Lessons Learned: Would You or Would You Not.....

[Jett]

Like decades ago a group of clique-y uptight lesbians told a woman who I was dating I was bad news because I was a wild one, party, rock & roll, black leather etc.... thankfully she listened to her heart about me because now that's she's older and has some health issues I'm the ONLY one out to her house helping her, making sure she still has gardens every year, fixing her house for her even know they are all still around and friends with her... I'm like just stop w/ the holier than thou talk peoples (not you peoples ; ) and walk the walk...

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by Jett

Like decades ago a group of clique-y uptight lesbians told a woman who I was dating I was bad news because I was a wild one, party, rock & roll, black leather etc.... thankfully she listened to her heart about me because now that's she's older and has some health issues I'm the ONLY one out to her house helping her, making sure she still has gardens every year, fixing her house for her even know they are all still around and friends with her... I'm like just stop w/ the holier than thou talk peoples (not you peoples ; ) and walk the walk...

Things are not always as they appear. I have a little 23 year old, tattooed, piercings everywhere, purple haired, maybe 90 pound little baby dyke who pulled up for a job. A few people looked at me like I was crazy but I believe in giving everyone a chance, at least once. She out worked any man out here and people twice her age. I enjoy doing things for her- maybe buying her a shirt, a jacket, extra gas money, etc. Her roommate, who I also know, made a comment that I was a dirty old woman coming onto her. Needless to say it was gossip and the furthest thing on my mind. I like them younger but not younger then my son! I enjoy helping her because she deserves someone to give her a chance. People would rather talk about her.

You know I hear so much shit about me from third parties. I even hear gossip stemming from people I don't even know. I am convinced that it is driven by jealousy and insecurity. All things I am not, therefore I refuse to contribute. The best proof of this is that the people that talk the most do the least and within a reasonable amount of time vanish. I've learned that its best just to let the natural order of things play out. If someone needs to know something that bad, (or know me for that matter) they will invest the time and not listen to others.

Sometimes I wish someone would have warned me about a few people I could have done without in my life, however in hindsight I see how necessary the journey. Even if they had said something I probably would have still checked it out for myself.