Flirting by text

[princessbelle]

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!

[UofMfan]

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

[starryeyes]

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

[Gemme]

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

[ruffryder]

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

[betenoire]

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

[lettertodaddy]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it.

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

[Hack]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

[SweetJane]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

[Hack]

Originally Posted by SweetJane

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

It was never really a game of one upping. It was more like a script for an Irene Dunne-Cary Grant or Hepburn-Tracy film. Frankly, I am tempted to turn the whole premise into a screenplay, but I don't think it would translate well.

[chai~]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

I've spent several months flirting with someone online and in text, and wanted to keep the saucy little nuggets for late night reading at a later date!

So, I started a blog, totally dedicated to to such encounters. They are retyped, spelling and punctuation somewhat corrected. {I wanted to keep the rawness and organic~ness of the chats as close to the original as I could}

I occassionally re read these exchanges, smile, blush, and sometimes think, "oh my, I said that?"

Perhaps someday I will compile them into a debaucherous tome of erotica!

[Passionaria]

Yep, in my mind too the best flirty anything comes when you are relaxed and just having fun, it just comes out. And then evolves

I have never misfired a text, but I did have someone I was dating send a naughty email~~~> to my MOM. AYE! I could feel them squirm from miles away.*giggling* I had forgotten about that, thanks for the memory. LOL.

[girl_dee]

my beau and i are both natural flirts so we sure make texting fun....

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by betenoire

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose.

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

[princessbelle]

Speaking of flirting...

I personally see it like this..

It is individualized. Everyone does it his or her own way. No one is right or wrong when it comes to everyone's personal style. To each his/her own. Just go with the flow. Not only do people flirt differently but they may flirt differently with different people.

The question was about texting and IMO it's easy to read too much or not enough in what may seem to be a flirty text. Whether you text something out of the blue or plan it for just the right time, just like most things in life, if your interested, give it a shot.

Last i looked, there are no rules for such things.

It's pretty easy to figure out if it's working or not.....eventually.

[apretty]

I hope this isn't your flirting.

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[UofMfan]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice