What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

starryeyes · 01-05-2012, 02:36 PM

1. Treat me like the special woman that I am.
2. Must kiss me good morning and good night every day! No excuses!
3. Let go, laugh and be silly.

:-D

Library_girl · 01-05-2012, 02:57 PM

I would like to echo Starryeyes, my homegirl.

In addition, my top 3 non-negotiables are:
1. Must have employment (or retirement or trust fund or whatever)
2. Must be an excellent kisser
3. Must be affectionate and sweet, publicly and privately
4. Must be respectful and supportive of my life, career, and pursuits
5. Must love dogs, cats, basically all critters
6. Must tolerate my astonishingly poor mathematical skills (like listing 6 things for a Top 3!)

EmpressM · 01-05-2012, 11:46 PM

1. Must be a stable adult. To me, this means you make responsible decisions, financially, emotionally, etc. You are emotionally available, have learned from your past mistakes without allowing them to impede your present. Know who you are and what you want.

2. Active, playful, silly, funny, a dreamer and enjoy spending time with me. I'm really not one to sit around. I'll try anything at least once and like most things. I like being out in the world and appreciate and relish my time in it!

I'm also one to take a calculated risks and work hard for them, to give and receive what I want out of life and to reach my goals.

3. Passionate about the things that matter to you and the relationship. I need to be kissed, hugged, cuddled, and ravished on a regular basis. Generally speaking, when someone consistently endures things they aren't passionate about, it wears on other aspects of their lives, most often their personal relationships.

Honey · 01-06-2012, 03:17 AM

1. Conviction of mind & spirit
2. Great sex drive
3. Madly, truly, deeply, endlessly, in love with me

Venus007 · 01-06-2012, 06:03 AM

1. Kind heart
2. Rational mind
3. Sensual soulfulness
4. Bonus add on... Likes and respects solitude

jac · 01-06-2012, 06:19 AM

Must leave pets outside of the bedroom. I love my sleep and play time waaaaaay too much to have an audience or extra critter-like participant hanging around.

Must have an equal-to level of a sex drive. Companionship is great but I definitely need more than that. I need physical satisfaction.

Must be willing to entertain self and enjoy alone time. As a Pisces, I most certainly do... and I don't want to be made to feel guilty or inconsiderate for having my own personal alone time moments.

1QuirkyKiwi · 01-06-2012, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by stone4play

Must have an equal-to level of a sex drive. Companionship is great but I definitely need more than that. I need physical satisfaction.

Must be willing to entertain self and enjoy alone time. As a Pisces, I most certainly do... and I don't want to be made to feel guilty or inconsiderate for having my own personal alone time moments.

Alone time doesn't mean I don't love my partner or want to be with them....it means I need time to process my own thoughts and feelings and do my own things. Sadly, that is not always understood and I hate feeling as if I'm being suffocated by my partner.

We each had lives before we met and we should be able to blend both our lives as seperate people and a couple together....easier said than done, though!

01-05-2012, 02:36 PM	#1
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,051 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	1. Treat me like the special woman that I am. 2. Must kiss me good morning and good night every day! No excuses! 3. Let go, laugh and be silly. :-D __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

01-05-2012, 02:57 PM	#2
Library_girl Member How Do You Identify?: Old School Femme, girl, babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, & other girly words Relationship Status: Married to DJ Bear Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Happily married in Nevada Posts: 378 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,113 Thanked 1,247 Times in 280 Posts Rep Power: 13864639	I would like to echo Starryeyes, my homegirl. In addition, my top 3 non-negotiables are: 1. Must have employment (or retirement or trust fund or whatever) 2. Must be an excellent kisser 3. Must be affectionate and sweet, publicly and privately 4. Must be respectful and supportive of my life, career, and pursuits 5. Must love dogs, cats, basically all critters 6. Must tolerate my astonishingly poor mathematical skills (like listing 6 things for a Top 3!) __________________

01-05-2012, 11:46 PM	#3
EmpressM Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: texas Posts: 243 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 925 Thanked 630 Times in 180 Posts Rep Power: 9170942	My three... 1. Must be a stable adult. To me, this means you make responsible decisions, financially, emotionally, etc. You are emotionally available, have learned from your past mistakes without allowing them to impede your present. Know who you are and what you want. 2. Active, playful, silly, funny, a dreamer and enjoy spending time with me. I'm really not one to sit around. I'll try anything at least once and like most things. I like being out in the world and appreciate and relish my time in it! I'm also one to take a calculated risks and work hard for them, to give and receive what I want out of life and to reach my goals. 3. Passionate about the things that matter to you and the relationship. I need to be kissed, hugged, cuddled, and ravished on a regular basis. Generally speaking, when someone consistently endures things they aren't passionate about, it wears on other aspects of their lives, most often their personal relationships. __________________ I'm not going to change the way I look or the way I feel to conform to anything. I've always been a freak. So I've been a freak all my life and I have to live with that, you know. I'm one of those people. ~John Lennon

01-06-2012, 06:03 AM	#5
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01-06-2012, 03:17 AM	#4
Honey Member How Do You Identify?: big femme heart..... in a tight girlie package Preferred Pronoun?: just call me Honey Relationship Status: Playin' 4 keeps with Tomboi1982 Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New England Posts: 306 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 316 Thanked 613 Times in 184 Posts Rep Power: 10762767	1. Conviction of mind & spirit 2. Great sex drive 3. Madly, truly, deeply, endlessly, in love with me

01-06-2012, 06:19 AM	#6
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