Do you cuddle?

The_Lady_Snow · 09-09-2012, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by laruss

I love to cuddle, to hug, to touch, and to be close to someone I love.

What I don't like is when someone I don't want to touch me seems to think it is perfectly acceptable to invade my space, my body. If you have to constantly tell someone to back off, there is a problem.

There needs to be an understanding between the two people involved and I really think that there needs to be a touch compatibility. If you are a cuddler/toucher and the other person is not it really can't work long term, because someone is not getting their needs met.

Agreed on the understanding and negotiation of how much of my space you (general) think you are going to suck up. It is not a good idea to hook up, fuck, have a relationship with someone who doesn't find *cuddling* necessary to feel ok.

Negotiating touch and what's a healthy boundary so that neither party feel suffocated is a good idea when it comes to this kind of thing.

Great points laruss!!

Beloved · 09-09-2012, 12:13 PM

Cuddling is a little bit on heaven here on Earth.

princessbelle · 09-09-2012, 12:21 PM

Good point about boundaries.

I am very cuddly and touchy feely and huggy. But, i also respect boundaries. I won't just grab you and pull you in for a bear hug if i don't know you, or if i know you are a type of person that needs space.

Inclination, intuition, respect and ques are important when thinking about personal space of others.

Common courtesy comes to mind.

SleepyButch · 09-09-2012, 12:25 PM

I had someone give me a hug the other day and when I went to release, she didn't. So I hugged tighter. I realized at that time how good it felt to be embraced. I had not felt that in awhile.

I like to do the holding but I do like to be held as well.

09-09-2012, 12:21 PM	#3
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Good point about boundaries. I am very cuddly and touchy feely and huggy. But, i also respect boundaries. I won't just grab you and pull you in for a bear hug if i don't know you, or if i know you are a type of person that needs space. Inclination, intuition, respect and ques are important when thinking about personal space of others. Common courtesy comes to mind. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,248 Times in 2,754 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I had someone give me a hug the other day and when I went to release, she didn't. So I hugged tighter. I realized at that time how good it felt to be embraced. I had not felt that in awhile. I like to do the holding but I do like to be held as well. __________________ . You cannot embrace those things that will not embrace you back.

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Beloved Member How Do You Identify?: alive Preferred Pronoun?: um Relationship Status: married Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: on the stars Posts: 460 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,415 Thanked 1,653 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 19348703	Cuddling is a little bit on heaven here on Earth.