would you date someone with significantly different beliefs?

[aishah]

Originally Posted by guihong

That said, without enough compatibility in values and outlook, a relationship will get very rocky. I think it depends on how strongly you both hold to your beliefs and how much you are able to compromise. But it's a mistake to compromise yourself right out of beliefs you hold tightly just to make yourself look more compatible with your partner.

i found this perspective really interesting - thank you for sharing.

it hasn't held true for me in my current relationship (at least not in six years, things could definitely change). i have my beliefs and he has his, and we both feel pretty strongly...some of them we share, a LOT of them we definitely don't. but situations don't frequently come up where we have to compromise on our beliefs. i mean, i could see this being an issue if...say...he didn't believe in birth control. but very rarely do we have beliefs that directly affect each other.

i definitely can see it affecting my last relationship though - with the embedded belief that my previous partner HAD to marry someone who was christian. that definitely ended up being detrimental to the relationship.