Important things I learned from past relationships

MysticOceansFL · 03-06-2012, 10:08 PM

My mistakes plus how strong I am in my believes and faith.

Silverseastar · 03-06-2012, 10:43 PM

I learned about pure love, the kind that endures even when the "relationship" ends. My exes are with a very rare exception like family to me. Once I love I love forever.

I've learned to keep my heart open and free even if it means loss. Truth is we always lose in love even if we find the love of our life and are lucky to stay together forever, we someday lose them to death.

Arwen · 03-06-2012, 11:33 PM

I learned:

That I do like sushi
That I am stronger than I ever thought
That I am able to make and break relationships without leaving myself or taking them apart
That I can go to the movies all by myself
That I can stand up for myself
That I can maintain meaningful friendships that don't require anyone getting nekkid
That I can depend on another human being but not be devastated when they turn to be, you know, human
That my sexual preferences lean wayyyyyyy towards the left of vanilla. Way way way left
That I'm sexy when I'm confident

jac · 03-07-2012, 12:44 AM

Important things I learned from past relationships...

Who I was then is not who I am now.
I strive to grow and learn from each past relationship respectively.
I do have a voice.
I am more willing to forgive and forget than to harbor ill feelings toward the one I claim to love.
Communication is absolutely key to a successful relationship.
Disagreements are truly healthy as long as they are resolved through love and understanding.
If you put the mind, body, soul perspective into the relationship, as with anything, you can never go wrong.
There is always room for improvement...

BullDog · 03-07-2012, 01:06 AM

That it is worth the risk leaving a comfortable, long term relationship to go after what you truly need and want (even if it does take more than 10 years to find it)

That it is far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

Spending that time being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and gain confidence that you really are not desperate and you will wait for the right relationship to come along and if it doesn't you will be just fine.

That all the mistakes and stumbles along the way do help prepare you for the right relationship and helps you appreciate it even more.

girl_dee · 03-07-2012, 06:27 AM

i've also learned what i will not put up with

i've learned not to stretch the hard limits, that never works

christeymg · 06-25-2012, 07:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BullDog

That it is worth the risk leaving a comfortable, long term relationship to go after what you truly need and want (even if it does take more than 10 years to find it)

That it is far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

Spending that time being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and gain confidence that you really are not desperate and you will wait for the right relationship to come along and if it doesn't you will be just fine.

That all the mistakes and stumbles along the way do help prepare you for the right relationship and helps you appreciate it even more.

I couldn't have said it any better. That's where I am right now except I'm still waiting to meet the one I need and want. Right now I'm happy to just be me and really figure out what and who that is.

Prudence · 06-25-2012, 09:21 PM

I have learned that apparently, I haven"t learned.

Scuba · 06-25-2012, 10:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BullDog

That it is worth the risk leaving a comfortable, long term relationship to go after what you truly need and want (even if it does take more than 10 years to find it)

That it is far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

Spending that time being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and gain confidence that you really are not desperate and you will wait for the right relationship to come along and if it doesn't you will be just fine.

That all the mistakes and stumbles along the way do help prepare you for the right relationship and helps you appreciate it even more.

WORD!! AND WORD!!

lilapache · 06-26-2012, 11:55 AM

if your gut tells you something ain't right.... turn around and walk away...

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Silverseastar Member How Do You Identify?: femme, submissive, girl Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver BC Posts: 133 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 348 Thanked 492 Times in 107 Posts Rep Power: 3095523	I learned about pure love, the kind that endures even when the "relationship" ends. My exes are with a very rare exception like family to me. Once I love I love forever. I've learned to keep my heart open and free even if it means loss. Truth is we always lose in love even if we find the love of our life and are lucky to stay together forever, we someday lose them to death.

03-07-2012, 12:44 AM	#4
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03-07-2012, 06:27 AM	#6
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