Summertime Truth or Dare

[aishah]

Originally Posted by ferret

aishah, here's a truth for you:

When have you loved someone who has not loved you back?

Sue

thanks, sue!

i have a bit of a talent for loving people who don't love me back. or being the one to fall really hard and not have it reciprocated. i've gotten better over the years about not expecting reciprocation and being careful about how much time/energy i invest in one-sided relationships, but i still love people and fall for people very easily.

my dad was probably the first person...it's possible that he did love me back and was just terrible at showing it, but he did some pretty horrible things to me and abandoned me and i kept putting myself out there. by the time he passed away, though, i'd started to learn a bit about boundaries, which has helped a lot in my other relationships.

when i first started college, i fell really hard for someone who was a few years ahead of me in the same field...we got to be great friends and there was a LOT of sexual tension. he was a huge player, though. and very dreamy (on a physical and intellectual level). we had really great chemistry. but he was not really interested in a relationship...and didn't have any feelings for me much beyond friendship/sexual chemistry. we did have mindblowing sex a couple of times...and i still have a soft spot in my heart for him. but we've both moved on.