Thanking those who respond

Bèsame* · 09-18-2012, 08:36 AM

I was wondering...

After leaving a thank you to a post, I'm gathering it is a "rep"?

Should I thank each one for leaving the thank you? I'm seeing what others have posted in the visitor messages on their profile. Saying thank you for the "rep". Is it what is expected?or selective "thanking". I want to have site etiquette .

Thank you

Linus · 09-18-2012, 08:41 AM

That is up to you. Some people do, some people don't. Personally, it'll depend on what the thanks is for since everyone seems to use it nearly all the time

In this regard, the site etiquette is to do what you feel comfortable with.

Bèsame* · 09-18-2012, 08:56 AM

Dear Linus,

Your time to answer definitely warrants a thank you! I appreciate it. Seeing your in Redondo, makes me think of marine layer and the scent of the ocean. That alone, makes me smile...

Thanks again!

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Originally Posted by Linus

That is up to you. Some people do, some people don't. Personally, it'll depend on what the thanks is for since everyone seems to use it nearly all the time

In this regard, the site etiquette is to do what you feel comfortable with.

nycfem · 09-18-2012, 09:06 AM

I usually thank the thanks if a comment has also been written in the rep section, and the comment means a lot to me, or if it's a thanks for a post that I am especially appreciative for the support on.

Sparkle · 09-18-2012, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

I usually thank the thanks if a comment has also been written in the rep section, and the comment means a lot to me, or if it's a thanks for a post that I am especially appreciative for the support on.

What nycfembbw said!

I don't have a lot of time to play online these days...so I'm limited in how much I can respond to.

If someone has taken the time to write me a supportive/sweet/funny note, I try to reply in some way. If someone opens up a discussion, asks a question - I try to reply, usually in a PM. If someone is reaching out and it seems they could use some support - I try to reply.

But I think the "thank you" function of the rep system is meant to eliminate the need to quote and reply to every post you agree with. It is a way of saying "I hear you" or "That resonates with my experience" or "That is funny/clever" etc. I think if we all thanked everyone who thanked our posts we'd be caught in this inferno like spiral of mutual acknowledgement.

All that said, leaving little rep notes/comments, visitor notes or sending PMs - can be a nice way to start new friendships and make connections within the community, especially when you're new.

Welcome to BFP!

princessbelle · 09-18-2012, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

I usually thank the thanks if a comment has also been written in the rep section, and the comment means a lot to me, or if it's a thanks for a post that I am especially appreciative for the support on.

That's what i do too. I love the thanks that i get and the rep comments. They make me smile when i log on and if someone says something really sweet i usually send a not or send a rep message back.

I believe that the thanking option on here is a brilliant way to say...i agree or i hear you. It's used so much and it is really important with the magnitude of issues we discuss as well as "i like my hair today".

It's a wonderful asset to this site!!!!

Martina · 09-18-2012, 10:02 AM

I never do that. *feeling guilty*

sweetee · 11-28-2012, 12:11 PM

This is neet im new to all things forums so its nice to know about these things...

Parker · 11-28-2012, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

I usually thank the thanks if a comment has also been written in the rep section, and the comment means a lot to me, or if it's a thanks for a post that I am especially appreciative for the support on.

Same here - if someone leaves a note with their thanks/rep, I will usually go to their page and leave a visitor message - especially if their note is asking me a question or something - unless they dont have their visitor messages visible then I will either send them a message with a rep to one of their posts or I will PM them.

I have also noticed that sometimes, people will thank a post you made as a nod to your thanking one of their posts earlier.

chefhmboyrd · 11-28-2012, 02:27 PM

for me,
if it is just a thanks, i usually don't
but if it is a question or something that would illicit a response then yes
@

takehimaway · 12-09-2012, 07:26 PM

I thank when I feel the need to.

09-18-2012, 08:36 AM	#1
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11-28-2012, 12:11 PM	#8
sweetee Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: hey sweet thang Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: nowhere Posts: 16 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 33 Thanked 46 Times in 11 Posts Rep Power: 1586905	This is neet im new to all things forums so its nice to know about these things... __________________ sweettee

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takehimaway Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boy. Preferred Pronoun?: He, please. Relationship Status: Polyamorous. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21 Thanked 73 Times in 29 Posts Rep Power: 1003661	I thank when I feel the need to. __________________ A memory hits you right out of the blue - that's just me, thinking of you.

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nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,452 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I usually thank the thanks if a comment has also been written in the rep section, and the comment means a lot to me, or if it's a thanks for a post that I am especially appreciative for the support on.

09-18-2012, 10:02 AM	#7
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,285 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I never do that. feeling guilty