The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[Licious]

Hi everyone...

Not much going on here, just catching up on posts. I am still recovering from bronchitis, but good to be on the mend. For now this takes up most of my time, and usual petition spreading or politics online.

Have a good weekend Lofters!

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by Licious

Hi everyone...

Not much going on here, just catching up on posts. I am still recovering from bronchitis, but good to be on the mend. For now this takes up most of my time, and usual petition spreading or politics online.

Have a good weekend Lofters!

You have a great weekend too!

[morningstar55]

The eagle has landed.... just east of the toledo area.. am poopd.... been driving al day.....in other news my lap top died....""very deep sigh"". Anyways its dindin time.Have a nice night

[ruthie14]

Dog comes out of quarantine tomorrow but fence should be good enough for now. If he bites again the dog will be put down. Hate that, but the dog attacked unprovoked even. Not good owners to tell you the truth. They are responsible, not the dog. Called animal control and they told us to call the police and file a report, which we did.

Wrist arm and elbow continue to get worse despite cortizone shots. Will need to schedule surgery for my Ulna nerve soon.. (funny bone). Saw neck dr today and he wants an mri. Been seeing him for years and he agrees that I should have the surgery. Go back on the 5th of June to see him.

Morningstart... hope your laptop gets fixed soon!

Os.. thanks for all your encouraging words. It means a lot.

Night folks...Have a wonderful humping day tomorrow! lol

Ruthie

[Maverick]

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

[LadyRieinAL]

I think, how wonderful that you can allow yourself to grow and change and be who you want to be in any given moment.
Sweet one it is all about you - and you can change it and if it doesn't feel good, or right, the beauty is, you can always change it back.

What matters most is what DOES feel good to you.

[Jaques]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

...........hi maverick, i was in my mid 50's when i changed my name from Jacquelyn to Jaques, which everyone called me anyway. I did it because of transitioning, after a lot of thought (years) and didnt change my surname. I dont feel age has any bearing on if/ when a person changes a name rather than the reason, i.e. is it about identity or a need for change (or both)? In the Bible its said that Saul who was at one time a violent man, changed his name to Paul and with that changed his behaviour. Monks and nuns of various religions take new names when entering their chosen way of life. I do feel names, even their sound, have energetic vibrations which go out into the Universe. When your name is spoken out loud, given that vibration is the sound constantly associated with 'you' can mean that if you change your name, you may change what is associated with you.
This is why I decided to change my name as little as possible - i.e. I couldnt live as male with a name like Jacquelyn!
I hope you decide what is right for you, all the best.

[Darbonaire]

Do It Maverick! It's your name, your right, & if you truly feel as if you want to move forward in life with a name YOU like & choose......go for it. I did in my 30's & I don't regret it a bit.........good luck with your decision........if it's YOUR decision it will be the right one......

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers n peekers....... maverick,i say do ht also.... and when its all said nd done u will feel so much better bowling when i was in my teens i held the record title for a yr for gutter champ

[LadyRain]

changed my first..middle and last name a few years ago. I never liked my middle name and it did not mean anything then sounding good with my first. Its empowering to re-name yourself!!

Originally Posted by Maverick

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

[Maverick]

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

[deedarino]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

One of the cool things about getting older is not feeling the need to live for everyone else. It wasn't always that way.

Spend the rest of your years with a name that makes you happy.

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

Dude, I have several names. Legally, my birth name, Joan. Lots of people call me Jo. I wanted a more Butch name than my given name, yet still ummm ...female name. Others call me JJ and Joan and my family calls me Joanie.

Maybe it is an age thing, but really what is in a name? In my opinion, the only time it really matters is in legal papers. My dad found that out at some point because his birth certificate had not been changed from "Baby XXXX" His parents hadn't decided on a name!

You can be called whatever you want. Just tell people that you prefer to be called..whatever you want, then at some point you want to change it legally, do it, but remember it can be a tedious process so make sure you don't have to do it again because you might not really like it anymore.

[LadyRieinAL]

Ruthie, how horrifying that moment must have been for you - I wish you a speedy recovery - and I pray that the dog doesn't bite anyone else