Been in NYC for a month now..

Nadeest · 07-22-2012, 06:59 AM

Hang in there, Taylor. You can do this. I agree with the counselor, getting back on T is important for you. I think that it will help you enormously, emotionally, as it will help you feel that you are making progress. It was the same way for me, when I was finally able to get laser to help clear my facial hairs. Things feel so much better for me, now, since I got that done.

theoddz · 07-22-2012, 07:46 AM

Taylor, so many really good suggestions here!! Nadeest is so right here about doing all you can to get back on T as soon as you can. Did you know that T has antidepressant effects....and not just psychological ones?? It also can make you feel more energetic and more "focused", mentally. These are even more important to you now.

Snowy also has a very important suggestion, too, about getting out and meeting people. Networking is a seriously imporant tool for getting a job these days. Do everything you can to meet as many people as you can and let them know you're looking for work. Also, are you a Veteran?? There are a LOT of new programs out there to help put Vets back to work. If you want more info on this, PM me.

Lastly, hang in there and keep your faith up. Don't allow the small stuff to sidetrack you from the task at hand. You only have ONE thing that you ever have to do in life and that is...SURVIVE. Eerything else is incidental.

Take care, best of luck and keep stirring!!

Sorry for the typos here....I'm on my Blackberry.

Theo

DMW · 08-06-2012, 10:24 PM

Hey Talyor Man, sounds like you are making progress. That is a good thing. I have been in the situation you are in...more than once. Still have learning to do. UnfortuNotly.

NYC is a good city to be in. Got a great Dr. (general practitioner), i could recommend. Moving away from family kinda puts a guilt on ya. Feel responsible and all that. And then there are a bunch of new added pressures along with the move.
Moving is one of the most stressful things for people. So, that is going to be a normal feeling.You gotta try and let the that go and focus on a bit at a time. Like the Oddz said... the one thing we gotta do is survive first.

Oh, i worried about spending my money on T too, cause i didn't have a job, (so, i was like..i don't have to have this to survive)... and i waited... Bad decision. I shoulda just used my damn credit card. Don't put it off like i did.
Sounds like you have other medications that are probably more important for you than T. Please go to someone to get those. I hope you already did.

Pardon me for saying this, here, in public...but, your Mother stating that this is "something you've done." Is not the correct thing to say to you in this context. You have chosen this as a positive for you in your life. She needs to choose to not blame you... as if ,taking care of yourself is something shameful or wrong or bad. For myself, it wasn't a choice to transition...it was a necessity.
She is probably sad that you are gone. That isn't your fault. It isn't about blame.

Some really great advice here from the others. Nice reminder for me too.
I am glad that you are happy about the move. I am glad you love it there.
I hope you got a job. Or, get one in time. Oh, make sure you have someone look over your reSUME...ResZOOOOMe and cover letter... for typos and for good input.

Later and
Keep the Faith

07-22-2012, 07:46 AM	#2
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Cranky Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Married to a beautiful babe whom I don't deserve. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,163 Thanked 9,939 Times in 2,516 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Taylor, so many really good suggestions here!! Nadeest is so right here about doing all you can to get back on T as soon as you can. Did you know that T has antidepressant effects....and not just psychological ones?? It also can make you feel more energetic and more "focused", mentally. These are even more important to you now. Snowy also has a very important suggestion, too, about getting out and meeting people. Networking is a seriously imporant tool for getting a job these days. Do everything you can to meet as many people as you can and let them know you're looking for work. Also, are you a Veteran?? There are a LOT of new programs out there to help put Vets back to work. If you want more info on this, PM me. Lastly, hang in there and keep your faith up. Don't allow the small stuff to sidetrack you from the task at hand. You only have ONE thing that you ever have to do in life and that is...SURVIVE. Eerything else is incidental. Take care, best of luck and keep stirring!! Sorry for the typos here....I'm on my Blackberry. Theo __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien

08-06-2012, 10:24 PM	#3
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,857 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Hey Talyor Man, sounds like you are making progress. That is a good thing. I have been in the situation you are in...more than once. Still have learning to do. UnfortuNotly. NYC is a good city to be in. Got a great Dr. (general practitioner), i could recommend. Moving away from family kinda puts a guilt on ya. Feel responsible and all that. And then there are a bunch of new added pressures along with the move. Moving is one of the most stressful things for people. So, that is going to be a normal feeling.You gotta try and let the that go and focus on a bit at a time. Like the Oddz said... the one thing we gotta do is survive first. Oh, i worried about spending my money on T too, cause i didn't have a job, (so, i was like..i don't have to have this to survive)... and i waited... Bad decision. I shoulda just used my damn credit card. Don't put it off like i did. Sounds like you have other medications that are probably more important for you than T. Please go to someone to get those. I hope you already did. Pardon me for saying this, here, in public...but, your Mother stating that this is "something you've done." Is not the correct thing to say to you in this context. You have chosen this as a positive for you in your life. She needs to choose to not blame you... as if ,taking care of yourself is something shameful or wrong or bad. For myself, it wasn't a choice to transition...it was a necessity. She is probably sad that you are gone. That isn't your fault. It isn't about blame. Some really great advice here from the others. Nice reminder for me too. I am glad that you are happy about the move. I am glad you love it there. I hope you got a job. Or, get one in time. Oh, make sure you have someone look over your reSUME...ResZOOOOMe and cover letter... for typos and for good input. Later and Keep the Faith Last edited by DMW; 08-06-2012 at 10:27 PM.

07-22-2012, 06:59 AM	#1
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	Hang in there, Taylor. You can do this. I agree with the counselor, getting back on T is important for you. I think that it will help you enormously, emotionally, as it will help you feel that you are making progress. It was the same way for me, when I was finally able to get laser to help clear my facial hairs. Things feel so much better for me, now, since I got that done.