned that I can withstand the difficult times in my life if I give myself a chance to experience the events without struggle or negativity.

Sassy · 12-31-2011, 04:11 PM

I've learned I just might not be ready to let go of those dreams I had when I was 20-something.

msW8ing · 12-31-2011, 04:31 PM

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

spritzerJ · 12-31-2011, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

Oh so learned that one this week. I really wanted to make 'em suffer but I was lucky that my sister reminded me to let go and let go fast so there was room for a peaceful resolution. Because it was what we really needed a peaceful resolution. And peace is being found.

1ladyface · 01-11-2012, 01:57 AM

I've learned (or am trying to learn) to be patient with my body. Recovering from this cold takes time, getting more flexible takes time, getting stronger takes time.

I was talking with a friend today about how I overdid it this weekend and exercised too much and re-aggravated that pesky cough I developed over Christmas. He's in a similar place so we each came up with a mantra to remind ourselves to slow down this week. Mine was initially "my body is still healing" but then I realized that made me angry and impatient so I changed it to "my magical body is healing itself" which feels good.

(though slow)

kittygrrl · 03-15-2012, 11:27 PM

true kindness is perhaps greater than love

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

This is so absolutely true!! They are there for a reason, season, or a lifetime!

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:29 PM

When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away.

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away.

I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do.

Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!)

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

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I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. </snip>

Amen to THIS.

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Amen to THIS.

And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)

i knew exactly what you meant, and i agree and that is my experience too

Okiebug61 · 03-17-2012, 07:31 AM

I've learned that loving someone is not only something in the opened eyed present but in the blind future. Thankfully she loves the same way.

kittygrrl · 03-17-2012, 11:44 AM

I've learned, I don't miss coffee, a healthy smoothie gives me tons more energy..coffee is a drug

Ginger · 03-17-2012, 06:58 PM

Today I learned how satisfying it is to sleep, what a beautiful place sleep can be.

kittygrrl · 03-18-2012, 12:50 PM

... there is no such thing as forever..or should i amend that with forever can have very different contexts depending on who is using it..people will lie to you, and lie to themselves..make sure you are clear & honest if you decide to use that term in your relationships to avoid disappointment altogether don't use it at all (imo)here & now is where your focus should be, evaluate & make sure it's what you need not want you wish it to be

12-31-2011, 03:35 PM	#1
BoiJen Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Relationship Status: happy to find inner peace Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Motor City Posts: 65 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13 Thanked 120 Times in 46 Posts Rep Power: 214766	I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first. I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point. One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven. __________________ *BoiJen* The past is our definition. We may strive with good reason to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it. -Wendell Barry

12-31-2011, 03:53 PM	#3
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've learned that I can withstand the difficult times in my life if I give myself a chance to experience the events without struggle or negativity. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

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msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

01-11-2012, 01:57 AM	#7
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368880	I've learned (or am trying to learn) to be patient with my body. Recovering from this cold takes time, getting more flexible takes time, getting stronger takes time. I was talking with a friend today about how I overdid it this weekend and exercised too much and re-aggravated that pesky cough I developed over Christmas. He's in a similar place so we each came up with a mantra to remind ourselves to slow down this week. Mine was initially "my body is still healing" but then I realized that made me angry and impatient so I changed it to "my magical body is healing itself" which feels good. (though slow) __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

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kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,388 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,602 Thanked 21,967 Times in 7,086 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned.. true kindness is perhaps greater than love

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Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641164	I've learned I just might not be ready to let go of those dreams I had when I was 20-something.

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Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away. I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away. I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do. Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!) __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

03-17-2012, 07:31 AM	#14
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kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,388 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,602 Thanked 21,967 Times in 7,086 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned, I don't miss coffee, a healthy smoothie gives me tons more energy..coffee is a drug

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Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Today I learned how satisfying it is to sleep, what a beautiful place sleep can be.

03-18-2012, 12:50 PM	#17
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,388 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,602 Thanked 21,967 Times in 7,086 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned ... there is no such thing as forever..or should i amend that with forever can have very different contexts depending on who is using it..people will lie to you, and lie to themselves..make sure you are clear & honest if you decide to use that term in your relationships to avoid disappointment altogether don't use it at all (imo)here & now is where your focus should be, evaluate & make sure it's what you need not want you wish it to be