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03-29-2012, 02:54 PM
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I love the idea of sending over a drink.
Someone can choose a soft drink if they prefer and The bartender can help you flirt. |
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03-29-2012, 05:20 PM
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At the Reunion, where obviously I already knew everyone was gay, a Butch just came up and simply said "Hi, I'm _____". Simple (unless you're very shy).
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03-29-2012, 07:14 PM
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I'm not very shy in general, but It would be very hard for me to go up to a stranger to chat or ask them to dance. I was thinking the bartender would be breaking the ice. I did initiate contact with Pete, but She was talking with someone I knew, and I was with a group of friends. |
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03-29-2012, 07:38 PM
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I can't approach anyone to save my life, but if I did, I would use Random's approach.
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03-29-2012, 07:46 PM
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[QUOTE=guihong;555760]I don't spend time in bars, either. I should qualify my statement by saying "no one I know accepts a drink sent over; they are too afraid of tampering". I know I wouldn't.
I don't go to bars either, but if a bartender made the drink themself, and served it to me, or had someone they knew serve it to me, how could it be tampered with?
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03-29-2012, 07:54 PM
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I'm just saying it's my rule that I don't accept drinks sent over. Besides my maybe irrational fear of tampering, sometimes it comes with strings attached and I don't want to invite contact.
I think we're getting away from Dancer's question  .
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03-29-2012, 07:57 PM
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But, back to the topic... If you are hanging out at a bar, make friends with the staff. It never hurts for the bartender to know that you are "family" AND single AND possibly looking. Additionally, they might steer away from someone that you really do not want/need to get too close to. 
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Its called the 2x4 syndrome, and sometimes us femmes have to just swing that board hard and pray for the best! Trust me, I worked in a male dominate environment and was asked out and flirted with by mostly men. Politely reject them, and leave it at that. You don't need rainbow flags or anything of the likes... have confidence (most butches find this very attractive), and go up to the butch and say Hi. Flirt your heart out, and if all else fails.. swing that 2x4 hard and tell said Butch you would like to go to dinner (or whatever)! There are no rules in any book that says a butch has to ask out the femme... if that were the case, many of us would still be single! lol
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