VANILLA THREAD Who can initiate sex in your relationship? VANILLA THREAD

Okiebug61 · 02-07-2012, 06:50 AM

I'm a light butch and it is equal opportunity in our bedroom. We are both in our 50's now an frankly when the sparks are flying I'm not about to douse them out with a no. :-)

Stitch · 02-07-2012, 07:49 AM

I'm a boi

I love it when someone else initiates sex, or even just kisses me out of the blue. it makes me feel wanted and helps my confidence sometimes.
Also, sometimes I need it because I need to be hit with a 2x4 to figure out whether someone likes me or not.

However, if I am upset I hate it when she tries to initiate sex thinking that is going to cheer me up. It kind of makes me angry and I say no.
I would rather have someone just hug me and spend time with me instead.

OS Butch · 02-07-2012, 08:10 AM

I may be an Old School Butch, but I am perfectly ok with not always being responsible for initiating intimate times. Sometimes, being a senior, it may require a 2x4 to get my attention...other times a little kiss on my neck gets my little old motor going.

Gemme · 02-07-2012, 09:36 AM

I am femme and I like the flexibility in my relationships of either partner feeling comfortable enough to engage the other in any intimate endeavor.

It feeds both souls to know that not only are they still desirable and attractive to the other, but that they can give their partner what their partner wants and needs. That they are both the fuel and the fire to their partner. That's hot on a variety of levels.

02-07-2012, 06:50 AM	#1
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm a light butch and it is equal opportunity in our bedroom. We are both in our 50's now an frankly when the sparks are flying I'm not about to douse them out with a no. :-) __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

02-07-2012, 07:49 AM	#2
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008424	I'm a boi I love it when someone else initiates sex, or even just kisses me out of the blue. it makes me feel wanted and helps my confidence sometimes. Also, sometimes I need it because I need to be hit with a 2x4 to figure out whether someone likes me or not. However, if I am upset I hate it when she tries to initiate sex thinking that is going to cheer me up. It kind of makes me angry and I say no. I would rather have someone just hug me and spend time with me instead. __________________ ~ Let me show you baby I'm a talented boi ~

02-07-2012, 08:10 AM	#3
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988704	I may be an Old School Butch, but I am perfectly ok with not always being responsible for initiating intimate times. Sometimes, being a senior, it may require a 2x4 to get my attention...other times a little kiss on my neck gets my little old motor going. __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

02-07-2012, 09:36 AM	#4
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,914 Times in 25,666 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	I am femme and I like the flexibility in my relationships of either partner feeling comfortable enough to engage the other in any intimate endeavor. It feeds both souls to know that not only are they still desirable and attractive to the other, but that they can give their partner what their partner wants and needs. That they are both the fuel and the fire to their partner. That's hot on a variety of levels. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.