A question for the butches....

jac · 07-19-2012, 06:11 PM

I like to leave the door of communication open and with invite. This has not always been the case with past relationships but I have learned from those experiences and have changed my patterns. Granted I was open and willing to hear what other past relationships had to say but I never went at it with this approach "Tell me whatever you want to experiment with..." I've mentioned this to her from the beginning and remind her periodically that "if she has something new she wants to try just let me know."

I enjoy the simple talks we have about sex and what it means to us as well I enjoy hearing it whispered in my ear what she wants. I really like it when we're in the throws of passion and something strikes her liking and she just says it out loud and with demand! However she presents her desires to me is how she will receive them...

I do however like the many other ideas that have been thrown out here.... role play is flippin' hot!! Uh huh!!

alexri · 07-31-2012, 06:39 PM

Have you thought about doing a checklist to bring up the conversation? I know it sounds administrative but it can be helpful. You can find some online or make your own, and on the checklist have different activities you might want to try, and you each circle yes/no/maybe. Another couple I know did this... they each had to come up with 10 new things they wanted to try in the bedroom. They typed/wrote out the things on pieces of paper, folded them up, and then each night they were going to be intimate/have sex, they picked a different thing out of the bowl. Each partner had veto power if the item picked was totally out of one's personal interest.

Or, you could buy each other some erotica books, or read some stories online, and then go over what you liked in certain stories...

07-19-2012, 06:11 PM	#1
jac Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,344 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,720 Thanked 16,492 Times in 2,972 Posts Rep Power: 0	I like to leave the door of communication open and with invite. This has not always been the case with past relationships but I have learned from those experiences and have changed my patterns. Granted I was open and willing to hear what other past relationships had to say but I never went at it with this approach "Tell me whatever you want to experiment with..." I've mentioned this to her from the beginning and remind her periodically that "if she has something new she wants to try just let me know." I enjoy the simple talks we have about sex and what it means to us as well I enjoy hearing it whispered in my ear what she wants. I really like it when we're in the throws of passion and something strikes her liking and she just says it out loud and with demand! However she presents her desires to me is how she will receive them... I do however like the many other ideas that have been thrown out here.... role play is flippin' hot!! Uh huh!!

07-31-2012, 06:39 PM	#2
alexri Member How Do You Identify?: - Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: - Posts: 549 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,209 Thanked 2,799 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Have you thought about doing a checklist to bring up the conversation? I know it sounds administrative but it can be helpful. You can find some online or make your own, and on the checklist have different activities you might want to try, and you each circle yes/no/maybe. Another couple I know did this... they each had to come up with 10 new things they wanted to try in the bedroom. They typed/wrote out the things on pieces of paper, folded them up, and then each night they were going to be intimate/have sex, they picked a different thing out of the bowl. Each partner had veto power if the item picked was totally out of one's personal interest. Or, you could buy each other some erotica books, or read some stories online, and then go over what you liked in certain stories...