Important things I learned from past relationships

Quintease · 03-08-2012, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by desd

From past relationships, I have learned:
I am gay *regardless* of how my partner IDs - it does not alter me.

Yes that! I've only had one lesbian question my lesbian label. It was one of those topsy turvy situations where she couldn't see my point of view and I couldn't see why she couldn't see.

It eventually came out that she didn't see herself as 100% gay despite being in a lesbian relationship, so couldn't wrap her head around why I still did, despite being with a man.

It's important to hold onto your own ID, which is something I'd learned in a previous (abusive) relationship.

BoDy*ShOt · 03-21-2012, 07:58 PM

that I had/have work to do on myself.. that I will not tolerate the things I used to.

aishah · 03-24-2012, 05:18 PM

sometimes people just aren't ready and no amount of me being ready, willing, able, and overcompensating can make it work. being madly in love with someone (even when they claim to feel the same way) is no reason to settle for a situation where they are incapable of giving anything emotionally. even though it sucks and it's really not anyone's fault that it sucks.

firegal · 03-24-2012, 05:24 PM

The calm of being alone......

Make sure life changing decision arent made under emotional duress!

03-21-2012, 07:58 PM	#2
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03-24-2012, 05:18 PM	#3
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03-24-2012, 05:24 PM	#4
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