LGBT friends you have IRL

Martina · 09-02-2012, 09:59 PM

Straight friends are the exception here in CA. I am kinky, and I find some straight kinky folk to be on the creepy side. Strangely I haven't made a lot of friends from work. My former aide was great, but she has small children and now lives relatively far away. We just never kept up after I left that job.

Back home, in Ann Arbor, most of my friends were made during graduate school, so some straight, some gay. Mostly straight. Mostly guys. My closest friend from Ann Arbor is a gay man. He called the other night. It was great. We don't talk as much as we should. Combine cell phones with hearing loss and sometimes it's just not worth it.

stephfromMIT · 09-02-2012, 10:05 PM

Forgot to mention-Todd and Zach will marry as soon as Todd finishes his MBA. (4 more years)

aishah · 09-02-2012, 10:19 PM

my friend dawn and her wife anna were the first happily married couple (straight or queer) that i ever met. dawn and i met in college and she's doing graduate work in library science right now. they've been married about 15 years. i was also lucky to have a lot of awesome queer friends when i lived in charlottesville from 2009-2011. there were a lot of struggles around classism, transphobia, and other issues in the queer community when i lived there but i met some cool people.

i'm lucky to have a big extended radical queer and trans* family (of all ages), many of whom i see once or twice a year at events like the allied media conference or the lgbt muslim retreat. we communicate daily/weekly via fb and sometimes phone or skype.

locally in lawrence i'm part of a youth group - mostly middle and high school aged queer and trans* youth - of really amazing people. i've also gotten to know several other folks in their 20s and 30s here who are radical, queer, and do social justice work, and have made some friends. we're talking about possibly opening a youth center together here. i've gotten to know a few older folks through church and local and state advocacy orgs.

unfortunately the poly and kinky communities in kansas tend to be really straight and a bit creepy as martina said...i've been trying to get to know people involved in polyamory and kink here and it's been pretty hit or miss so far.

nycfem · 09-02-2012, 11:04 PM

Fun thread, Stephanie!

Living in NYC, wow, lots of LGBT friends, so lucky this way! My gay younger brother lives nearby me and we share a lot of friends. For instance, we have a completely queer Passover Seder. And not only is it queer, but it's radical, progressive, political, and so fucking gender bending! I love that I have the opportunity to live my life this way these days. When I grew up in Ohio, it was not like that! I did find one gay friend in high school (a guy) but that was it! I can think of one cisgender self-defining heterosexual close friend I have. BUT even with her, once I ate her pussy during college while we were watching porn and she loved it

durrrrrrrr · 09-02-2012, 11:20 PM

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lusciouskiwi · 09-02-2012, 11:29 PM

Now that I know what IRL means ... I have several colleagues who are lesbian or gay. One butch friend I know from when we were both teaching in South Korea (she let me paint her toe nails blue after we had sex once). She's over here with her gf in the same project but different employer. Another mate (the one I spent the weekend with) same company as mate above, I also know him from South Korea and he's also from NZ. We had a great time talking about gay and lesbian sex, positions and lube, etc. I have a couple of other lesbian couple colleagues in my company - one couple I don't interact with (I'm not cool enough), the other I do and saw them twice during the school holidays while they were on the island.

I also have a couple of Malaysian lesbian mates who are also school teachers - one's a high school English teacher (and very bossy! LOL), the other was in the primary school division but now she's doing something else (not sure what).

I don't see my queer mates nearly enough and must change that.

Strappie · 09-02-2012, 11:35 PM

Growing up I didn't know any gay people so I didn't have any role models. I came from a very small town. I graduated with 38 people. When I got out of HS I discovered a whole new world of gay and lesbians. Now living in Minneapolis, MN I can honestly say I have well over 100 gay and lesbian friends. Even more if I counted friends of friends. So I am very lucky to live where I do. I would say I have at least 50 friends that I call 4am friends, ones that if I was in trouble, would come to my rescue at 4am. I one lucky person!

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,285 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Straight friends are the exception here in CA. I am kinky, and I find some straight kinky folk to be on the creepy side. Strangely I haven't made a lot of friends from work. My former aide was great, but she has small children and now lives relatively far away. We just never kept up after I left that job. Back home, in Ann Arbor, most of my friends were made during graduate school, so some straight, some gay. Mostly straight. Mostly guys. My closest friend from Ann Arbor is a gay man. He called the other night. It was great. We don't talk as much as we should. Combine cell phones with hearing loss and sometimes it's just not worth it.

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aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,442 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	my friend dawn and her wife anna were the first happily married couple (straight or queer) that i ever met. dawn and i met in college and she's doing graduate work in library science right now. they've been married about 15 years. i was also lucky to have a lot of awesome queer friends when i lived in charlottesville from 2009-2011. there were a lot of struggles around classism, transphobia, and other issues in the queer community when i lived there but i met some cool people. i'm lucky to have a big extended radical queer and trans* family (of all ages), many of whom i see once or twice a year at events like the allied media conference or the lgbt muslim retreat. we communicate daily/weekly via fb and sometimes phone or skype. locally in lawrence i'm part of a youth group - mostly middle and high school aged queer and trans* youth - of really amazing people. i've also gotten to know several other folks in their 20s and 30s here who are radical, queer, and do social justice work, and have made some friends. we're talking about possibly opening a youth center together here. i've gotten to know a few older folks through church and local and state advocacy orgs. unfortunately the poly and kinky communities in kansas tend to be really straight and a bit creepy as martina said...i've been trying to get to know people involved in polyamory and kink here and it's been pretty hit or miss so far.

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