The Fat Positive Lounge - Page 13

Soft*Silver · 07-15-2012, 02:34 PM

the grand opening was more than I ever hoped for! We had tons of customers and sold lots of clothes and so many people made appts to bring in clothes to consign! People loved the shop, and promised to come back again and bring friends with them! From teens to eldery ladies, they all came. I was so proud of my store!

My sister and my niece came for support. Bless their hearts. I couldnt have done this without my family and friends who have been there for me. Including this forum! I will be posting photos later, of the incredible art work the Scrapbooking thread folks made for the store. It says "you are so beautiful" and I have it across the bannisters in the back, so that when people walk in, they see the sign greeting them. Its LOVELY!

I am home, feet up, relaxing. I am BEAT. LOL. But I am so tickled that my store is finally opened!

LeftWriteFemme · 07-20-2012, 03:34 PM

I ran across these.......thought they were sweet....but the name of the ad campaign caused me to post them here

http://www.designboom.com/weblog/cat...-campaign.html

Leigh · 07-20-2012, 04:29 PM

I'm starting to really embrace my size, its a slow process but I'm gonna get there no matter how long it takes me

Soft*Silver · 07-20-2012, 06:48 PM

it happened again. And older woman came into my store and after she had touched (and I mean that..touched, not gone through) three racks, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said "I am so glad you are here"

this astounds me every time.

It also astounds me when I ask women what size they are, so i can help them look, sometimes their faces change, like I just insulted them. I asked them for a number. Not if they had masturbated that morning. But I might as well have! Fear, anger, shame, fierce self protectiveness from cruelty....man it all races across their face. I have learned to hold their eyes and smile...softly...not too much because then it becomes obscene. A soft smile with soft eyes, as tho to say "ease up missus, I mean you no harm"

and sure enough, they ease up. They realize they are safe to say that number out loud. No one is going to laugh. Or taunt. Or sneer. Nor shame.

I watch as people pass by my window display where it is written what sizes we carry. Women sometimes stop in, but sometimes, I see the look change from curious, to that innate sense of fight or flight and they run...women who are obviously plus size. These women, I figure, are so out of body, they cannot even conceive of being seen reading a plus size store window....I could be misreading them but I have seen this occur several times. They turn tail and run away...

I had a dog and her owner come into the store today. Her missus didnt want to come in but I beckoned her. I need to keep a treat bowl for pups in the store!

Some children came in with mom, and they were SO EXCITED I had a play area. And were so good..they picked up after themselves. Mom was SO EXCITED she could shop without kids whining they were bored. I did good!

I had a steady flow of customers all day. My biggest fear was I would create this shop and no one would come. And the people coming, are coming in from very little advertising. Just wait until I get more marketing out there!

Life...is good.

Beloved · 07-21-2012, 04:43 AM

I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW.

Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 06:45 AM

Thanks, Beloved! You and anyone, whether thin or fat or whatever size, are very welcome here to lurk or post! I just wanted to carve out a little space where someone could go to get some body positive energy and support

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Originally Posted by Beloved

I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW.

Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 07:23 AM

One of my favorite artists is Jan Saudek. I love his unapologetic embrace of women's "flaws." Not sure if this image will work but:

In the same way that a scar can be seen as sexy, so too can a roll of fat or a body that has unusual proportions.

LeftWriteFemme · 07-21-2012, 07:40 AM

http://www.starling-fitness.com/arch...and-beautiful/

LeftWriteFemme · 07-21-2012, 07:50 AM

Okay the guy who writes this is just weird and supportive in that back handed arched eyebrow sort of way......

this is Beth Ditto .....not the author of Nibbly Pig

http://nibblypig.wordpress.com/2009/...-and-1-dd-cup/

LeftWriteFemme · 07-21-2012, 08:04 AM

Leigh · 07-21-2012, 09:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beloved

I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW.

Welcome to the thread Beloved,

I truly don't think that this is just for celebrating people of size, but celebrating people as a whole. Far too often our society places beauty in the context of size, making alot of us think that being skinny/slim etc is the key to being beautiful ~ of course the rest of us know better, but when we are inundated with images of thin women and people believe that those pics are the end all be all of beauty it gets frustrating. Its about time that society begin to embrace all of its imperfections ~ if God wanted us all to be skinny then he'd have made us that way, but he didn't so I believe that we are all who we are for a very good reason ........... lets all remember to embrace ourselves, love ourselves however we look and know that we are worth being valued as human beings

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 08:38 PM

Wow, LWF, this was great! I would love to do roly poly kissagrams

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Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

LeftWriteFemme · 07-21-2012, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

Wow, LWF, this was great! I would love to do roly poly kissagrams

I am sure you would be great at it!

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 09:19 PM

Love the main woman in this segment!

[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sH1tlbAgE5U&feature=related"]Fat Acceptance Part 1 - YouTube[/nomedia]

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 09:53 PM

Love all the confidence, energy, and fun in this. It's all about not putting life on hold and learning to love oneself!

[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0fZvC581tc&feature=related"]Fox 11 Special Report: Done with Dieting - YouTube[/nomedia]

LeftWriteFemme · 08-04-2012, 11:15 AM

nycfem · 08-04-2012, 12:40 PM

Love this, LWF! OutKast sings another favorite mine: Ms. Jackson (can never get the tune out of my head!)

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Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

nycfem · 08-05-2012, 07:53 PM

Feminism, weight, and the Olympics!

http://sports.yahoo.com/news/fat-fit...HRlc3QD;_ylv=3

Licious · 08-07-2012, 10:48 PM

Congrats Tia!

I had hurt my shoulder so I was mostly offline for a while.

I am back!

Thank you all so much. I am still trying to learn to love my size and feel sexy in this body, it's hard for me.

I appreciate you all.. and you all inspire me. Bless you.

Am watching the youtubes. *waves to everyone*

sharonsuburbia · 08-08-2012, 12:09 AM

can a thinnish feme plop down here?

07-15-2012, 02:34 PM	#241
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	the grand opening was more than I ever hoped for! We had tons of customers and sold lots of clothes and so many people made appts to bring in clothes to consign! People loved the shop, and promised to come back again and bring friends with them! From teens to eldery ladies, they all came. I was so proud of my store! My sister and my niece came for support. Bless their hearts. I couldnt have done this without my family and friends who have been there for me. Including this forum! I will be posting photos later, of the incredible art work the Scrapbooking thread folks made for the store. It says "you are so beautiful" and I have it across the bannisters in the back, so that when people walk in, they see the sign greeting them. Its LOVELY! I am home, feet up, relaxing. I am BEAT. LOL. But I am so tickled that my store is finally opened! __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-20-2012, 03:34 PM	#242
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,293 Times in 5,185 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I ran across these.......thought they were sweet....but the name of the ad campaign caused me to post them here http://www.designboom.com/weblog/cat...-campaign.html __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-20-2012, 04:29 PM	#243
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I'm starting to really embrace my size, its a slow process but I'm gonna get there no matter how long it takes me __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

07-20-2012, 06:48 PM	#244
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	it happened again. And older woman came into my store and after she had touched (and I mean that..touched, not gone through) three racks, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said "I am so glad you are here" this astounds me every time. It also astounds me when I ask women what size they are, so i can help them look, sometimes their faces change, like I just insulted them. I asked them for a number. Not if they had masturbated that morning. But I might as well have! Fear, anger, shame, fierce self protectiveness from cruelty....man it all races across their face. I have learned to hold their eyes and smile...softly...not too much because then it becomes obscene. A soft smile with soft eyes, as tho to say "ease up missus, I mean you no harm" and sure enough, they ease up. They realize they are safe to say that number out loud. No one is going to laugh. Or taunt. Or sneer. Nor shame. I watch as people pass by my window display where it is written what sizes we carry. Women sometimes stop in, but sometimes, I see the look change from curious, to that innate sense of fight or flight and they run...women who are obviously plus size. These women, I figure, are so out of body, they cannot even conceive of being seen reading a plus size store window....I could be misreading them but I have seen this occur several times. They turn tail and run away... I had a dog and her owner come into the store today. Her missus didnt want to come in but I beckoned her. I need to keep a treat bowl for pups in the store! Some children came in with mom, and they were SO EXCITED I had a play area. And were so good..they picked up after themselves. Mom was SO EXCITED she could shop without kids whining they were bored. I did good! I had a steady flow of customers all day. My biggest fear was I would create this shop and no one would come. And the people coming, are coming in from very little advertising. Just wait until I get more marketing out there! Life...is good. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-21-2012, 07:40 AM	#248
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,293 Times in 5,185 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	http://www.starling-fitness.com/arch...and-beautiful/ __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-21-2012, 04:43 AM	#245
Beloved Member How Do You Identify?: alive Preferred Pronoun?: um Relationship Status: married Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: on the stars Posts: 460 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,415 Thanked 1,653 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 19348703	I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW. Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.

07-21-2012, 07:23 AM	#247
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	One of my favorite artists is Jan Saudek. I love his unapologetic embrace of women's "flaws." Not sure if this image will work but: In the same way that a scar can be seen as sexy, so too can a roll of fat or a body that has unusual proportions.

07-21-2012, 07:50 AM	#249
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,293 Times in 5,185 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Okay the guy who writes this is just weird and supportive in that back handed arched eyebrow sort of way...... this is Beth Ditto .....not the author of Nibbly Pig http://nibblypig.wordpress.com/2009/...-and-1-dd-cup/ __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat Last edited by nycfem; 07-21-2012 at 08:04 AM.

07-21-2012, 08:04 AM	#250
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,293 Times in 5,185 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	found this interesting, too __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-21-2012, 09:19 PM	#254
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Love the main woman in this segment! [nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sH1tlbAgE5U&feature=related"]Fat Acceptance Part 1 - YouTube[/nomedia]

07-21-2012, 09:53 PM	#255
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Love all the confidence, energy, and fun in this. It's all about not putting life on hold and learning to love oneself! [nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0fZvC581tc&feature=related"]Fox 11 Special Report: Done with Dieting - YouTube[/nomedia]

08-04-2012, 11:15 AM	#256
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,293 Times in 5,185 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Have you all seen this? especially 2:15 __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

08-05-2012, 07:53 PM	#258
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Feminism, weight, and the Olympics! http://sports.yahoo.com/news/fat-fit...HRlc3QD;_ylv=3

08-07-2012, 10:48 PM	#259
Licious Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,502 Thanked 1,973 Times in 546 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Congrats Tia! I had hurt my shoulder so I was mostly offline for a while. I am back! Thank you all so much. I am still trying to learn to love my size and feel sexy in this body, it's hard for me. I appreciate you all.. and you all inspire me. Bless you. Am watching the youtubes. waves to everyone __________________ Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth. ~Rumi

08-08-2012, 12:09 AM	#260
sharonsuburbia Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ny Posts: 168 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 94 Thanked 105 Times in 43 Posts Rep Power: 465697	can a thinnish feme plop down here?