A kiss is just a kiss

SweetJane · 04-16-2012, 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Brock

My family was very affectionate so I am pretty much a "touch you" when I am talking to you too.

I do that, too! Even perfect strangers like at the grocery store IF we get into a conversation about something. Often I'll reach out and touch an arm or a hand. If it's a close friend and the conversation is intense, the touching also gets more intense. Usually, it's to make a point or to soften some words.

Miss Scarlett · 04-17-2012, 04:44 AM

For me, kissing anyone other than my partner on the lips is not something i'd do. Though a hug or kiss on the cheek is fine.

my parents were very affectionate towards each other but not to us kids. i have no memories of being held, loved or comforted when i was a child. So when they got older and started traveling it felt "creepy" to me when Mom wanted to kiss me good-bye at the airport and tell me "I love you."

tantalizingfemme · 04-17-2012, 05:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

when Mom wanted to kiss me good-bye at the airport and tell me "I love you."

Yes. Me too. My mother was not a warm person at all, but most of my experiences with her showing affection was always in public, especially in an airport in front of a lot of people. (I moved out when I was 17 and always have lived far from her)

I still get that tightness in my stomach when I think about it, because it always feels phony. (Plus she is always really loud, yelling my name when I am halfway to her.)

tantalizingfemme · 04-17-2012, 05:00 AM

You know, it took me a long time to become comfortable hugging, let alone kissing people. Even though my aunt and uncle (mother's side) and father and paternal grandmother were affectionate with me, I would stiffen if someone hugged me, or hang to the back when everyone was saying goodbye. When I had my son, it was the first time I was able to freely show my affection. When Devon and his little friends would play, they would all seek a hug or a hand to hold on to on the spur of the moment. The openess in which they displayed affection whether it was with me or another adult was so sweet and innocent that I think it helped me become more open to affection from others.

I would have to say that I have become a much more affectionate person the older I get.

04-17-2012, 04:44 AM	#2
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	For me, kissing anyone other than my partner on the lips is not something i'd do. Though a hug or kiss on the cheek is fine. my parents were very affectionate towards each other but not to us kids. i have no memories of being held, loved or comforted when i was a child. So when they got older and started traveling it felt "creepy" to me when Mom wanted to kiss me good-bye at the airport and tell me "I love you."

04-17-2012, 05:00 AM	#4
tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,984 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	You know, it took me a long time to become comfortable hugging, let alone kissing people. Even though my aunt and uncle (mother's side) and father and paternal grandmother were affectionate with me, I would stiffen if someone hugged me, or hang to the back when everyone was saying goodbye. When I had my son, it was the first time I was able to freely show my affection. When Devon and his little friends would play, they would all seek a hug or a hand to hold on to on the spur of the moment. The openess in which they displayed affection whether it was with me or another adult was so sweet and innocent that I think it helped me become more open to affection from others. I would have to say that I have become a much more affectionate person the older I get.