What Women Have Helped You Become Who You Are Today?

Corkey · 03-11-2010, 05:50 PM

My Mom, Rosa Parks, Maya Angelou, Jane Goodall, Marie Curie, Dianne Feinstein, Ellen. These are but a few, there are many more.

Jett · 03-11-2010, 06:59 PM

Hands down 1# was my mom, she wasn't perfect but she was one hell of a strong woman... I could never thank her enough if I had had a thousand years for all she has given.

julieisafemme · 03-11-2010, 07:17 PM

My Mom, Deborah, Jane, Maggie and Murphy, my sisters, Natalie and many folks here.

Gemme · 03-11-2010, 07:55 PM

I loved my mom and she did the best that she could, but most of her inadvertant lessons were trenched in what I shouldn't do or who I shouldn't be versus what to do and who to be and the like. So, while she did help mold me, it became more about how not to be like my mom than anything else. She was a very selfless person though and that is something I try to keep in mind as I make my way through the world.

The women that helped mold me the most were my best friend (though a child at the time) and her mother, my surrogate mother. As I grew up and out, my second husband's mother and I were close until her death.

A few years later, I found another site and met so many wonderful, beautiful femmes and they helped me define myself and to grow, not only as a femme, but as a human being. I've looked to them when I needed clarification, off and on, for years now and they've never steered me wrong. Arwen, Bit, Diva, and Laura (until her passing a few years ago) have been exceptionally important to me and my growth.

femmeInterrupted · 02-06-2013, 01:27 PM

Women that helped me become who I am today:

My mother: for allowing me to wear formal dresses and faux fur to grade school, because I’d insist on being dressed ‘properly’, even though ‘dressing properly’ meant I looked like a fat little Portuguese drag queen. (seriously, i have pictures--it's crazy!)

My high school Theatre Arts Teacher/Mentor Leah, who taught me the inherent value of a great pair of stiletto heels, AND how to walk in them!

My grandmothers who worked hard, loved harder, and taught me all I know about loyalty and fierce love, to never accept 'acceptance' and demand instead embracing and rejoicing.

The feminist women, all of them, who walked and plowed the road before me.

All the women I have worked with, who have shared their stories, and tears, and have shown me that moments of grace are possible in the most f*cked up situations, that laughter comes just when you need it, sometimes right in the middle of a huge, snot bubbling, donkey braying sob fest, and that we are strong, resilient, magnificent creatures.

~ocean · 02-06-2013, 01:57 PM

MY grandmother was my mentor ~ she was a survivor ~ leader ~ femminist ~ a foreigner who was proud to be an american ~ artist w/ her hands ~ tender and loving ~ all that a woman has to offer ~ and myself ~ I like who I am ~

Bard · 02-06-2013, 02:04 PM

my nanny C. Louise Long she took care of me from the time I was a month old in a way it was the best gift my mother gave me the unconditional love the my mommy2 gave me literately saved my life her daughter Barbara also shaped me and even tried to get custody of me when i was 16.. later in life it has been my stepmother Jen who was my friend and never pushed but she is always there

03-11-2010, 05:50 PM	#1
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,270 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	My Mom, Rosa Parks, Maya Angelou, Jane Goodall, Marie Curie, Dianne Feinstein, Ellen. These are but a few, there are many more. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

03-11-2010, 06:59 PM	#2
Jett Member How Do You Identify?: Hardcore bullheaded grown-ass Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: she loves my shaggy hair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The backroom of a night cafe plotting world domination Posts: 1,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,054 Thanked 3,299 Times in 568 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hands down 1# was my mom, she wasn't perfect but she was one hell of a strong woman... I could never thank her enough if I had had a thousand years for all she has given. __________________ .......... In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

03-11-2010, 07:55 PM	#4
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,972 Times in 25,664 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	I loved my mom and she did the best that she could, but most of her inadvertant lessons were trenched in what I shouldn't do or who I shouldn't be versus what to do and who to be and the like. So, while she did help mold me, it became more about how not to be like my mom than anything else. She was a very selfless person though and that is something I try to keep in mind as I make my way through the world. The women that helped mold me the most were my best friend (though a child at the time) and her mother, my surrogate mother. As I grew up and out, my second husband's mother and I were close until her death. A few years later, I found another site and met so many wonderful, beautiful femmes and they helped me define myself and to grow, not only as a femme, but as a human being. I've looked to them when I needed clarification, off and on, for years now and they've never steered me wrong. Arwen, Bit, Diva, and Laura (until her passing a few years ago) have been exceptionally important to me and my growth. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated. Last edited by Gemme; 03-11-2010 at 07:57 PM.

02-06-2013, 01:27 PM	#5
femmeInterrupted Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: she works out well ;) Relationship Status: Happily married. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ontario Posts: 812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,885 Thanked 3,215 Times in 666 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Another great thread!! Women that helped me become who I am today: My mother: for allowing me to wear formal dresses and faux fur to grade school, because I’d insist on being dressed ‘properly’, even though ‘dressing properly’ meant I looked like a fat little Portuguese drag queen. (seriously, i have pictures--it's crazy!) My high school Theatre Arts Teacher/Mentor Leah, who taught me the inherent value of a great pair of stiletto heels, AND how to walk in them! My grandmothers who worked hard, loved harder, and taught me all I know about loyalty and fierce love, to never accept 'acceptance' and demand instead embracing and rejoicing. The feminist women, all of them, who walked and plowed the road before me. All the women I have worked with, who have shared their stories, and tears, and have shown me that moments of grace are possible in the most fcked up situations, that laughter comes just when you need it, sometimes right in the middle of a huge, snot bubbling, donkey braying sob fest, and that we are strong, resilient, magnificent creatures. __________________ "If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us walk together." Lila Watson* You say you love rain, but you use an umbrella to walk under it. You say you love sun, but you seek shade when its shining. You say you love wind, but when its comes you close your window. So that's why I'm scared, when you say you love me. -- Bob Marley

02-06-2013, 01:57 PM	#6
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,042 Times in 4,727 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	MY grandmother was my mentor ~ she was a survivor ~ leader ~ femminist ~ a foreigner who was proud to be an american ~ artist w/ her hands ~ tender and loving ~ all that a woman has to offer ~ and myself ~ I like who I am ~ __________________ ~ Always, ocean

03-11-2010, 07:17 PM	#3
julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,434 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	My Mom, Deborah, Jane, Maggie and Murphy, my sisters, Natalie and many folks here.

02-06-2013, 02:04 PM	#7
Bard Family Man How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: She just gets me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ..... Posts: 2,828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,997 Thanked 12,786 Times in 2,431 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	my nanny C. Louise Long she took care of me from the time I was a month old in a way it was the best gift my mother gave me the unconditional love the my mommy2 gave me literately saved my life her daughter Barbara also shaped me and even tried to get custody of me when i was 16.. later in life it has been my stepmother Jen who was my friend and never pushed but she is always there __________________ This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name! Give yourself over to absolute pleasure. Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh - erotic nightmares beyond any measure, and sensual daydreams to treasure forever. Can't you just see it? Don't dream it, be it.