Flirting by text

[UofMfan]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice

[Queerasfck]

I like the direct approach. I just texted my gf "I need to get my freeeek on."

Sweeping her off her feet again!

[Kent]

I have never rehearsed or even thought of rehearsing to flirt with a beautiful woman. It just happens. We either feel each other's energy or we don't. I'm just not one to rehearse flirting. It flows or it doesn't.

So, go ahead and be yourself and take a chance. The world is at your fingertips and you might just get the girl or guy of your dreams.

I realize some may want to rehearse and go over all their moves before hand and that is perfectly okay. Do what you like. Do what feels good and right. Believe me the person on the other end of the text will either reciprocate or not. It's not the end of the world if they don't respond the way you want. The point is to at least try. Lighten up and flirt a little. It may just be the best thing you've ever done.

Let the flirting continue.. rehearsed or off the cuff...

[Random]

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

[Random]

Originally Posted by Random

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

Nine years later and it still working...

[FireSignFemme]

Originally Posted by Random

Nine years later and it still working...

Happy nine years later.

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

Stop flirting with me, UofMean!

[BullDog]

LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

[Jett]

Originally Posted by BullDog

LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

FRESH! *slap*

... oh... I'm sorry buddy I thought you were flirting with me. I'll get some ice for that...

[BullDog]

Will flirt for cupcakes.

[Quintease]

I always plan my flirts, or not-flirts. By 'plan' I don't mean I write them down for days and analyse them, but I put some thought into what I say (by not-flirts I mean the flirts you're not doing because someone inappropriate is trying to flirt with you). I've flirted with everything from boys to girls and I don't feel the need to change my flirting style for identity, rather for the person.

[Wryly]

I cannot flirt at all - by text, online or in person.
When I do try to flirt either the femme doesn't "get" that I'm flirting or I sound really strange.

Once I spent quite a bit of time with someone - apparenlty she started dating and broke up with someone during that time. *sigh* No luck at all!


Everyone who says to be a good flirter you should be yourself obviously aren't me!

[lettertodaddy]

Originally Posted by Wryly

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Everyone who says to be a good flirter you should be yourself obviously aren't me!

Well said! I'm terrible at flirting.

[smouldering]

Most of the posts here have made me smile, I think flirting is great, its fun and heck its even healthy if you ask me.. I like that little dance of just having fun and getting to know people on all different levels..
However if we've only just said hello and haven't really known each other long and you send me a naughty pic? Im probably not going to be able to take you seriously and will back off.. just sayin, why be so quick to send a stranger pics of your bits? I can't help but wonder how many other people are getting a peek at your goods at the same time and if you're just whoring for attention and nothing more.
I am definitely far from a prude, just ask anyone who knows me lol.. but I can't imagine sending photos of my unmentionables to someone I didn't know.. could you just imagine how many others they could be forwarding my "stuff" too? YIKES

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine.

[girl_dee]

I get Hello Kitty pics by text when I am stressing about something.

Now that's love!

[Sassy]

I almost understand significant others who get jealous about their person/partner flirting with others? But then, I only almost understand monogamy, so I know I'm out of the loop on that one. Jealousy just doesn't run deep in my bones.

But I definitely don't understand people/persons who get offended when an acquaintance or even a stranger flirts with them.

I've always thought of flirting as a fun past-time that mutually bolsters egos. Being flirted with means someone found you cute, or smart, or funny... it's like a verbal exchange offered in reward for your ability to interest another person or engage with them on whatever level.

It's the oldest game in the world. It's generally harmless. It's a compliment. Smile and fire back what you've got. If you're not interested, smile and say so and you or I will shrug and move on. Nothing lost. And at least two people shared a smile.

For my sake, by all means, should you ever meet a 5-foot something gal w/green cat eyes and freckles and think she is cute/smart/funny, say so -- it might be me and I might need cheering up that day!

[Lady Pamela]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine.

Ok, normally I shut my mouth and show true respect to everyone on the site.
But I must say, I truely seen alot of disrespect on this post and it is not needed.
Can't we all just post our own opinions out of respect? Without making it into a rivalry?
This isn't which person flirts the best. And surely is not ok to bring names not associated to the post into it.

Sorry just speaking MY POINT OF VIEW.

[princessbelle]

And if i may point out please....

I in no way dissed or starting this thing with UofMfan. I really wish my name had not been brought up at all. UofM and I are friends and have been for a long time. I would never diss anyone's opinion including UofM's, no matter what it is. And certainly not about something as personal as flirting.

This whole thing is disrespectful IMO and beginning to get out of hand.

To each his/her own way of looking at things.

I hope the convo can just carry on as it was intended because it is a great subject.

I'm outta.