Is Living Alone Making You Weird?

foxyshaman · 02-26-2012, 11:51 PM

The last 1.5 years I have lived alone for the first time in my life. The first few months were weird. I kept expecting the kids to come at all hours. And then slowly the 'freedom' started to move into me. We became friends.

This is also the first time I have been single AND lived alone. So, I feel like I am in a really exciting place.

Will I get weirder... laughing... by whose standards?? <says the dangerously dorky dyke who refers to herself as a fox> <smiley widely>

Ciaran · 02-27-2012, 01:02 AM

I don't talk to my pets - I don't have any so if I talked to them it would be a bit wierd I guess.

I do talk to my stuffed Kermit and occasionally grope him too. I don't think that this is too wierd given that, as he cannot answer back, he tends to implicitly share my outlook on life (good) and, as for the groping, we'll at least he doesn't expect me to take him out for a meal before or afterwards so it's cheaper on my wallet.

See, even what may seem wierd at the outset can have a perfectly rational explanation ........

Kätzchen · 07-26-2014, 07:43 AM

It's been about 7 weeks now that I've been on my own, but I think if anything about me has changed, I'm thinking that it has to be this deep need to have someone to talk with and share about everyday life.

Other than that and a few other items of interest, life seems to be full of new discoveries.

And I find that enchanting and beautiful.

cricket26 · 07-26-2014, 07:53 AM

yes...that is all...

Diablo · 07-26-2014, 10:35 AM

living alone is fabulous ...until its not. I miss my wife....i miss waking up next to her...i miss coffee together...i miss parts of sharing my life..and living with her. Then.....i LOVE living alone..i love having a clean apt. Money...i love having MY money...and having it. I love knowing where stuff is...i love coming and going as i please....i find myself...enjoying my alone time more than enjoying my time with friends.....i LOVE the quiet......the ease...of just being....alone.......i think this isnt always healthy or good for me.

Gemme · 07-26-2014, 06:54 PM

I'm with the general consensus that I was weird before I started living alone.

I prefer living alone and it tends to be safer for the general population.

If I don't like the paint on the walls, I'm the only one that's going to bitch about it. Or not. If I forgot to take something out for dinner, I'm the only one who has to make the decision to patchwork something from the fridge or go get something. And, if going out, where to go. I only have to fight the sofa cushions for the remote and I usually win. I'm a total bed hog and that's best when there's no one for me to have to bully. It's not pretty.

On the flip side, I have no one to blame when I lose shit or forget to do something important.

Maybe I should get a pet.

Kelt · 07-26-2014, 09:27 PM

I don't think I'm weird, and I love living alone. I tried the live-together bit, three times, two years each, all in my twenties. Each time I started feeling trapped at about six months but tried to stick it out. Bad idea for everyone involved.

I've lived alone for the last twenty five years and wouldn't change a thing. I have been partnered and single, and I have been pressured hard to "be normal". I am normal, perhaps more normal than most, I'm happy when many are miserable for the sake of.. what? I have no need to share the joys of housework. I will live down the hall, across the street, or upstairs. But not with. I know my limits and respect those of others.

I'm glad so many want to and do live together, but it isn't for me.

Gemme, get a cat! They're the bee's knee's, well not so much but you know.

Calicos are best. And yes, I talk to my cat all the time. She is mute, literally not figuratively, so we're a matched set.

02-26-2012, 11:51 PM	#1
foxyshaman Member How Do You Identify?: spiritually minded dirt dog Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: canada Posts: 898 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 2,592 Times in 663 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	The last 1.5 years I have lived alone for the first time in my life. The first few months were weird. I kept expecting the kids to come at all hours. And then slowly the 'freedom' started to move into me. We became friends. This is also the first time I have been single AND lived alone. So, I feel like I am in a really exciting place. Will I get weirder... laughing... by whose standards?? <says the dangerously dorky dyke who refers to herself as a fox> <smiley widely> __________________ Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Muriel Strode

07-26-2014, 07:43 AM	#3
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, please. Relationship Status: Attached to my granddaughter and chosen family. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Northwest of Mt Hood ツ Posts: 16,071 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,889 Thanked 33,521 Times in 10,647 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	It's been about 7 weeks now that I've been on my own, but I think if anything about me has changed, I'm thinking that it has to be this deep need to have someone to talk with and share about everyday life. Other than that and a few other items of interest, life seems to be full of new discoveries. And I find that enchanting and beautiful. __________________ “Leadership is not a title or a position. Leadership is action and example,” — Senator Corey Booker.

07-26-2014, 06:54 PM	#6
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,957 Times in 25,668 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	I'm with the general consensus that I was weird before I started living alone. I prefer living alone and it tends to be safer for the general population. If I don't like the paint on the walls, I'm the only one that's going to bitch about it. Or not. If I forgot to take something out for dinner, I'm the only one who has to make the decision to patchwork something from the fridge or go get something. And, if going out, where to go. I only have to fight the sofa cushions for the remote and I usually win. I'm a total bed hog and that's best when there's no one for me to have to bully. It's not pretty. On the flip side, I have no one to blame when I lose shit or forget to do something important. Maybe I should get a pet. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

02-27-2012, 01:02 AM	#2
Ciaran Member How Do You Identify?: Altocalciphilic Preferred Pronoun?: Papa Smurf Relationship Status: Curmudgeonous spinster Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London (but from Belfast) Posts: 678 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 471 Thanked 3,654 Times in 602 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I don't talk to my pets - I don't have any so if I talked to them it would be a bit wierd I guess. I do talk to my stuffed Kermit and occasionally grope him too. I don't think that this is too wierd given that, as he cannot answer back, he tends to implicitly share my outlook on life (good) and, as for the groping, we'll at least he doesn't expect me to take him out for a meal before or afterwards so it's cheaper on my wallet. See, even what may seem wierd at the outset can have a perfectly rational explanation ........

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cricket26 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: must be love on the brain Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 1,593 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 978 Thanked 4,242 Times in 1,302 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	yes...that is all...

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Diablo Timed Out - Identity Issues How Do You Identify?: HUMAN Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Earth Posts: 843 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,128 Thanked 1,618 Times in 623 Posts Rep Power: 0	living alone is fabulous ...until its not. I miss my wife....i miss waking up next to her...i miss coffee together...i miss parts of sharing my life..and living with her. Then.....i LOVE living alone..i love having a clean apt. Money...i love having MY money...and having it. I love knowing where stuff is...i love coming and going as i please....i find myself...enjoying my alone time more than enjoying my time with friends.....i LOVE the quiet......the ease...of just being....alone.......i think this isnt always healthy or good for me.

07-26-2014, 09:27 PM	#7
Kelt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Beach Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 2,751 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19,765 Thanked 15,289 Times in 2,539 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I don't think I'm weird, and I love living alone. I tried the live-together bit, three times, two years each, all in my twenties. Each time I started feeling trapped at about six months but tried to stick it out. Bad idea for everyone involved. I've lived alone for the last twenty five years and wouldn't change a thing. I have been partnered and single, and I have been pressured hard to "be normal". I am normal, perhaps more normal than most, I'm happy when many are miserable for the sake of.. what? I have no need to share the joys of housework. I will live down the hall, across the street, or upstairs. But not with. I know my limits and respect those of others. I'm glad so many want to and do live together, but it isn't for me. Gemme, get a cat! They're the bee's knee's, well not so much but you know. Calicos are best. And yes, I talk to my cat all the time. She is mute, literally not figuratively, so we're a matched set.