Non-monogamy survey for psych class - will you help?

Laerkin · 02-04-2012, 10:12 PM

Thanks for all of the feedback and education, everyone! I love it.

DamonK · 02-04-2012, 11:36 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 18-29
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Transgendered
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? Yes
If so, why? If not, why not? We're already in an open relationship. I can't fulfill every need of hers, nor she mine. It's not fair to expect one person to "be all" for another. It's simply not possible. I want the "whole" to be happy. If that means more than one person, so be it.

macele · 02-04-2012, 11:36 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? No.

Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Lesbian.

Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 45

Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female.

If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? No.

If so, why? If not, why not? o firecracker! no! i can't focus on but one thing at a time lol. the idea of being in love is total tunnel vision. she's the only one for me. i want her to be my only need. it's she and i or nothing. i get jealous. and i want her to be. (in a healthy way.) the union of 2 people is a vow, a promise. the very core of a relationship is not sex. it's devotion, ... in my case, it's singular.

i don't have to be committed to be in love. and i can be committed and not be in love. both are fine. sometimes a relationship is companionship or security, etc ... , not being in love.

i've thought about, can someone be in love with two people at once? i think it can happen, ... to a certain degree. but i sure wouldn't want to be that someone.

thank you, Laerkin. hope all goes great.

Laerkin · 02-05-2012, 02:20 PM

Thanks, macele! Everyone's input is really making a difference!

Massive · 02-05-2012, 02:39 PM

I completed your online version of this survey, hope it helps you complete your degree, if you need more indepth questions answered just let me know.

The Oopster · 02-05-2012, 03:37 PM

also completed the online version. Likewise if you need things answered further let me know!

02-05-2012, 02:39 PM	#5
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02-04-2012, 10:12 PM	#1
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366972	Thanks for all of the feedback and education, everyone! I love it.

02-04-2012, 11:36 PM	#2
DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 18-29 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Transgendered If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? Yes If so, why? If not, why not? We're already in an open relationship. I can't fulfill every need of hers, nor she mine. It's not fair to expect one person to "be all" for another. It's simply not possible. I want the "whole" to be happy. If that means more than one person, so be it.

02-04-2012, 11:36 PM	#3
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? No. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Lesbian. Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 45 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female. If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? No. If so, why? If not, why not? o firecracker! no! i can't focus on but one thing at a time lol. the idea of being in love is total tunnel vision. she's the only one for me. i want her to be my only need. it's she and i or nothing. i get jealous. and i want her to be. (in a healthy way.) the union of 2 people is a vow, a promise. the very core of a relationship is not sex. it's devotion, ... in my case, it's singular. i don't have to be committed to be in love. and i can be committed and not be in love. both are fine. sometimes a relationship is companionship or security, etc ... , not being in love. i've thought about, can someone be in love with two people at once? i think it can happen, ... to a certain degree. but i sure wouldn't want to be that someone. thank you, Laerkin. hope all goes great.

02-05-2012, 02:20 PM	#4
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366972	Thanks, macele! Everyone's input is really making a difference!

02-05-2012, 03:37 PM	#6
The Oopster Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transgender male Preferred Pronoun?: he Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: carson city nv Posts: 1,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,655 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 20061509	also completed the online version. Likewise if you need things answered further let me know!