older femmes

Gemme · 01-22-2012, 10:59 PM

I just had a lovely conversation with someone recently who had spent more than ten years in a relationship with a femme 20 years her senior. They had a lovely relationship. It can be just as successful as any relationship, whether there's age differences or not. It's not the numbers that count; it is the people.

Arwen · 01-23-2012, 12:04 AM

I'm ageist.

There. I said it.

I've dated people much younger (18 years) than me. They were sexy, hot, and rocked my world. Did we have differences due to the age gap? Yes. Were they insurmountable? No.

Did it bother me that I was a year older than his mother?

Yes, absolutely.

As the "scary hot" APG stated, I made more about the age difference than mr. younger butch (who is a member here). He never brought it up. I did all the time.

In the end, age wasn't what caused us to part as lovers--it was another hangup on my side. We are still good friends (thank goodness).

I am now involved with someone who is 3 years younger. For me, this works better.

And it is simply my hangup with the age gap so I learned that about me.

To the OP's question, about not being accepted in certain quarters, I am going to assume that's in your community?

Check meetup.com. I know Austin's Lesbian meetup has an older group meetup as well as an under 30 meetup.

SugarFemme · 01-23-2012, 12:19 AM

Unless I am totally oblivious, and I can honestly say I am not. I have NEVER encountered any issues regarding my age. I am fifty. AARP won't let me forget it, as they send me a membership kit every single month. (I'm NOT gonna join, so quit sending em LOL) I personally like myself better at fifty than I did even when I was forty. I am more comfortable in my own skin. I know what I want. Where I have been and where I want to end up. I feel like I really came into who I am in the past few years. Everyone is different, but this is my experience.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 11:01 AM

I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 12:27 PM

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude

I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

Ya. I think I'm gonna be moving this into the Femme section as it's not really a troubleshooting or Question about the website itself (which is what this forum is for).

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

Ya. I think I'm gonna be moving this into the Femme section as it's not really a troubleshooting or Question about the website itself (which is what this forum is for).

After discussing this with the mods, Medusa pointed out the Fine Wine forum. This is a more appropriate location for this thread.

Dude · 01-23-2012, 12:38 PM

I think a troubleshooting section for
relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but
I hear what your laying down.

eh now my post's wont make sense
but what else is new

Linus · 01-23-2012, 12:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude

I think a troubleshooting section for
relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but
I hear what your laying down.

eh now my post's wont make sense
but what else is new

Heh.. could be dangerous. A relationship troubleshooting thread in the Relationship forum makes sense. BUT would need heavy caveats as it could lead to some serious drama if questions asked aren't done with appropriate consideration.

01-22-2012, 10:59 PM	#1
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01-23-2012, 12:04 AM	#2
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,108 Times in 6,412 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	I'm ageist. There. I said it. I've dated people much younger (18 years) than me. They were sexy, hot, and rocked my world. Did we have differences due to the age gap? Yes. Were they insurmountable? No. Did it bother me that I was a year older than his mother? Yes, absolutely. As the "scary hot" APG stated, I made more about the age difference than mr. younger butch (who is a member here). He never brought it up. I did all the time. In the end, age wasn't what caused us to part as lovers--it was another hangup on my side. We are still good friends (thank goodness). I am now involved with someone who is 3 years younger. For me, this works better. And it is simply my hangup with the age gap so I learned that about me. To the OP's question, about not being accepted in certain quarters, I am going to assume that's in your community? Check meetup.com. I know Austin's Lesbian meetup has an older group meetup as well as an under 30 meetup. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

01-23-2012, 12:27 PM	#5
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	cant resist posting this

01-23-2012, 12:19 AM	#3
SugarFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Southwest Posts: 1,029 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 650 Thanked 4,458 Times in 854 Posts Rep Power*: 21474851	Unless I am totally oblivious, and I can honestly say I am not. I have NEVER encountered any issues regarding my age. I am fifty. AARP won't let me forget it, as they send me a membership kit every single month. (I'm NOT gonna join, so quit sending em LOL) I personally like myself better at fifty than I did even when I was forty. I am more comfortable in my own skin. I know what I want. Where I have been and where I want to end up. I feel like I really came into who I am in the past few years. Everyone is different, but this is my experience.

01-23-2012, 11:01 AM	#4
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I love that this thread is in the troubleshooting section.

01-23-2012, 12:38 PM	#8
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think a troubleshooting section for relationship's is genius. not sure it would really help but I hear what your laying down. eh now my post's wont make sense but what else is new