The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Girl Friday · 05-21-2012, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

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One of my mom's favorite things is triumph in silence. Sometimes just walking away is a statement in itself.

I like this. It's classy and it doesn't escalate things. It doesn't contribute to drama and it gives everyone a chance to breathe and rethink things.

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

Same thing..
Ask your sister-in-law if she wants to take your x driver shopping.?.
Say she has tuesdays off and can probly be ready around 11-11:30 and she will probly buy you lunch..Just throw it back at her..Tell her your x driver might need some new under clothes to..That might get her shopping for boxers or tightey whites for a butch woman..

This shows a sense of humor if nothing else. Sometimes humor is the only way to deal with difficult people. Laughing usually has the effect of shutting them up or confusing them. Either way they've got something else to think about besides whatever they were being ridiculous about.

OS Butch · 05-21-2012, 10:24 PM

ever have one of those nights you just can't get to sleep?! guess I will go play words or look on Facebook....

rustedrims · 05-22-2012, 05:35 AM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

ever have one of those nights you just can't get to sleep?! guess I will go play words or look on Facebook....

yeah every night ..Monday through friday..I work at night but last night i did fall a sleep in my chair..a friend of mine cought me and said you were smiling..I told her i was some place pleasent and not here..Cant remember where i was..

ladyhawkxx · 05-22-2012, 07:44 AM

Age. Numbers. Only as young as you feel. I would have shrugged it off a couple of years ago as another "ism"... but today - just a few days past turning 52... I can't seem to shrug it off. There is a perpetual "crease" in my face that is unescapable. Every time I look in the mirror, there it is. No, I'm no longer the "young chippee" on the block. In fact, I crossed that bridge quite a long time ago. And I'm ok with that. But why does time have to be so Cruel? She is, you know. She is cruel - and seemingly, especially, to womyn. *sighs* *shakes head* I never considered a lift of any kind... until this morning....

morningstar55 · 05-22-2012, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyhawkxx

Age. Numbers. Only as young as you feel. I would have shrugged it off a couple of years ago as another "ism"... but today - just a few days past turning 52... I can't seem to shrug it off. There is a perpetual "crease" in my face that is unescapable. Every time I look in the mirror, there it is. No, I'm no longer the "young chippee" on the block. In fact, I crossed that bridge quite a long time ago. And I'm ok with that. But why does time have to be so Cruel? She is, you know. She is cruel - and seemingly, especially, to womyn. *sighs* *shakes head* I never considered a lift of any kind... until this morning....

welcome to the Loft ... Lady ... NO canes or walkers required... lol
i just turnd 57... i try to think about my age number... just enjoying life and feel blessed to wake up each morning and enjoy yet another day on this planet.

ladyhawkxx · 05-22-2012, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

welcome to the Loft ... Lady ... NO canes or walkers required... lol
i just turnd 57... i try to think about my age number... just enjoying life and feel blessed to wake up each morning and enjoy yet another day on this planet.

You are soooo very right, morningstar! (parks Hoveround)... *nodding head in agreement* and I DO feel blessed to wake up each morning.... Lord. I feel blessed to wake up at all... lolol!! And thanks for the welcome... I'll be spending a good bit of time here, I think!!!! BTW, did those stairs come with the place?

morningstar55 · 05-22-2012, 04:54 PM

"The truest form of Love is how you behave toward someone;
Not just how you feel about them." ~ Steve Hall

LadyRieinAL · 05-23-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyhawkxx

Age. Numbers. Only as young as you feel. I would have shrugged it off a couple of years ago as another "ism"... but today - just a few days past turning 52... I can't seem to shrug it off. There is a perpetual "crease" in my face that is unescapable. Every time I look in the mirror, there it is. No, I'm no longer the "young chippee" on the block. In fact, I crossed that bridge quite a long time ago. And I'm ok with that. But why does time have to be so Cruel? She is, you know. She is cruel - and seemingly, especially, to womyn. *sighs* *shakes head* I never considered a lift of any kind... until this morning....

Ladyhawk, I'm 57 - and I have had issues, as I age, with the person I have seen when I look in the mirror. How did those lines get there?
And the other day I found myself talking to my four year old granddaughter , Nina, why do you have lines on your face and hands......Well Willow, Ninna has lived a very long time, and she has seen and been many places, and these lines tell a story about all those places Nina has been. Nina is very proud of what she has learned in all the places that she has been. And she said, Nina, when I get old will I have those many lines, and I said, yes, sweet one you will. And she said, I hope I don't get as old as you. LOL (out of the mouths of babes) I didn't have the heart to tell her she really doesn't have a choice. LOL
And LadyHawk, I hope the next person that is invited to co-create life with me, understands it took some doing for the lines to appear and they tell a magnificent journey for anyone who wants to share life line stories.

rustedrims · 05-23-2012, 05:50 PM

Very well said..That little girl sounds like a blast to be around..
Take good care of her..

starrynitesfemme · 05-23-2012, 08:24 PM

Hi there, I'm happy to see this space, at 43, i'm still trying to sort out being this age... I wrote this, and thought perhaps I would share:

Growing older is an odd thing, to feel 15.. but in this 43 year old body.. to be growing older at all, considering my history is.. a miracle. A miracle I say many prayerful thanks for each day, as much as I may grumble and fuss about the aches and pains. But growing older gives us something else, this powerful space of.. THIS is who I am, take it or leave it, like it, love it.. or walk away. I truly love growing into that space, feeling myself stretch and grow, knowing myself better every single day. There are very few things I can say with confidence about myself, but one very important one I can: I love well. I love wholly, unconditionally, without boundaries and with no apologies. I find some folks are very uncomfortable in that space, but now, older, perhaps wiser, I no longer apologize for it or me in any fashion. I am grateful to be here, now, my feet on the earth, my hands doing their very best to type the words my mind feeds them and love in my heart. I am grateful for each connection, each moment, each breath.. and each step, because the next step, is all I have to worry about.

I hope each of you has a wonderful eve.. ♥

05-21-2012, 10:24 PM	#2
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988704	ever have one of those nights you just can't get to sleep?! guess I will go play words or look on Facebook.... __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

05-22-2012, 07:44 AM	#4
ladyhawkxx Member How Do You Identify?: As a Lady would. Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Not available. Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Go Vols! Posts: 537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 278 Thanked 297 Times in 92 Posts Rep Power: 2616803	Age. Numbers. Only as young as you feel. I would have shrugged it off a couple of years ago as another "ism"... but today - just a few days past turning 52... I can't seem to shrug it off. There is a perpetual "crease" in my face that is unescapable. Every time I look in the mirror, there it is. No, I'm no longer the "young chippee" on the block. In fact, I crossed that bridge quite a long time ago. And I'm ok with that. But why does time have to be so Cruel? She is, you know. She is cruel - and seemingly, especially, to womyn. sighs shakes head I never considered a lift of any kind... until this morning.... __________________ I am The Hawk And there's Blood on my Feathers But Time is still Turning They Soon will be Dry!

05-22-2012, 04:54 PM	#7
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	"The truest form of Love is how you behave toward someone; Not just how you feel about them." ~ Steve Hall __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

05-23-2012, 05:50 PM	#9
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	hi Lady Very well said..That little girl sounds like a blast to be around.. Take good care of her.. __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

05-23-2012, 08:24 PM	#10
starrynitesfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, girl, femme, babygirl Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2012 Location: oregon Posts: 40 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 185 Thanked 158 Times in 37 Posts Rep Power: 1662974	Hi everyone... Hi there, I'm happy to see this space, at 43, i'm still trying to sort out being this age... I wrote this, and thought perhaps I would share: Growing older is an odd thing, to feel 15.. but in this 43 year old body.. to be growing older at all, considering my history is.. a miracle. A miracle I say many prayerful thanks for each day, as much as I may grumble and fuss about the aches and pains. But growing older gives us something else, this powerful space of.. THIS is who I am, take it or leave it, like it, love it.. or walk away. I truly love growing into that space, feeling myself stretch and grow, knowing myself better every single day. There are very few things I can say with confidence about myself, but one very important one I can: I love well. I love wholly, unconditionally, without boundaries and with no apologies. I find some folks are very uncomfortable in that space, but now, older, perhaps wiser, I no longer apologize for it or me in any fashion. I am grateful to be here, now, my feet on the earth, my hands doing their very best to type the words my mind feeds them and love in my heart. I am grateful for each connection, each moment, each breath.. and each step, because the next step, is all I have to worry about. I hope each of you has a wonderful eve.. ♥ __________________ HonorIntegrityTrustHonesty* “It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.” ― Oriah Mountain Dreamer, The Invitation