Femme Invisibility?

LaneyDoll · 03-23-2012, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

Thank you Laney. I love being picked on . No apologizes needed, but I will take the chili dog since you offered. *smirk*

You are lucky I am not single. I may serve it to you on a 2 x 4.

lol

JAGG · 03-23-2012, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

You are lucky I am not single. I may serve it to you on a 2 x 4.

lol

Hey now you're talking my language, I would catch on to that ! HaHaHa

socialjustice_fsu · 03-23-2012, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

Hey now you're talking my language, I would catch on to that ! HaHaHa

Attention all Femmes:

What do you say about gethering up JAGG and hauling him to the lumber yard and let him get cozy with some of those 2 x 4's.

LaneyDoll · 03-23-2012, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by socialjustice_fsu

Attention all Femmes:

What do you say about gethering up JAGG and hauling him to the lumber yard and let him get cozy with some of those 2 x 4's.

I'm game! I have handcuffs and the skills to put them on you before you even realize they are there.

socialjustice_fsu · 03-23-2012, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

I'm game! I have handcuffs and the skills to put them on you before you even realize they are there.

OMG! The visual I have going on in my head is film-making worthy.

LaneyDoll · 03-23-2012, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by socialjustice_fsu

OMG! The visual I have going on in my head is film-making worthy.

So, a trip to the lumber yard, with a butchnapped Jagg, handcuffs AND a camera?

Sounds like a great weekend to me!

Gemme · 03-25-2012, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Sassy

I think this is more common than some gals might think.

When I met my SO she was friendly, but not willing to (in her words) "scare the straight girl" no matter how much I batted my lashes. So, I flat out asked her if she was single. After she said yes, I told her she looked delicious in those vintage jeans and asked if I could buy her dinner one Friday night. I wasn't creepy stalkerish in my approach. Just to the point. If it had gone the other way, no harm, no foul.

My opinion, Say Something. Even if they turn out to not be available, you may have made someone's day by just making them realize they've "still got it"

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Originally Posted by Martina

And saying something really flirty might make you assume we want to date you or as Snow says, get into your pants. i do not want to confuse anyone. i sure don't want to be rejected when i wasn't even on the make. So . . . .

That would be my hesitation in the direct approach. The natural assumption that I was interested in them even if all I wanted was to acknowledge them and be seen myself.

Of course, if they took it as attraction and asked me out.........

JAGG · 03-26-2012, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

So, a trip to the lumber yard, with a butchnapped Jagg, handcuffs AND a camera?

Sounds like a great weekend to me!

I may or may not have a similar fantasy about this very thing. LOL

Clyde · 02-27-2015, 04:54 PM

cricket26 · 02-27-2015, 09:47 PM

at the grocery store...i was getting my wallet from my purse...and saw barefeet with sandals...my gaze went up and i saw plaid shorts...further up i saw a butch with a dallas cowboys ski cap on her head walking by me at the check out....looking at me as if i were invisible...as the couple behind her walked by me i did not notice the husband, but the wife glared at me...i did not feel invisible to her..i managed to get my things rung up while the girls behind me watched my peculiar interactions with total strangers...and as i tried to make my way passed all of them i was invisible as all of them found a way to prevent me from passing...ugh...this happens to me every time i am at the store...sigh...

randrum · 02-28-2015, 12:16 AM

So I thought I'd add my two cents to this thread, because I find it interesting. Not sure what I have to say is worth that much though.

I'm completely oblivious. To everyone. It's not a matter of not knowing if a lady is femme or not. It's me being so lost in my own head and probably thinking about my own feelings of invisibility that I don't notice anyone around me in return.

And when it comes to a femme being interested in me or flirting with me? I'm definitely the butch you'll need a 2x4 with. Unless you make it 100% clear and obvious, I will not pick up on the subtly.

thedreamerin · 03-07-2015, 07:19 PM

I am completely invisible, as far as my status as a lesbian goes. For me it is kind of nifty. I kind of see it like this... by mistaking me for just any other heterosexual woman they are proving a point that I try to make everyday of my life.
We're all humans first.

Still, I guess it can be a bit frustrating because I have yet to get hit on by a woman in the physical.
Then again I am the type that you would have to be semi aggressive with to gain any headway because I live in my own little world.

femmeandstrong · 03-10-2015, 06:57 AM

Invisible can be so peaceful and my friends know how to find me...

BombsiteBoudicca · 03-11-2015, 03:55 AM

I totally understand the peacefulness that can come with invisibility, but I guess the older I get the more I want to scream "HERE!!!! OVER HERE!!!!"
The feminist in me (well, every bit of me is feminist but anyway....) resents the fact I need another human being to publicly define me. Yet I know deep down I need my butch/daddy to feel truly me. My head may be conflicted but my heart and panties love it ; )

Angeltoes · 11-14-2015, 12:50 AM

I see tons of cute butches when I'm out and about, but I get really weird responses when I try to flirt. I think I must look like a church girl from the suburbs. I still remember the one time a very attractive butch tried to flirt with me and I blew it off because I was upset about something. I think that memory will haunt me for the rest of my life..lol.

JDeere · 11-15-2015, 12:09 AM

My poor girlfriend is "invisible" but I don't think she has an issue with it or not, I am trying to get her into the realm of the butch-femme dance and such. IDK if I will succeed but at least I can try.

I read the femme's stories in here and it sounds a bit like how my g/f is perceived outside of the comfort of her home.

02-27-2015, 04:54 PM	#9
Clyde Member How Do You Identify?: Mr. Queer Butch. Preferred Pronoun?: He/They. Relationship Status: Butchelor. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland. Posts: 256 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 320 Thanked 700 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 11912190	<3 this

02-27-2015, 09:47 PM	#10
cricket26 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: must be love on the brain Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 1,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 978 Thanked 4,249 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	at the grocery store...i was getting my wallet from my purse...and saw barefeet with sandals...my gaze went up and i saw plaid shorts...further up i saw a butch with a dallas cowboys ski cap on her head walking by me at the check out....looking at me as if i were invisible...as the couple behind her walked by me i did not notice the husband, but the wife glared at me...i did not feel invisible to her..i managed to get my things rung up while the girls behind me watched my peculiar interactions with total strangers...and as i tried to make my way passed all of them i was invisible as all of them found a way to prevent me from passing...ugh...this happens to me every time i am at the store...sigh... __________________ Life is a long lesson in humility. James M. Barrie

02-28-2015, 12:16 AM	#11
randrum Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: Just call me G Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Cincinnati Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,480 Thanked 3,056 Times in 668 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	So I thought I'd add my two cents to this thread, because I find it interesting. Not sure what I have to say is worth that much though. I'm completely oblivious. To everyone. It's not a matter of not knowing if a lady is femme or not. It's me being so lost in my own head and probably thinking about my own feelings of invisibility that I don't notice anyone around me in return. And when it comes to a femme being interested in me or flirting with me? I'm definitely the butch you'll need a 2x4 with. Unless you make it 100% clear and obvious, I will not pick up on the subtly. __________________

03-07-2015, 07:19 PM	#12
thedreamerin Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, or miss Relationship Status: single Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: Texas Posts: 20 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 95 Times in 20 Posts Rep Power: 1073754	What people see.. I am completely invisible, as far as my status as a lesbian goes. For me it is kind of nifty. I kind of see it like this... by mistaking me for just any other heterosexual woman they are proving a point that I try to make everyday of my life. We're all humans first. Still, I guess it can be a bit frustrating because I have yet to get hit on by a woman in the physical. Then again I am the type that you would have to be semi aggressive with to gain any headway because I live in my own little world.

03-11-2015, 03:55 AM	#14
BombsiteBoudicca Junior Member How Do You Identify?: high femme/baby girl/girly girl/sometimes a femme daddy Preferred Pronoun?: Honey; darling; sexy Relationship Status: Daddy's girl Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: UK/USA Posts: 6 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 76 Thanked 27 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	head/heart I totally understand the peacefulness that can come with invisibility, but I guess the older I get the more I want to scream "HERE!!!! OVER HERE!!!!" The feminist in me (well, every bit of me is feminist but anyway....) resents the fact I need another human being to publicly define me. Yet I know deep down I need my butch/daddy to feel truly me. My head may be conflicted but my heart and panties love it ; ) __________________ *Our visions begin with our desires - Audre Lorde*

03-10-2015, 06:57 AM	#13
femmeandstrong Member How Do You Identify?: just me...imperfect but warm-hearted me Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: I am alright and still smiling - keeping my eyes on what lasts and matters Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: New England Posts: 325 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 352 Thanked 1,040 Times in 279 Posts Rep Power: 8187133	Invisible can be so peaceful and my friends know how to find me...

11-14-2015, 12:50 AM	#15
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,526 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I see tons of cute butches when I'm out and about, but I get really weird responses when I try to flirt. I think I must look like a church girl from the suburbs. I still remember the one time a very attractive butch tried to flirt with me and I blew it off because I was upset about something. I think that memory will haunt me for the rest of my life..lol.

11-15-2015, 12:09 AM	#16
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,835 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	My poor girlfriend is "invisible" but I don't think she has an issue with it or not, I am trying to get her into the realm of the butch-femme dance and such. IDK if I will succeed but at least I can try. I read the femme's stories in here and it sounds a bit like how my g/f is perceived outside of the comfort of her home.