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08-30-2012, 10:09 AM
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I have found myself going for coffee and just socializing, only to discover that it was perceived as a date. Hence, I think there was a book written or maybe I read it some where that was something like " Is just coffee or is it a date?" Over the years I have learned how I handle these situations. I will state just for coffee or dinner. I will do this kind of hanging out not exclusively with one Femme. It is a toss up as to whether or not it I go dutch on the bill. It is definitely not a date if we go dutch, in my book. When it comes to dating....and it has been awhile since I have dated, I date monogamously. I will ask about dating exclusively because for me, it is I have found something in that Femme that is attractive to me and I want to tempt the fates as to whether or not this would be the beginning of a romantic match... at which point it would turn into courting. To me, hanging out is just that, socializing one on one. Dating, to me, is the prelude to finding the happily ever after, the white picket fence, and I can only do that monogamously. There are those that can date multiple people.... I am one that cannot. You have to decide which fits you best and be open in your communication as to what you want and what is acceptable for you. As I have gotten older, my needs have changed. At one time I was very open to long distance relationships. That option is no longer one that I can do. So, no matter whom I may be crushing on, unless they are willing to move here, I will not entertain the possibilities of dating. I have circumstances in my life that I cannot move. So, once I do decide to enter in the dating scene, it will be local....which there seems to be very few Femmes in this large metro area!
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08-30-2012, 05:17 PM
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I suppose I'll jump in here, lol. Id like to know what dating looks like, or, more accurately what A DATE looks like
 In my most recent (ended) relationship I was introduced by a mutual friend and it progressed quickly from dating to a monogamous r/s. After that, it just felt like hanging out all the time. Sigh.....I'd like to be courted for a while and actually go on dates, real dates. The kind where you dress nicely, care about how you smell and maybe your palms get a lil sweaty, yanno? |
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08-31-2012, 04:32 AM
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Happy Friday! TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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08-31-2012, 06:26 AM
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08-31-2012, 01:16 PM
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I hope everyone has a great weekend! I'm preparing for surgery and will have tons of "down time", sigh.....not sure how to do that, but I bet I can learn fast
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08-31-2012, 07:49 PM
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Lola I hope your surgery goes well....rest is sometimes a welcome change albeit hard to get used to....been there once for 4 months...did alot of reading..."s".....
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who wonders what in the hell a date is. And it would definitely be nice to have someone to court. The last person I was interested in...Things went way too fast, and then crashed and burned in a big way. I think I'd like to go a little bit slower next time and actually get to know the person. No reason why there should be any rush, you know?
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