Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[shiagirl]

I am a Chameleon
Many colors

Even my pictures don't all look like me, just versions of me.

[laruss]

First I want to say, that I read through from the beginning and was so impressed. I have a few femme crushes now.

What kind of Femme am I?

I am the feisty, flirty, don't fuck with me kind of femme.

I do what I want, when I want. I do who I want as much as possible.

I don't often wear dresses, but love the heels, even in the bedroom.

I am a jeans and t-shirt kind of femme. But I can rock a corset.

I don't wear a lot of jewelry, but I always have a pendant on. I own more Wow necklaces then anyone I know.

I love barefeet so my toes are always done. I wear sandals as soon as I can, the snow is not always even gone and will wear them until it gets too cold.

I can change my own oil or tire, but I choose not to.

I am super smart and you better be able to keep up or you won't be around long.

I love my house to be clean and esthetically pleasing, but don't expect me to clean it, that is what house keepers are for. I love to decorate and have a rocking art collection.

I am super corporate professional and bohemian artist.

At work I am super organized and at home tend to be completely scattered.

I want to know everything about you, but will forget and ask you again.

I know what I want and I'm not afraid to ask for it.

I expect people in my life to appreciate me as much I appreciate them.

I love to have the best of what I like and have no qualms about spending the money to get it.

I love to travel and experience new things. I love to live life.

I believe that what you put out gets returned and that Karma is a bitch if you are.

I am super sexy and flirty and love to talk dirty, but there is a time and a place for everything. Ok, almost all the time.

I like to be fucked and I want you to be in control in the bedroom, or hallway, or park, or wherever you take me. I like to change things up and will try almost anything. Tie me up and you get to keep me.

I get bored easily and change my mind constantly.

I have reinvented myself at least a dozen times and there are probably another dozen times to come.

People in my life need to be sharp and on their toes to keep up.

I flirt with everyone, and it better not be a problem if you're my partner.

I don't really do jealousy, I don't understand it. But if I make a commitment, know that I have the integrity to stand behind it and I expect you to as well.

I speak my mind, but am quick to apologize if I hurt you.

I will always talk straight, I don't bullshit.

I like to think I am always honest, but I tend to compartmentalize parts of my life, so absolutely no one knows everything about me. I am to you what I give you.

I have immense integrity and if pushed will do the hard thing because it is the right thing.

I am the type of Femme who lives life on my own terms and no one elses.

But when I love, I love hard.

I can be sweet, kind, compassionate and brutally honest.

I am sexy and curvy and my eyes glitter when I flirt with you.

I have crazy curly hair that always makes me look like I've just been fucked.

I am confident and fun.

I am the Femme that is all that and more.

[thedivahrrrself]

I am both stronger and more fragile than I appear. I accomplish most of the things I do out of sheer persistence and willpower; I'm not naturally good at many things, but I will work hard to make it look easy. I am fiercely independent, and I think I can do most things better than you, or anyone else for that matter. Go ahead, prove me wrong.

If there is only one thing left and we both want it, I'll let you have it. Or if I really, really want it, I will convince you why it is more logical for me to have it.

I am all-day lipstain. I don't want to fuck with makeup more than once in a day. I'm no foundation most days, unless I have a pimple. Then, I'm very self-conscious. Eye makeup is reserved for days when I wear contacts, or very special occasions. I'm big, funky glasses.

I'm clear nail polish on my fingers, and God-only-knows-what-color-I-was-in-the-mood-for-the-day-I-got-a-pedicure on my toes. I have natural nails. Fake nails hold too many germs. My nails like to chip, so they are often filed to slightly different lengths. I think the middle one chips from hitting the roof of my car so much. I'm an aggressive, and fast, driver. I drive a stick. Don't ride my ass, or I will let you know what fun things you can do in a standard.

I love platforms, hair color, vintage jewelry, big, puffy skirts, and rouched dresses. I hate most patterns, but I'll probably wear it if it makes my body look good. I like to dance. I'm not that good at it, but if I can do it, anyone can. So, get your ass on the floor!

I am polite. I don't often forget pleases, thank yous, or have-a-nice-days. I open the door for everyone. If I let you open the door for me, recognize that I actually had to think about this, stop, let you catch up (I'm a fast walker), and let you open the door. I did this for you, because I know you like to feel chivalrous.

If I let you see any further than skin-deep with me, feel special. I will tell almost anyone what I do. If I tell you how I feel, you better listen. I'm not likely to repeat it.

I don't always know what I want, and I am not likely to ask for it. I am extremely affectionate until I feel rejected. Then, I am cold. Be careful what you say to me. I will internalize the things you may not want me to remember later. I need to cry sometimes, but it's hard to get me there. My trust is wavering - at times I don't even trust myself. So don't break it. It's very hard to repair.

I am opinionated and I cuss like a sailor. I won't cuss around your mom, or your kids, but I say fuck like it's fucking going out of style. It's a nice word, you should try it.

I am a Pisces. I'm moody and over-sensitive, I have the attention span of a 4-year old sometimes, and nothing moves me like music. You can write me a novel, and I'm more likely to cry at a song.

I have tattoos. I don't care what you think of them. I got them for me. Each reminds me of something important that I forgot once and swore never to forget again, and the quarter-sleeve on my arm made it possible for me to wear tank tops in public without worrying about how fat my arms are. It's not finished yet, and it probably won't be my last tat, though it will probably satiate me for a few years.

I'm terrible with names. I wish that weren't so.

I contradict myself constantly. Pointing that out is likely to get you nowhere. I have lazy days, but I'm generally very hardworking, just not at the things I probably should work hard at. I'm more likely to work my ass off doing something for you than for myself. I give and give and give and give, and when I've given too much, I retreat inside myself. I've been known to run to the convent for solace and inner reflection. I use religion like a drug, but I pray every night.

I'm very maternal. If I don't have a child of my own, I'm likely to have people or pets I take care of. Family members, friends who need help, random homeless people, stray animals... I'm a sucker for someone in need. You can help me make rational decisions, but don't try to discourage this, or I will end up mothering you. And believe me, you don't want that.

Oh, and did I mention I'm long-winded? Maybe that goes without saying...

[KayCee]

With esp. these last two posts I see so much of myself. Good to know there're other femmes 'out there' who are similar to what I feel/act too. Sometimes I think...'I'm somewhat 'off' with my thinking or my way to interact with others, but after reading this thread I think I can't be that 'bad' or 'off' either.

Thank you!

[Lady Pamela]

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela

I am a proud mother of 5 and grandmother of 12.
I am a sister of 13 siblings.
I have a compassionate, loving, caring spirit which I love to share.
I look at life as though a child, as not to miss the magic and
beauty and miracles children have not forgotten to see.

I am the child, the girl, the woman and the crone.
I am a believer in all that is true and cannot be broken down.
I am Pisces
I am a star gazer, moon watcher,sun dancer and make images out of the clouds.

I am a teacher.
I am the student.
I am the seeker.
I am a survivalist
I am the camper
I am the explorer
I am Yin and Yang

I am silly and love to joke around and play.
I dance to the beat of my own drum!
I am a hippie, witch, psychic medium, empathic healer, biker chick.
I am multifaceted in ever area of my life.
I am the protector of those I love or those who are not able to protect themselves.

I love to laugh and make others laugh and smile.
I love great conversation over a cup of coffee.
I am a hopeless even corny romantic.
I love to be romanced.
I love to create things with my hands.
I love working with tools and building things.
I am a dancer, singer and music lover on a huge scale.
I am a survivor Not a victim of cancer, many different types of abuse, being burnt by a fire, loosing a step child.

I have been and activist and would be again if needed.
I am strong in nature
I am a thinker
When struck wrong I do voice myself..Sometimes loudly
I am a devoted sister both to my siblings and those I call sister/brother.

I embrace my feminine side
I am sugar and spice and everything nice.
But I also have a bold side
I am at times..Short fused
I get angry
I can be like drinking a cup of straight lemmon juice if provoked.
I am naughy and nice.
I am right, and I am wrong

I get sad and sorrowful
I get lonely
I despise lies..yet have been the liar
I am addict but Oct 10th will be 20 years clean
I am a sexual creature
I get embarrassed easily
I don't like to be put on the spot
When backed into a corner, I become the cougar
If someone harms my loved ones, My claws and teeth appear. And my wild nature shows itself.

I give my all to those who treat me with respect and dignity
I am one to be trusted with anything
I am a giver as well as a receiver

Just to name a few,
Because I am endless in who I am, for I am a forever changing Femme

Proud Femme!

I have to revise a bit and add to it as well.

Where I had written 20 years drug free... i jumped the gun by a year. This October 10th will actually be my 20th year.

Since I wrote this, things have changed in my life.
Due to my daughters devorce, I lost 3 step children.
One daughter had a child. Then due to a daughters wedding, I got 2 more granchildren.

So the updated information is:

I am the proud mother of 3 beautiful daughters. And 2 handsome sons. I adopted my last one.
As a result,
1 am the proud grandmother of 6 wonderful granddaughters. And 7 awesome gradsons.
Grand tottal is 13 grandchildren so far.

I am a sister to 13 siblings.
On my mothers side, I was raised with 7 siblings. Of which I am the baby of those. Two of those brothers have transended already.
On my fathers side, I am the middle child of 7 children.
I have 6 siblings, 3 sisters and 3 brothers.

I am a carnival worker
A face and body painter
A crystal jewelry maker
A personal house maid

I truely love to become full of Joy Rising. And to share that with all wanting to feel the same.
I am one who dearly loves and gets excited, when others become excited and full of gratitude.

I am very thankful for both, family, friends and aquaintances.
I am richer, stronger and happier from my experiences and friendships. Ones online as well as off.
And I can honestly say I am stronger due to the connections here on the Butchfemmeplanet.

I am and will forever be,
An Multi-fauccetted, Evolving Femme !!!

[Lady_Di]

Pondering a lot about this lately, trying to nail it down to a few well chosen words...

I too love this thread!

will contemplate further before I post what my hammer and nails find in this femme brain o mine~

[Kätzchen]

Originally Posted by Kätzchen

I am Femme

My femme identity is marked by death-defying logic that embraces a kaleidoscope of many social constructions.

I revel in all that I am able to learn about: by either listening to or reading up on a plethora of subjects.

The more I know, the better I feel. I learn in different ways – mostly I learn by observation – noticing complexity in the way people choose to behave or communicate and because of my ardent desire to understand as fully as possible, I’ve spent most of my life in the background – not desiring foreground recognition.

I don’t need anyone to validate who I am.

I am also a mother to two sons (and a daughter) and while it would seem that the male side of the population longs to oppress and dress down female bodied human beings, I will abandon my love for being in the background and will come out of the woodwork, with an undeniable force, and return your egregious soul to the place it belongs.

I’m a lover.

I’m a fighter.

I’m quiet; yet when I have something to say, I make sure I am heard.

I’m loyal, but when I discover non-reciprocal, inequitable relationship processes, I will cut you out of my life.

I am a survivor of many forms of abuse. I believe in checking up on my own boundary systems – because I tend to welcome exploration and discovery of things I have no knowledge of. Mostly, I feel that the wiggle room I allow for my boundaries is managed judiciously.

If I choose to share my power with you, I expect you to honor my power, as I will yours.

I like to pamper myself - my indulgences, proclivities include: wearing makeup (or not), keeping my hair coiffed beautifully, keeping my hands and feet well taken care of, and sleeping as long as I feel led to do so because I do tend to require lots of sleep – especially if I have had to stay up for long periods of time to get my duties accomplished.

I am sensual. My appetite for having sex still exists – I crave closeness, reciprocal levels of intimacy – before my sexual fire can be lit and rage out of control. My Femme being is of a Queer orientation.

I desire and require your full attention.

I am intelligent and my range of intelligence will surprise you.

I have been my best friend and confidante for years now and I care deeply for myself and how I am treated.

I am sensitive.

I can also be heartless, cold, insensitive and unfeeling, when the occasion calls for me to be this way.

I am passionate.

I am filled with compassion.

I am filled with humility by my lack of perfection and ability to be perfect.

My Femme perfection is a potent elixir. Not everyone is able to tolerate the taste of me.

But I am loved. I do love. I am liked for who I am. I am also disliked and I am okay with that.

I’m an assessor and I evaluate and process at a relentless pace. I’m also known to shut down and wall out distraction, noise that keeps me from hearing what I need to hear.

I’m fearless.

I’m not afraid to die. I have died on numerous occasions. I choose to live in the present moment.

I am known to wonder and revel in that which is deliciously intoxicating.

I am artistic – I love to draw, sing, play music, listen to music, paint, create sculpture – I appreciate art in all the forms I have discovered and enjoyed.

I love to cook foods and prepare sumptuous meals.

I am reserved, sometimes shy. I am highly expressive under the right conditions. I am very communicative. I am expert in my field of communication.

I surprise myself and others.

I am a precious gift, unwrap me with care.

Adore me, cherish me, and recognize me as the Goddess I am, for I am: Femme.

Like Gemme, I'm bumping my post too.

I have revised mine (from two years ago) a tiny bit,
but my list today is an exact representation of who I am.

Yours Truly,



-Kätzchen-

[SleepyButch]

The Femme that I am....

Okay so I am not femme but did not want to intrude.... just wanted to say that I am enjoying reading this thread. Keep them coming!!

[shiagirl]

I can be hard to get to know and even harder to understand...
Once you do know me and understand me you can't help but love me.

[DMW]

Originally Posted by shiagirl

I can be hard to get to know and even harder to understand...
Once you do know me and understand me you can't help but love me.

I read this in my sleepy morning coffee state...and went AAAAAWWWW.

[Nomad]

i'm the femme that is both strangely drawn to and doesn't know what to write in forums like this one. so i type and delete and type and delete and type and delete because everything i write seems trite, falsely humble or blatantly self-serving.

the most honest thing i can come up with is that i'm the kind of femme that wants to feel safe and is tired of nodding her head when other people say "that feeling comes from inside of you, not outside of you". to those people i can only nod in logical agreement and say "thankyousoveryfuckoffmuch."

i'm the kind of femme that does one helluva lot wrong and maybe a little bit right and i hafta hang on to that little bit right because it makes me feel like rehabilitation might be possible. one day, with luck and some divine grace, i'll make a full recovery into realgrownuphumanbeinghood.

i'm the kind of femme with a lot of mouth and not too many brains but the brains i have work just fine so you can stop trying to dazzle me with your bull and your ridiculous excuses because i've heard them all and from smoother than you. i'm a sucker for charm and a fool for love and i may not hang around for a second helping of damnthishurtslikecrazy but i also don't just turn love off when the spit hits the spinny propeller thingy, so no matter where we end up neither one of us will be alone because i'm here for both of us until one of us is dead.

i'm the directionless femme that drags her raggletaggle girlfaith north, east and west when life is going south. i can mcgyver together some hope with a piece gum, a dozen broken promises, a sappy romance movie, two sticks and a dead bee. call me stupid. call me naive. just don't call me a taxi because i'll leave when i'm damn well ready and not a minute before. and before i go i'll beat that dead relationship horse until it gets up and walks again just to get away from me. and when you shake your head and say "you're crazy! let it go" i'll say "yup that's me, what of it? how am i hurting you by giving things another shot?" i'd rather give that dead horse a couple of kicks than lose the race because i didn't try.

i'm the kind of femme who misses out on connection because she hides her feelings from and refuses to show vulnerability to just anyone and the next person she does show it to better damn well cherish it or they can collect their ass at the door because i'm gonna hand it to them whenever i feel like it.

i'm the kind of femme that has grown into subtle wariness, becoming (unwillingly) harder on the outside because the inside of me refuses to be exposed to one more person who won't cherish and protect the genuinly warm girl that i am.

i'm the femme who pretends things are fine because people don't like to make room for them not to be. i lie and dissimulate in order to survive the ego responses of others and and i make no pretense about it anymore. everyone does it. i'm just the only person i know who's got the stones to admit it.

[Ginger]

Nomad’s post kind of gave me the spark to write this, because I too have felt some resistance to the question, What kind of femme are you?

I know there are categories of femme that I don’t belong to; I’m not a stone femme or a high femme (the latter I would have to say, not 24/7). I know my ethnic ID, my class ID. But I don’t know my femme ID.

Maybe a prompt will help: I’m the kind of femme that…

stops to pet dogs on the street.

But now all I’ve done is answer the question, What kind of person are you?

I picked up my new glasses tonight, and while they’re perfect, I couldn’t pretend I liked what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Maybe when I’m in this state of mind I block myself from knowing what kind of femme I am (shrug).

I'll try again.

I’m the kind of femme that...

loves smells and color but lives in her head.

Favorite recurring, comforting fantasy:

I live in a house deep in trees with moss, so it must be the south. There’s a front porch. It’s raining, but warm out. I’m barefoot. The planks on the porch are smooth and warm. The house is aqua, red and gold inside—my colors. It's dusk. There is food cooking on the stove, but I’m not cooking it. I’m watching for something, out in the woods. I'm calling to the person inside the house. I'm wearing shorts and I’m happy.

I’m not making up this fantasy, as I go along. I’ve had it for a long time, and it doesn’t make sense because I have no desire to live in the south, and I don’t know if I could live in the woods except on weekends (which I would love). I’ve lived in cities most of my life, and I like apartments with views of skylines, or on the first floor with access to a private garden.

In my last apartment, I could see the Chrysler building from the table where I sat to write at night and listen to music. It gave me a flash of happiness every time I looked up and rested my eyes on it poking up so hopeful and elegant in the midst of those stalwart, steep high rises.

Sometimes I think when I let myself drift into that fantasy of the house in rainy, mossy woods, I’m seeing into the future.

Is that the kind of femme I am? Clairvoyant?

Maybe. Or maybe I’m the kind of femme that lets herself drift intuitively in the right direction.

[sugarnspice]

I love reading these, i love being a member of such a beautiful and diverse group of people that always succeed in awing and inspiring me to be myself.

I am a femme inspired by other femmes <3

[rustedrims]

Thank you to all the femmes who posted.I read through them all.Very impressed with all the personalities,likes and dislikes.Putting it out there and this is why i love being in The Planet.

Ok now i read something about cookies.??
Where can i pick them up.??


Again,Thank you very much Ladies.



s.

[Nomad]

today i'm the kind of femme who has clutch problems. sometimes i hate cars.

[Lady_Di]

Originally Posted by rustedrims

Thank you to all the femmes who posted.I read through them all.Very impressed with all the personalities,likes and dislikes.Putting it out there and this is why i love being in The Planet.

Ok now i read something about cookies.??
Where can i pick them up.??


Again,Thank you very much Ladies.



s.

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

[nycfem]

Snickerdoodles please

Originally Posted by Lady_Di

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

[rustedrims]

Originally Posted by Lady_Di

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

YES THIS IS ABOUT COOKIES.!!!

Sometimes that is my meal for the day.I dont know why but it is a big thing with me now is to eat cookies.I love chocolate chip cookies with ice cold milk.My sister makes real good ones.Nice and chewey.I buy her a big bag of chocolate chips sometimes hoping to get some cookies when she bakes them but she has never given me any.Gotta be at her house at the right time to get any.If pressured into it i will drink tea with cookies just to get cookies..I have said cookies 7 times in this short message.I think i have a cookie problem.I like saying the word cookie.Ok now 9 times.Gotta go. I am getting the shakes from not having cookies.Gezzz 10.!!
Sorry ladies i got a little carried away.
I like reading how wonderful and different you all are.Very refreshing.
Thank-you all. still thinking about cookies.{11}.

s.

[rustedrims]

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

Snickerdoodles please

and snickerdoodles as a chaser
please and thank you

[aishah]

i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.

i am a femme shark. i am a mixed indigenous queer crip (disabled) femme. i am passionate about decolonizing femme and claiming femininity as a way of liberating myself so that i can work to transform my community. i celebrate queer disabled fat indigenous femme hotness. i break down normative desirability with my body and my breath.

i am a polyamorous femme with a huge heart. i am kind, loving, and warm to just about everyone i meet. i am the one people rely on for a ready smile and a hug. it is easy for me to love people, and i love hard. when i love you i love you to wholeness.

don't mistake my kindness for weakness. i am strong. physically i might not look like much but fuck with people i love and me and my tiny, ineffectual fists will fuck you up. i am dangerous precisely because i have survived so much and i am not afraid to die.

sometimes i am afraid to live, though. i live with ptsd and anxiety that sometimes scares me into silence and inaction. i do my best to have the courage to move forward with my life anyway.

i talk a lot of shit but i'm a femme teddy bear at heart.

i'm an empathic femme. i am hypersensitive to the needs and energies of people around me, and because of this and trauma, i am very conflict avoidant. sometimes it's a curse. sometimes it's a blessing - i would rather communicate through difficulty and change whatever is causing a problem than fight about it.

in my community i am a femme who holds shit down, hooks shit up, and makes shit happen. i dream transformation into being, bring people together, and make possible what people believed was impossible, one moment at a time. i can hold many sometimes contradicting visions at once. i am an educator and a facilitator.

i am a deeply religious and deeply spiritual femme. to me they are intertwined, as are my faith and my social justice work. together they form the reason i get up in the morning (or afternoon, depending on the day).

i am a stone femme. i am a sex worker. stone for me means that my work gives me emotional boundaries around sex...sometimes physical ones, too, depending on the situation. being stone is what allows my empathic, overly expressive femme self to work effectively. it is the only area of my life in which i compartmentalize.

i'm a baby girl and a submissive femme who loves to strap it on and top from time to time. i'm kinky as hell in bed but there's a special place in my heart for sweet vanilla sex. and i consider blow jobs an art form.

i am a sister and an auntie. i cannot be anyone's biological mother but in my community "ma" or "mama" is a term of respect and endearment and it means so much when people call me that. i am an orphan.

i'm a pajama femme. i am the sexiest jeans and t-shirt femme you'll ever meet. this is out of necessity for survival, but i'm beginning to embrace it, even if it makes me feel like an ugly duckling femme sometimes.

i am a homeless, rootless, and family-less femme who is creating home, community, and family for myself. i value what i know of where i come from and i trust that i am whole despite the gaps in my memory and history.