Differently Abled (fly your freak flag high)

Words · 11-14-2009, 05:02 PM

Thank you, that was sweet of you. I feel the same way about your kids.

Re. the Swiss cheese analogy, I definitely hear you on that one. My daughter can't read or write, nor would she be able tell you our phone number, yet she would be able to remind you of something you needed to do a month or so after your asking her to remind you and, since she taught herself to tell the time, - the professionals didn't think she'd be able to learn - at the time you'd asked her to remind you. Unfortunately, though, she is often judged by others, especially those meeting her for the first time, on what she can't do, not what she can do.

A classic example. We went to visit a new therapist because of her behavioural problems. As is usual with professionals she's never met before, she was doing the poor helpless me routine, sitting there in silence, eyes to the ground, refusing to interact at all. Result? The therapist stopped addressing her directly and started talking about her, rather than to her. Eventually, he asked some really stupid question, the mere asking of which implied to me - and clearly, to my daughter as well - that he'd obviously written her off as being way less able than she actually is. At which point, in true unpredictable fashion, she turned to B/both of U/us and asked, ''What the fuck kind of questions are these?'' (hey, she has a 17-year-old potty mouth brother), thereby voicing what W/we were wondering O/ourselves. Not that I condone her swearing, but boy, did she teach that therapist a lesson in not judging a book by its cover.

Anyway, enough of my daughter

Best,

Words

SuperFemme · 11-14-2009, 05:22 PM

Your daughter is a HERO. Kudos!

Bit · 11-14-2009, 05:24 PM

Being different rules my life, although I fought against that for decades.... but yes, I too have chronic illnesses that have changed what I am able to do.

I think the thing which surprises me the most is that having fibromyalgia evidently messes with your brain in the same way that taking some drugs does... I needed no drugs to "open up" my psychic abilities... but I have to say, if my ardent childhood desire to be psychic is responsible for my getting fibro, well, THAT took a nasty turn! *horrified laugh*

SuperFemme · 11-14-2009, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Bit

Being different rules my life, although I fought against that for decades.... but yes, I too have chronic illnesses that have changed what I am able to do.

I think the thing which surprises me the most is that having fibromyalgia evidently messes with your brain in the same way that taking some drugs does... I needed no drugs to "open up" my psychic abilities... but I have to say, if my ardent childhood desire to be psychic is responsible for my getting fibro, well, THAT took a nasty turn! *horrified laugh*

Interesting Bit. Very interesting. I wonder is being differenlty abled allows us to connect to others in a simpler more empathic way.

11-14-2009, 05:02 PM	#1
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