Changing last names

Corkey · 08-16-2012, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

We live in MA, so I'm 99% sure all we have to is indicate our "married name" on the marriage license.

Make sure, go to the court house and ask for the most up to date regulations, trust me, because it is not yet legal in the US, you may have other papers to file. And they cost too.

LaneyDoll · 08-16-2012, 09:38 PM

When I got married at 24, I changed my name & did so gladly. I endured YEARS of people making fun of my maiden name, mispronouncing it, being unable to spell it-even after telling them countless times. Now, I have a last name that you can at least pronounce when you see it.

Riley does not want to get married. And, I am still trying to finalize the divorce that I have actively been working to obtain for over a year now; I have not lived with the ex for over four years. Divorce is NOT designed for people who have limited means. As such, when Riley says "I am never getting married" I reply, "Good, then we can just live in sin."

I do not think I would ever change my name again. I have the name that my kids have-and that is enough for me.

Daywalker · 08-16-2012, 10:02 PM

She Hyphenated to add my last name.

I added Day Walker in as my legal middle name now.

Martina · 08-16-2012, 10:31 PM

There are a number of partriarchal cultures in which women are viewed as property -- as most cultures do -- but in which wives do not change their names.

There are few commonalities among those that do or that don't. So the custom itself does not consistently MEAN anything.

One take on it could be that in cultures where women do change their names, they were more openly welcomed into their husband's kinship group. They were not simply a necessity of exogamy, strangers brought in and tolerated in order to produce the next generation.

I don't subscribe to this theory either. Similar behaviors mean very different things in different cultures.

08-16-2012, 09:38 PM	#2
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	When I got married at 24, I changed my name & did so gladly. I endured YEARS of people making fun of my maiden name, mispronouncing it, being unable to spell it-even after telling them countless times. Now, I have a last name that you can at least pronounce when you see it. Riley does not want to get married. And, I am still trying to finalize the divorce that I have actively been working to obtain for over a year now; I have not lived with the ex for over four years. Divorce is NOT designed for people who have limited means. As such, when Riley says "I am never getting married" I reply, "Good, then we can just live in sin." I do not think I would ever change my name again. I have the name that my kids have-and that is enough for me. __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

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Daywalker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 3,750 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,499 Thanked 11,917 Times in 2,700 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	She Hyphenated to add my last name. I added Day Walker in as my legal middle name now. __________________ www.SirDaywalker.com

08-16-2012, 10:31 PM	#4
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,289 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	There are a number of partriarchal cultures in which women are viewed as property -- as most cultures do -- but in which wives do not change their names. There are few commonalities among those that do or that don't. So the custom itself does not consistently MEAN anything. One take on it could be that in cultures where women do change their names, they were more openly welcomed into their husband's kinship group. They were not simply a necessity of exogamy, strangers brought in and tolerated in order to produce the next generation. I don't subscribe to this theory either. Similar behaviors mean very different things in different cultures.