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Originally Posted by aishah

i do believe white, middle-class folks dominate the conversation (at least in the u.s.) and that that is part of why marriage is the single issue. and part of the media piece is projecting an assimilationist/mainstreamed idea of what queer is (usually white, middle-class, and monogamous), and i think that does some harm to the rest of us in terms of marginalizing us further (regardless of whether we have legal protection for our marriages).

Yes I do imagine it might marginalize us further when we don't meet the expectation of what queer has been projected as being. What a disappointment I will be for sure.

As a very masculine looking person who insists on being seen as a woman I never expect assimilation. The idea of being seen as even less mainstream because of some image the media has projected about queers and marriage has never entered my mind. But I suppose anything is possible. i just haven't thought about this possibility much. I just don't expect middle North America to ever look at me with anything less than disdain. And personally I'll take disdain over some of the other looks I get. At least it's fairly benign. I suppose that could change if queers are supposed to look a certain way and I don't meet the expectation. I would hate to find myself in a world of shit because of false advertising from mainstream queers for marriage.