Bravehearts: FTMs who cannot or choose not to medically transition

rande · 05-06-2012, 10:31 AM

It takes a great deal of courage to live, let alone live as one believes in spite of society's interpretation of the person's physical nature.

I am a Stone Butch/FTM who most likely will never be able to transition. Some of it is due to finances, some of it due to health reasons. My bone condition would react badly to T.

If I can figure out how to get top surgery, I will. In a New York minute!

So I guess I'll always be "Third Gendered," although I see myself as male.
In my relationships, I am honest. I tell my potential partner my true nature, and leave it to them to stay or leave (sometimes after slapping my face).
I never "entrap" anyone....preferring the awkward moments take place conversationally rather than waiting until passion's fire has already been lit.

It's scary, not knowing if you're about to be rejected or accepted. But I guess that's so in all aspects of life.
It's just that when it comes to sexuality, there's a great deal more vulnerability than say, just discussing favorite flavors of ice cream.

Do I consider myself courageous? Dunno. Not my call to make.
But I will say that anybody who is living this Third Gender life has had to grow a pair, metaphorically speaking, in order to get through some of it.

It ain't easy being 'tween.
But it's me.

05-06-2012, 10:31 AM	#11
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	Balls of Fire It takes a great deal of courage to live, let alone live as one believes in spite of society's interpretation of the person's physical nature. I am a Stone Butch/FTM who most likely will never be able to transition. Some of it is due to finances, some of it due to health reasons. My bone condition would react badly to T. If I can figure out how to get top surgery, I will. In a New York minute! So I guess I'll always be "Third Gendered," although I see myself as male. In my relationships, I am honest. I tell my potential partner my true nature, and leave it to them to stay or leave (sometimes after slapping my face). I never "entrap" anyone....preferring the awkward moments take place conversationally rather than waiting until passion's fire has already been lit. It's scary, not knowing if you're about to be rejected or accepted. But I guess that's so in all aspects of life. It's just that when it comes to sexuality, there's a great deal more vulnerability than say, just discussing favorite flavors of ice cream. Do I consider myself courageous? Dunno. Not my call to make. But I will say that anybody who is living this Third Gender life has had to grow a pair, metaphorically speaking, in order to get through some of it. It ain't easy being 'tween. But it's me.