older femmes

[smouldering]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

What quarters have you experienced this in? I'm no spring chicken and haven't experienced it here or anywhere else..

Or maybe I didn't notice, there are some folks who are into Older Femme younger _____ kinda relationships, fucks, trists, rolls in the hay, gatherings, in bars.....

Agreed, I haven't noticed any ageism going on anywhere either, I mean besides the obvious threads that are geared towards those who are under 30. But then again, unless someone specifically gives their name, i just post under the assumption they are at least 18. I am sorry you've experienced that

[clay]

nor have I.....all the sandboxes are welcoming...and they all play nicely!!

[ButchEire]

Speaking for myself, it's about a femme's maturity, which has nothing to do with age. Not sure where you're feeling like you don't fit in but certainly, if people attempt to make you feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, it isn't your problem, it's theirs.

[Scuba]

Make that another who has not been subjected to ageism. I spend most of my time in the threads and very little in chat but have found both places very welcoming nonetheless. I agree with ButchEire...don't the let the actions of a few ruin your experience here.

Cheers,

Scoobs

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

As a femme who will turn 60 next month (Holy shit, batman!), I think for ME, any ageism I may have felt was probably self-inflicted. And projected. I have been scared, and self-conscious about my age, figuring that there would be no one out there who would want someone like ME. Bah!

I have spoken to a few butches on here, that may have started out "hot and heavy" and yeah, they may have cooled soon after we BOTH found the difference in ages. No problem, no foul, what we ended up with is a friendship. I *like* friends, don't know about anyone else.

I have come to accept just what an amazing woman I AM, what a great wonderful hot catch I will be, and no one but ME can take that away from me. I have decided to guard that about me now. I know there are some young studs that may just not get what I could offer. Truth be told, I don't actually think I WANT to offer that to just anyone anymore. I want to offer my best to someone that can actually take it and appreciate it for what it is.

Personally, I am talking to a woman right now, a butch that is going to be 48 next month. We talked about the age difference, long and hard. She has only ever dated women her age or younger, never someone older at all. She and I both had to decide if this is something that we could work with. We have decided to take a chance and continue getting to know each other. Great!

I will tell you this.... she told me this morning when I spoke to her, that I was "scary hot".... I wasn't sure what that meant or if I should be offended and hurt... she said that she has never known a woman who has as much to offer, physically, emotionally, mentally, intellectually as I have shown in the time I have known her. She wants more... of ME, the almost-60 yr old woman! How cool is THAT????

You will find someone. We all will. I only know for ME that I had to find ME first before someone else could find me, and appreciate me.

[Lady Pamela]

Pssst...Maturity is a sexy quality..smiles
And I have noticed most people on here value it highly.

There has been a couple times I was degraded here..actually almost left. But much to my suprise..people stopped me.

I really do not think this is about AGE honestly.

I see it more as people acting imature due to seeing something in you they lack. Or that they want and are threatened.

Pay it no mind..it goes away shortly...smiling

Be proud of your age..You earned every second, every grey hair and every beautiful wriknle you have.!

[Apocalipstic]

How older?

There seem to be a whole sexy set of Butches of all ages into older Femmes!