Bully - The Movie

Scuba · 03-31-2012, 11:32 AM

Recently, I was invited to join (and accepted), as a core member, a new group called The Suicide Prevention Coalition of North Central Washington. The timing on the release of this movie couldn't be better and it makes me feel hopeful that we, as a community, can make an impact.

One of the leading causes of suicide among adolescents is bullying. It is happening in our community and the suicides are happening at alarming rates. The last one which occurred roughly a month ago was that of young, gay teenager.

The new movie, Bully, is winning accolades around the country and is a must see for everyone, young, old, parents, teachers, advocates...everyone. I have seen snippets and have been following the news on this movie and it's amazing how uncooperative both individuals and organizations are when the subject of bullying is presented to them.

I am providing the link to the website and hope that all of you will see the movie. If it's not coming to your town there is a button on the left hand side of the website labeled "DEMAND IT". Click this button and do a search for your city. If you are a person in a position to advocate or educate please download the toolkit as it has good information. There are also links for students and parents.

Please, let's all work for ending bullying. Let's work on letting young folks know that there are resources available to them; that suicide is not an option and that they are loved and wanted in this world.

Many thanks!!

Scoobs

http://thebullyproject.com/indexflash.html

Scuba · 04-01-2012, 09:09 AM

Bumping

grenade · 04-01-2012, 09:20 AM

My 10 year old was bullied in school a couple years back. I didn't realize how long it had been going on. It was never physical, but the scars are still deep. My daughter is finally back on track this year but still has issues with self esteem. It's a very real issue that hits home with me.

nycfem · 04-01-2012, 09:38 AM

I went to see Bully by myself Friday night. I knew I'd be crying so I wanted to see it alone. The last two nights since seeing it I have had nightmares about being bullied. Most of us have either been bullied or been close with someone who has been bullied. The film is very powerful and moving. I was out very young and had the same thing happen to me in junior high as the lesbian in the movie did in high school, where she goes to sit down and everyone moves away from her. Devastating and all too common.

Scuba · 04-06-2012, 08:22 AM

Bumping for change

WolfyOne · 04-06-2012, 09:02 AM

I just read the rating was dropped from R to PG13, so now kids will get a chance to see it.

Scuba · 04-06-2012, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I just read the rating was dropped from R to PG13, so now kids will get a chance to see it.

Excellent to hear this!!! I know this has been a struggle for the filmmakers and there was some doubt that the PG13 rating would happen due to the number of F bombs dropped.

Scuba · 04-10-2012, 10:55 PM

BUMP BUMP

Bully opens around the country on Friday, May 13th

I'll be heading over to Seattle this weekend to see it.

aishah · 04-11-2012, 12:23 AM

i can't wait to see it! i only heard about it recently because a friend was mentioning that they excluded the fact that tyler long was on the autism spectrum from the movie. i thought that was interesting but other than that i haven't heard much about the film, so i just went to look at the website

now i'm very excited to see it.

i was bullied in school and i'm working on a project for youth who are queer and/or disabled who are responding to bullying and other forms of violence. one of the attitudes i've run up against a lot is that bullying is just "kids being kids" and that stopping it isn't important, we just need to teach kids to deal with it and get over it. i find that really troubling - that there is this belief that physical and emotional violence is okay or, like, a rite of passage.

Scuba · 04-11-2012, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by aishah

i can't wait to see it! i only heard about it recently because a friend was mentioning that they excluded the fact that tyler long was on the autism spectrum from the movie. i thought that was interesting but other than that i haven't heard much about the film, so i just went to look at the website

now i'm very excited to see it.

i was bullied in school and i'm working on a project for youth who are queer and/or disabled who are responding to bullying and other forms of violence. one of the attitudes i've run up against a lot is that bullying is just "kids being kids" and that stopping it isn't important, we just need to teach kids to deal with it and get over it. i find that really troubling - that there is this belief that physical and emotional violence is okay or, like, a rite of passage.

I find this extremely troubling too. As the spectrum of diversity becomes more visible (physically, mentally, socioeconomically challenged kids, gay youth, ethnic youth) in our communities and schools more attention needs to be paid to kids and their peer groups. Parents need to be aware of "indicators" of bullying. This is hard to accomplish when a community of adults is fearful of their own reputations should they take a stand against bullying. Taking a stand means that human beings, gay, straight, rich, poor, minorities, physically challenged or mentally challenged have a right to be treated with respect. That's a big leap for many, especially when it comes to gay and ethnic youth.

I was bullied in school for two reasons; socioeconomic class (I was middle class amongst the wealthy) and because I was gay (I looked like a tomboy).

Come back and post your thoughts after you have seen the movie. I'm incredibly excited and hope to actually see the original R rated version one of these days.

Scuba · 04-13-2012, 09:54 PM

BUMP BUMP

OPENING NIGHT AROUND THE COUNTRY!!!

gaea · 04-13-2012, 10:03 PM

I so want to see this.

gaea · 04-14-2012, 08:21 AM

There is one place in Sacramento airing this movie...I think I will take myself to see it.

Bullying of any sort is just plain unacceptable

Scuba · 04-14-2012, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by gaea

There is one place in Sacramento airing this movie...I think I will take myself to see it.

Bullying of any sort is just plain unacceptable

Excellent!! Come back and let me know what you thought. I'm going tonight. It's showing in several theaters in Seattle.

Cheers,

Scoobs

gaea · 04-14-2012, 09:11 AM

Im going to go to the matinee showing I will let you all know.

gaea · 04-14-2012, 01:31 PM

im a little dissapointed that not more have shown for the matinee however I'll get a good seat and not be overwhelmed by a shit ton of people the movie is starting in 45 mins. I will post my thoughts n feelings after. I know what it's like to be bullied.

gaea · 04-14-2012, 04:06 PM

I do not want to spoil anything for those that have yet to see this so I will share only what I felt and then join conversations as more people see this film.

in less than five minutes tears were streaming down my cheeks no movie or documentary has ever done that

I was put through every emotion possible as someone who has been bullied and as a parent

sadness / anger / frustrations

and finally at the end a way to help.

please please see this movie and help end bullying.

gaea · 04-15-2012, 08:07 AM

to hear your thoughts on this Scuba. Did you see it last night as you intended to?

Scuba · 04-15-2012, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by gaea

to hear your thoughts on this Scuba. Did you see it last night as you intended to?

Wow, so much to say so little space!! The best documentary I've ever seen. It completely moved me. Completely...

Without give it all away, let me just say this...I hope some people lose their jobs over this movie. As I mentioned before, it's the adults who need the help. I was mortified with Alex's father and was happy to see his mother come around at the end. She gets "it" now.

This is a must see for everyone, kids, teenagers, parents, school administrators...everyone.

I cried, I laughed and I learned...

gaea · 04-16-2012, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Scuba

Wow, so much to say so little space!! The best documentary I've ever seen. It completely moved me. Completely...

Without give it all away, let me just say this...I hope some people lose their jobs over this movie. As I mentioned before, it's the adults who need the help. I was mortified with Alex's father and was happy to see his mother come around at the end. She gets "it" now.

This is a must see for everyone, kids, teenagers, parents, school administrators...everyone.

I cried, I laughed and I learned...

me too..it really is a must see. The impact it had on me alone...kid you not i was cussing out loud at a certain administrator...

I have been promoting this on my facebook as well, i think far too many do not actually want to see bullying for what it is and the damage it can cause.

03-31-2012, 11:32 AM	#1
Scuba Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Flying Solo Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: PNW Posts: 2,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,749 Thanked 8,047 Times in 1,618 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Bully - The Movie Recently, I was invited to join (and accepted), as a core member, a new group called The Suicide Prevention Coalition of North Central Washington. The timing on the release of this movie couldn't be better and it makes me feel hopeful that we, as a community, can make an impact. One of the leading causes of suicide among adolescents is bullying. It is happening in our community and the suicides are happening at alarming rates. The last one which occurred roughly a month ago was that of young, gay teenager. The new movie, Bully, is winning accolades around the country and is a must see for everyone, young, old, parents, teachers, advocates...everyone. I have seen snippets and have been following the news on this movie and it's amazing how uncooperative both individuals and organizations are when the subject of bullying is presented to them. I am providing the link to the website and hope that all of you will see the movie. If it's not coming to your town there is a button on the left hand side of the website labeled "DEMAND IT". Click this button and do a search for your city. If you are a person in a position to advocate or educate please download the toolkit as it has good information. There are also links for students and parents. Please, let's all work for ending bullying. Let's work on letting young folks know that there are resources available to them; that suicide is not an option and that they are loved and wanted in this world. Many thanks!! Scoobs http://thebullyproject.com/indexflash.html __________________ https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-X...etuwo1_500.jpg ~~Bob Richardson~~

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grenade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Full Flavor Femme Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,929 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,925 Thanked 8,058 Times in 2,121 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	My 10 year old was bullied in school a couple years back. I didn't realize how long it had been going on. It was never physical, but the scars are still deep. My daughter is finally back on track this year but still has issues with self esteem. It's a very real issue that hits home with me.

04-01-2012, 09:38 AM	#4
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I went to see Bully by myself Friday night. I knew I'd be crying so I wanted to see it alone. The last two nights since seeing it I have had nightmares about being bullied. Most of us have either been bullied or been close with someone who has been bullied. The film is very powerful and moving. I was out very young and had the same thing happen to me in junior high as the lesbian in the movie did in high school, where she goes to sit down and everyone moves away from her. Devastating and all too common.

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gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I so want to see this. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

04-14-2012, 08:21 AM	#13
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	There is one place in Sacramento airing this movie...I think I will take myself to see it. Bullying of any sort is just plain unacceptable __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

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gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Im going to go to the matinee showing I will let you all know. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

04-14-2012, 01:31 PM	#16
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	im a little dissapointed that not more have shown for the matinee however I'll get a good seat and not be overwhelmed by a shit ton of people the movie is starting in 45 mins. I will post my thoughts n feelings after. I know what it's like to be bullied. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

04-14-2012, 04:06 PM	#17
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I do not want to spoil anything for those that have yet to see this so I will share only what I felt and then join conversations as more people see this film. in less than five minutes tears were streaming down my cheeks no movie or documentary has ever done that I was put through every emotion possible as someone who has been bullied and as a parent sadness / anger / frustrations and finally at the end a way to help. please please see this movie and help end bullying. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

04-15-2012, 08:07 AM	#18
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Anxiously Awaiting to hear your thoughts on this Scuba. Did you see it last night as you intended to? __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.