1st name basis at work

stephfromMIT · 08-21-2012, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Dude, do you ever post in any threads, or just start them?

I am only joking around with you. I think that most of the threads that you have started have been interesting.

I don't think you are going to get many takers on this one, though. I don't know how much discussion could come about on this topic.

Glad you're j/k. The reason I start so many is because I like to learn about folks. I made this a separate from my "TA assignment" thread because I thought they didn't work as 1 post (as dumb as that sounds)

Corkey · 08-21-2012, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

Glad you're j/k. The reason I start so many is because I like to learn about folks. I made this a separate from my "TA assignment" thread because I thought they didn't work as 1 post (as dumb as that sounds)

What I do is read folks posts, gives me a clue as to who they are. I'm differently abled and therefore have massive amounts of time to devote to reading, which I do every day. Start posting in some of the fluffy threads and you'll find out quite a bit about people.

some of us have been around for years, some are newbies like yerself. We all start somewhere

spritzerJ · 08-21-2012, 07:24 PM

I teach in an elementary school. Amongst our teacher selves we go by first names. Usually I learn the last names first since I am often addressing others in front of students. But elementary school is a weird world... Mrs. Lines I notice your class is so quiet in the hall...

aishah · 08-21-2012, 08:41 PM

when i was in college i addressed professors by their title and tas by their first name (mostly because we were in a lot of classes together as students). when i was in grad school i addressed everyone by their first name, though it took me some time to adjust. in every other job i've always addressed bosses and coworkers by their first name.

nowadays i work for myself and i address just about everyone by their first name. i'm a pretty informal person and i prefer to relate to people on a human level, without a lot of power plays, so i don't like it when people address me by titles either.

i mean, i'm a southerner at heart and i ma'am and sir most folks older than me, but i can't think of any situations offhand now where i address people by titles anymore...i'm on a first name basis even with most of my doctors now. i grew up addressing people by their titles and it took several years of being in situations where it was normal to address everyone by their first name for me to start being okay with it. especially at church and places like that.

stephfromMIT · 08-21-2012, 09:57 PM

aisha-Calling profs by their 1st name is something I never got used to. I also never quit lost the habit of raising my hand.

P.S.- thanks for the point about calling TAs by 1st names. I wondered how to direct my charges.

Martina · 08-21-2012, 10:22 PM

I would say that I called about half of my profs "Professor Whatever" and half by their first names.

I am currently a public school teacher. I address my colleagues as Mr. and Ms. in front of the kids, which is most of the time. It takes me a while to learn the first names of teachers I don't see often.

Where I was in grad school, professors were addressed as "Professor." Using "Doctor" was pretentious. No one did it although I know of schools where it's common.

So when administrators with Ph.D's go by Doctor, it makes me a little nauseous. But then administrators make me a little nauseous.

ruffryder · 08-21-2012, 10:23 PM

I would address professors as "Professor" and whatever their name was unless they asked to be called by their first name and sometimes that is the case. As for my work colleagues I call them by their first names. Since I work at a upscale 4 star hotel people like to use Sir, Ma'am, Miss, Mr alot and we get a lot of the management doing this with their subordinates. Personally I hate it and ask people to just call me by my name and I will not address someone as Sir, Ma'am, Mr, Miss unless I am sure that is what they want. I have also addressed people by their last name. great thread!

Toughy · 08-21-2012, 11:41 PM

I get my healthcare at the SF VA Medical Center. All of the staff (and I mean all...doctors, nurses, physical/occupational therapist, clerks at the clinics, etc) refer to patients as Ms ________ or Mr or Mrs or Miss. It makes me nuts cuz I am always looking around for my mother (who passed 20 years ago) when I hear Ms _________, How are you today?.

My primary care provider for the last 6 years is a nurse practitioner. I call her by her first name and always have. One day I asked her why she called me Ms _______ and her response was it is a sign of respect, plus it is hospital policy. I asked her to call me by my first name and she just cannot seem to do that. I on occasion will call her Nurse Practitioner __________ and that makes her laugh.

When I was active duty we all addressed each other by our rank except when hanging out or amongst our peers. Every place I worked as a civilian we all addressed each other by our first name/nickname.

I think the formality of how we address each other is certainly dependent on the job we do.

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I would say that I called about half of my profs "Professor Whatever" and half by their first names. I am currently a public school teacher. I address my colleagues as Mr. and Ms. in front of the kids, which is most of the time. It takes me a while to learn the first names of teachers I don't see often. Where I was in grad school, professors were addressed as "Professor." Using "Doctor" was pretentious. No one did it although I know of schools where it's common. So when administrators with Ph.D's go by Doctor, it makes me a little nauseous. But then administrators make me a little nauseous.

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