The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Stoney · 02-28-2010, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by LieslKate

This is gonna get a HUGE shriek of disapproval BUT... there is nothing in the Mom Handbook that says you have to take in grandkids or have adult children move home...

Do the grandkids have no other relatives? Where are the other grandparents, any other siblings or cousins age appropriate etc to take responsibility? Is this a matter of you being the only "unmarried" relative and therefore you are free and can take on this responsibilty? Why are you obligated to take them on? If the parents are drug addicts perhaps the kids would be best adopted...

As for adult children moving home... just say no, otherwise you are stuck with them 'til you go to the old age home...

well in my case, as i have mentioned I have already raised my g baby for 3 out of 4 years, yes My son is on drugs, so are millions of other people, I love my son with all my heart as I do these g-babies. He was my Baby. Now as a matter of fact I am the only relative around. but that would make no difference to me I would fight like hell for all of my G babies.
Sometimes, doing the responsible thing is giving your children to some one who loves them and will take good care of them while you get your shit together so you can be a parent in some capacity.

I am frustrated, I am disappointed, and a little relieved at the same time.
it isnt written in the handbook, I have to take them....no

but it is 100% in my heart......I love those babies , and could never stand them to be with strangers or in the system.

I have 5, 4yrs old and under..... I would take them all .

just been one crazy ass week

just had to scream for a second is all.

stoney

ruthie14 · 02-28-2010, 05:53 PM

((((((((Stoney))))))) I hope everything works out. I would feel the same as you I think. I raised 2 stepkids who now have nothing to do with me... never could have any of my own. Long sad story...I won't get into it here. I just think that if I were in your position I would hope I would do the same. Good luck to ya hun.
Ruthie

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Stoney

well in my case, as i have mentioned I have already raised my g baby for 3 out of 4 years, yes My son is on drugs, so are millions of other people, I love my son with all my heart as I do these g-babies. He was my Baby. Now as a matter of fact I am the only relative around. but that would make no difference to me I would fight like hell for all of my G babies.
Sometimes, doing the responsible thing is giving your children to some one who loves them and will take good care of them while you get your shit together so you can be a parent in some capacity.

I am frustrated, I am disappointed, and a little relieved at the same time.
it isnt written in the handbook, I have to take them....no

but it is 100% in my heart......I love those babies , and could never stand them to be with strangers or in the system.

I have 5, 4yrs old and under..... I would take them all .

just been one crazy ass week

just had to scream for a second is all.

stoney

((((((((((((((((stoney))))))))))))))))
kudo's for you for following your heart..
blood is always thicker then water.... no matter what.

if it was my daughter in this situation... i would not or could not allow strangers to raise my grand kids..as in adoption or foster...
they are part of my blood.. and would do anything to be there foro them.

Julien · 02-28-2010, 06:41 PM

Hi my name is Graphiteta2s,
I wanted to introduce myself. I know you are discussing a very personal topic right now. I just wanted to step forward and wish Stoney the best. I'll step back now and keep reading.
G.

Jet · 02-28-2010, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Graphiteta2s

Hi my name is Graphiteta2s,
I wanted to introduce myself. I know you are discussing a very personal topic right now. I just wanted to step forward and wish Stoney the best. I'll step back now and keep reading.
G.

Welcome lofter.

Jet · 02-28-2010, 06:53 PM

Reading posts. tonight's fare...
tilapia rolled in bread crumbs and dill, browned in olive oil.
homemade tarter sauce.
BIG tossed salad

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Graphiteta2s

Hi my name is Graphiteta2s,
I wanted to introduce myself. I know you are discussing a very personal topic right now. I just wanted to step forward and wish Stoney the best. I'll step back now and keep reading.
G.

hey ya there..... Graphitsters... heh jump in anytime , ya know when ever i see your member name here.. makes me think of drawing.. lol
think its the artist in me .. thinking that way.. lol

03-01-2010, 05:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Graphiteta2s

Hi my name is Graphiteta2s,
I wanted to introduce myself. I know you are discussing a very personal topic right now. I just wanted to step forward and wish Stoney the best. I'll step back now and keep reading.
G.

Welcome to the Loft Graphiteta ...great sig.

morningstar55 · 03-01-2010, 11:25 AM

mawning Lofters......

and afternooners...... its lunch time i suppose.... huh.. lol
i love steak salad's if they are made right....... heh

ya know. OLJet.... I love that pic you there for your avatar... very handsome

dont ever change.
heyy Incubus....... hows ur day going over there??? what does your member name mean and how did it come about??
wonder where DELS daughter is this am ... hmmmm
mawning to you.... Graphite

wait its afternoon ... Oyy
see what happens to my . when i drive till 3am ish and dont wake up till a later hour then normal ..mess's me up..lol

no1sBoi · 03-01-2010, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Stoney

well in my case, as i have mentioned I have already raised my g baby for 3 out of 4 years, yes My son is on drugs, so are millions of other people, I love my son with all my heart as I do these g-babies. He was my Baby. Now as a matter of fact I am the only relative around. but that would make no difference to me I would fight like hell for all of my G babies.
Sometimes, doing the responsible thing is giving your children to some one who loves them and will take good care of them while you get your shit together so you can be a parent in some capacity.

I am frustrated, I am disappointed, and a little relieved at the same time.
it isnt written in the handbook, I have to take them....no

but it is 100% in my heart......I love those babies , and could never stand them to be with strangers or in the system.

I have 5, 4yrs old and under..... I would take them all

just been one crazy ass week

just had to scream for a second is all.

stoney

Stoney, I don't have kids or grandkids...but I've been a kid. I'm very old now, but still can't help believing that a committed, loving adult would have made a lot of difference back then. Beyond even that---ANYthing that is 100% in your heart will not dissipate. Follow your heart!

DELSDAUGHTER · 03-01-2010, 07:01 PM

well i am here MS...but i was late getting up this am ...so i had to scoot to work quickly........
just doing a drive by....tonight.....have a great night everyone

AtLast · 03-02-2010, 12:02 AM

Hi ALL! I hope you had a good weekend and that life is being a good ride for you! I went to the Winter Ball here (a B-F Socials event out of SF & Oakland, CA) and had a great time. Saw people I haven't in quite awhile and danced. If i can dance, all is good!

OK, I'm off to do water-exercise in my spa. Have some new foam bar-bells and flippers!

I am a happy

and love my

and working on becomming

(woman butch)!!!

DELSDAUGHTER · 03-02-2010, 04:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Hi ALL! I hope you had a good weekend and that life is being a good ride for you! I went to the Winter Ball here (a B-F Socials event out of SF & Oakland, CA) and had a great time. Saw people I haven't in quite awhile and danced. If i can dance, all is good!

OK, I'm off to do water-exercise in my spa. Have some new foam bar-bells and flippers!

I am a happy

and love my

and working on becomming

(woman butch)!!!

i am the same way...if i can go dancing i'm happy

03-02-2010, 05:28 AM

^^I'm a dancer too - sadly Mrs.Incubus has two left feet!

Good morning Lofters, I hope that the morning is full of good coffee, smiles and sunshine for you all.

morningstar

My name? Well as you know I'm Dr.Doo on all other websites but I chose a different name to register here because I wanted to try on a new name for size so to speak.
Incubus "An incubus (plural incubi) is a demon in male form supposed to lie upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have sexual intercourse with them, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incubus I chose it because it represents the rather rude scallywag in me

Well lofters, I'm off to a job fair today to find out about getting in college in september to do some sort of vocational degree. Wish me luck!

morningstar55 · 03-02-2010, 07:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus

^^I'm a dancer too - sadly Mrs.Incubus has two left feet!

Good morning Lofters, I hope that the morning is full of good coffee, smiles and sunshine for you all.

morningstar

My name? Well as you know I'm Dr.Doo on all other websites but I chose a different name to register here because I wanted to try on a new name for size so to speak.
Incubus "An incubus (plural incubi) is a demon in male form supposed to lie upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have sexual intercourse with them, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incubus I chose it because it represents the rather rude scallywag in me

Well lofters, I'm off to a job fair today to find out about getting in college in september to do some sort of vocational degree. Wish me luck!

mawning Lofters ........
ha ........ Incubusters..... scallywags can be fun .. * giggling*
and i love to dance........

DELSDAUGHTER · 03-02-2010, 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus

^^I'm a dancer too - sadly Mrs.Incubus has two left feet!

Good morning Lofters, I hope that the morning is full of good coffee, smiles and sunshine for you all.

morningstar

My name? Well as you know I'm Dr.Doo on all other websites but I chose a different name to register here because I wanted to try on a new name for size so to speak.
Incubus "An incubus (plural incubi) is a demon in male form supposed to lie upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have sexual intercourse with them, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incubus I chose it because it represents the rather rude scallywag in me

Well lofters, I'm off to a job fair today to find out about getting in college in september to do some sort of vocational degree. Wish me luck!

ok if that is an incubus.....what is a sucubus.....?

morningstar55 · 03-02-2010, 07:55 AM

ever feel like your stuck in a rut??

Rockinonahigh · 03-02-2010, 12:06 PM

Morning everyone,its nearly noon and im sorta geting my stuff together..Today the sun was suposed to be out but all I see is rain clouds but no rain thank goodness.I do know that spring is round the corner cause the tulip trees are sprouting and the red buds are blooming.
Danceing ..I wish I could do that again but haveing a goofy back prevents that,oh but the memories linger.
Now MS, just what kind of rut r u in and what is it can be done to get out of it?
I dont think I ever have posted hear on the lofters,nice to know we have a place to hang out.Well im off to the pool hall to work on my game..catch yall later.

morningstar55 · 03-02-2010, 01:19 PM

**looking up at Rochinghams post.** POOL Hall???

hmmmmm

im sitting in my truck ... bored out of my mind.... waiting for these dumb ass's in the dispatch office to come up with a load for me.... and soo how do you like that??? i call them dumbass's cuz.... they can be.. i mean i been 1st truck in line here with my company for a load here since 3am monday morning..... and with a report of 7 daily average loads here .. i think its a bunch of BS
but hey............. i guess it could be worse right??? right?? right??

anywaysssssssssssssssss .......... time for ahhh hmmmm well a snack.. lol

morningstar55 · 03-02-2010, 02:51 PM

here's a PRE St Pattys day tune.....
and let me say this......
i think a butch/TG/FTM in a celt is sooooooooo HAWWwwwwtttt

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vtp4adNTP0Y"]YouTube- The corrs and the chieftains[/ame]

02-28-2010, 06:41 PM	#4
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hi my name is Graphiteta2s, I wanted to introduce myself. I know you are discussing a very personal topic right now. I just wanted to step forward and wish Stoney the best. I'll step back now and keep reading. G. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

03-01-2010, 11:25 AM	#9
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	mawning Lofters...... and afternooners...... its lunch time i suppose.... huh.. lol i love steak salad's if they are made right....... heh ya know. OLJet.... I love that pic you there for your avatar... very handsome dont ever change. heyy Incubus....... hows ur day going over there??? what does your member name mean and how did it come about?? wonder where DELS daughter is this am ... hmmmm mawning to you.... Graphite wait its afternoon ... Oyy see what happens to my . when i drive till 3am ish and dont wake up till a later hour then normal ..mess's me up..lol __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

03-02-2010, 12:02 AM	#12
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Hi ALL! I hope you had a good weekend and that life is being a good ride for you! I went to the Winter Ball here (a B-F Socials event out of SF & Oakland, CA) and had a great time. Saw people I haven't in quite awhile and danced. If i can dance, all is good! OK, I'm off to do water-exercise in my spa. Have some new foam bar-bells and flippers! I am a happy and love my and working on becomming (woman butch)!!! Last edited by AtLast; 03-02-2010 at 12:03 AM. Reason: stuff

03-02-2010, 07:55 AM	#17
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	ever feel like your stuck in a rut?? __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

03-02-2010, 01:19 PM	#19
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	looking up at Rochinghams post. POOL Hall??? hmmmmm im sitting in my truck ... bored out of my mind.... waiting for these dumb ass's in the dispatch office to come up with a load for me.... and soo how do you like that??? i call them dumbass's cuz.... they can be.. i mean i been 1st truck in line here with my company for a load here since 3am monday morning..... and with a report of 7 daily average loads here .. i think its a bunch of BS but hey............. i guess it could be worse right??? right?? right?? anywaysssssssssssssssss .......... time for ahhh hmmmm well a snack.. lol __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-28-2010, 05:53 PM	#2
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	((((((((Stoney))))))) I hope everything works out. I would feel the same as you I think. I raised 2 stepkids who now have nothing to do with me... never could have any of my own. Long sad story...I won't get into it here. I just think that if I were in your position I would hope I would do the same. Good luck to ya hun. Ruthie

02-28-2010, 06:53 PM	#6
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Reading posts. tonight's fare... tilapia rolled in bread crumbs and dill, browned in olive oil. homemade tarter sauce. BIG tossed salad

03-01-2010, 07:01 PM	#11
DELSDAUGHTER Member How Do You Identify?: femme , with occasional tomboy tendencies Relationship Status: single,just me and the pup... Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: sittin on the Mason-Dixon Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29 Thanked 83 Times in 51 Posts Rep Power: 429668	well i am here MS...but i was late getting up this am ...so i had to scoot to work quickly........ just doing a drive by....tonight.....have a great night everyone

03-02-2010, 05:28 AM	#14
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	^^I'm a dancer too - sadly Mrs.Incubus has two left feet! Good morning Lofters, I hope that the morning is full of good coffee, smiles and sunshine for you all. morningstar My name? Well as you know I'm Dr.Doo on all other websites but I chose a different name to register here because I wanted to try on a new name for size so to speak. Incubus "An incubus (plural incubi) is a demon in male form supposed to lie upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have sexual intercourse with them, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incubus I chose it because it represents the rather rude scallywag in me Well lofters, I'm off to a job fair today to find out about getting in college in september to do some sort of vocational degree. Wish me luck!

03-02-2010, 12:06 PM	#18
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Morning everyone,its nearly noon and im sorta geting my stuff together..Today the sun was suposed to be out but all I see is rain clouds but no rain thank goodness.I do know that spring is round the corner cause the tulip trees are sprouting and the red buds are blooming. Danceing ..I wish I could do that again but haveing a goofy back prevents that,oh but the memories linger. Now MS, just what kind of rut r u in and what is it can be done to get out of it? I dont think I ever have posted hear on the lofters,nice to know we have a place to hang out.Well im off to the pool hall to work on my game..catch yall later.

03-02-2010, 02:51 PM	#20
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	here's a PRE St Pattys day tune..... and let me say this...... i think a butch/TG/FTM in a celt is sooooooooo HAWWwwwwtttt [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vtp4adNTP0Y"]YouTube- The corrs and the chieftains[/ame] __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.