Non-monogamy survey for psych class - will you help?

WingsOnFire · 02-04-2012, 02:40 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes I am in a committed long term relationship and am engaged to my partner.
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?queer
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? Yes, we have an open relationship and have discussed either adding a third to our relationship and/or seeking another that compliments our relationship. We would remain the primary relationship.
If so, why? If not, why not? We both feel that one person can not meet every need in a person. If there happens to be someone else who meets needs not met in the current relationship then we both are open to that. For example, we are in a D/s relationship. I also have a babygirl side and I am open to accepting another as my Daddy if the right person were to come along. We just no longer fit both categories I prefer D/s with him.

girl_dee · 02-04-2012, 02:52 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Femme
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?
If so, why? If not, why not? We are a poly household of 3, i am the second wife in the house.

, there are no plans for dating outside of our household, happy household

Martina · 02-04-2012, 03:14 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 53
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? female and femme
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?

This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side.

i am the sub of a couple. i am not partnered with either. They are partnered with one another.

If so, why? If not, why not?

aishah · 02-04-2012, 03:43 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship?
yes, i'm in two actually. one for 6 years, the other for a year. we make life decisions together and are in the process of moving in together. if we could, we'd be married

we've had non-legally-binding commitments to one another but even that is technically illegal, especially if you're living together.

Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?
queer

Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine?
18-29 (i'm 24)

Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other?
femme

If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?
If so, why? If not, why not?
they are and i do

right now i'm not necessarily seeking out other sexual partners (i wasn't actually when i met my second long-term partner either, although i'd been in other relationships before that) but i don't discount new possibilities, either. both of my partners are monogamous but they're very accepting of each other and of the fact that i am polyamorous. if they wanted to seek other relationships i'd be happy for them. i know a lot of people have "primary" and "secondary" relationships but that configuration has never worked for me - no one relationship is more important than any other, although there has to be a certain level of long-term commitment to make life decisions or move in with someone. but neither of my partners is "primary."

aishah · 02-04-2012, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side.

this is a huge pet peeve of mine as well.

02-04-2012, 02:40 PM	#1
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes I am in a committed long term relationship and am engaged to my partner. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? Yes, we have an open relationship and have discussed either adding a third to our relationship and/or seeking another that compliments our relationship. We would remain the primary relationship. If so, why? If not, why not? We both feel that one person can not meet every need in a person. If there happens to be someone else who meets needs not met in the current relationship then we both are open to that. For example, we are in a D/s relationship. I also have a babygirl side and I am open to accepting another as my Daddy if the right person were to come along. We just no longer fit both categories I prefer D/s with him. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png Last edited by WingsOnFire; 02-04-2012 at 02:44 PM. Reason: color issue

02-04-2012, 02:52 PM	#2
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,828 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? If so, why? If not, why not? We are a poly household of 3, i am the second wife in the house. , there are no plans for dating outside of our household, happy household

02-04-2012, 03:14 PM	#3
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,280 Times in 4,165 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 53 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? female and femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? This assumes that there is a dyad, that all poly is dyad based. This is a pet peeve of mine, that people make the assumption that poly is just having someone on the side. i am the sub of a couple. i am not partnered with either. They are partnered with one another. If so, why? If not, why not?

02-04-2012, 03:43 PM	#4
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,439 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes, i'm in two actually. one for 6 years, the other for a year. we make life decisions together and are in the process of moving in together. if we could, we'd be married we've had non-legally-binding commitments to one another but even that is technically illegal, especially if you're living together. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 18-29 (i'm 24) Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? If so, why? If not, why not? they are and i do right now i'm not necessarily seeking out other sexual partners (i wasn't actually when i met my second long-term partner either, although i'd been in other relationships before that) but i don't discount new possibilities, either. both of my partners are monogamous but they're very accepting of each other and of the fact that i am polyamorous. if they wanted to seek other relationships i'd be happy for them. i know a lot of people have "primary" and "secondary" relationships but that configuration has never worked for me - no one relationship is more important than any other, although there has to be a certain level of long-term commitment to make life decisions or move in with someone. but neither of my partners is "primary."