OFOS Butches & Femmes

Jet · 03-12-2010, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Princess4u

That is very beautiful my friend...if you arent careful you will have a following of women swooning for your affection. Not that thats a bad thing my dear.....LOL

Thank you. I'm not sure about the following, but it is how i feel.

Leigh · 03-12-2010, 05:19 PM

Glad to see this thread bumped up, as it should be

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2010, 06:41 PM

my daughter, who is now 26 and almost engaged, took her cues from her momma about dating...when she started dating, she developed a criteria check list that they had to pass before she would accept a date, and a list for after the first date was over. She had seen me date OFOS butches throughout her childhood and expected her hetero bio men to treat her as well as my butches treated me...

Gemme · 03-12-2010, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

SO EVERYONE

I'm afraid to ask this question,

but ...

what makes you old school?

Please God, lets not debate this or turn this into a long, cold dissertation
Let the answers just be from our hearts.

I don't know if I'm fully in the realm of Old School yet, but I know that I have OS tendencies and that I prefer those who exhibit OS behaviors.

I agree with Wicket's post below as to what that means to me.

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Originally Posted by WicketWWarrick

I call myself old school because I honor and respect the butches and femmes who paved the way for us to be like we are. I value our history. I value chivalry, being a gentleman (or gentlewoman/gentleperson). Manners, respect, loyalty - these are some of the things I strive to exude as a partner. I need to run so will probably add more later, but this is at least a start.

-Wicket

Lovely!

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Originally Posted by LittleShug

I have a question--

In your opinion, do Old Fashioned/Old School and Stone go hand in hand?

Just wondering what interpretations there might be...

For me, they definitely accentuate one another, but don't neceessarily mean that they are permanently linked.

sylvie · 03-30-2010, 07:30 PM

*waves*

erm, well in *this* thread anyway!
so just wanted to say hello, and hope you all have a wonderful day tomorrow!

Soft*Silver · 03-30-2010, 08:06 PM

why am I old school old fashioned? In MY OPINION and ONLY FOR ME maybe because I am not what I consider new school, new day of age, new ways...

I dont swear alot

I am not disrespectful to myself nor to others....

I dont hang my "tits" out my blouse...in fact they are the girls, not tits...

I like knowing AND understanding the words of songs that are sung not screamed

I cross my legs not uncross them in order to get the attention of that butch over there

smiling at a butch means hello, not wanna fuck?

dancing together means dancing not sex

dating means dating not sex

sex means making love not fucking

fucking comes when love is established and secured

well..there is more but this will start...

Mrs. Strutt · 04-06-2010, 05:48 PM

Being "old school" is having a reverence for respect, integrity and honor--the foundation of what forms any old school soul.

It's not something you are just because it's the fashion of the day. It's not a snazzy garment you pull out for special occasions.

Being old school is like that soft, many times-washed old cotton t-shirt that fits you like a glove--so comfortable, you don't even know you have it on.

I am proud to be an old school femme.

Jet · 04-07-2010, 09:57 PM

The night was warm with just a hint of north breeze now and then.
The dance had ended at midnight and most sailors and soldiers had found their way to hotels and bunks on this three-day liberty.

I met her at the USO canteen, with its crowd of soldiers and working girls who had volunteered their evenings and their company of doughnuts and hot coffee for as long as they would last. Each girl, with her lined hosiery and upsweep, and 2-inch hemline, which had been cut short for the wool needed ocean's away, made herself available to soldiers to boost their morale and their hopes of returning home.

The canteen had grown hot on this night with loud swing music and fast jitterbugs and thoughts of war long forgotton under lilting trumpets and hot saxes and fast drums. It was swing and a time when all of America danced to a different tune.

Midnight struck some time ago and she invited me to her apartment to shave and to bunk on her sofa. It was all on the up and up—a sailor and a single girl both fighting for the same thing, in the name of the war effort, which we thought was the right thing. She was beautiful. I didn't want to touch her for fear of losing her, and yet I wanted to touch her all through the night.

She offered me Johnny Walker Red and a light for filterless smokes and a place to rest on her sofa. I saw that there were things out of line; a door hinge needed fixing, paint had chipped on the kitchen wall, things needed patching and straightening. And I wanted to stay and take care of everything for her, but it wasn't to be.

I could have pursued her and promised her a million things that a million guys would have offered, but I liked her. I was beholden to her generosity and her care that I may or may not ever come back. That alone, meant everything.

The Johnny Walker Red loosened my memories of all that I had loved and all that I could lose in a single detonated charge somewhere in the Pacific. I asked her to dance closer to me, and to a beautiful trumpet that made me forget.

There wasn't time for explanations, or excuses or promises. What mattered in this moment was the feel of her and possibly the last time I would ever see her.

The lights dimmed, the trumpet played and we danced to the unknown on a summer night in 1942...

Jet · 04-08-2010, 06:05 PM

Flying in and out to say hello. have a good night.

Jet · 05-17-2010, 12:41 AM

Honey Touch Me With My Clothes On

Kätzchen · 05-17-2010, 01:09 AM

Jet???

You were here!!!! AND, you posted about Gilda Radner!

Is she amazing or what???

I remember staying up late watching Saturday Night Live and she was my favorite actress-performer!!!! Oh my stars, she was sOoOoOOOoo funny!

She was also an inspiration to me and her husband, Gene Wilder, was such a wonderful husband to her -- even during the greatest battle she ever faced -- and he was so good to her! He is a Saint, in my books!!!! Do you feel that way about Gene Wilder too???

That video you left here is very special - You know at the end of the video where there's a quote left by Gilda???

Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.

It's the "ambiguity" piece that has become so important to me, during this past year of studies: One of my favorite professors (in our department), taught me so much this past year on that very thing - ambiguity - and being willing to accept ambiguity because it is an opportunity to explore and discover moments that are shrouded in ambiguity and to not be afraid of the unknown. And to me, this is the priceless part about being in the moment and not knowing what comes next or what change we might need to accept or even use our imagination to creatively find new ways to experience what life offers as we taste ambiguity in our lives! Truly, Gilda's humor and how she faced her fears and battles in life is a shining example and inspiration to us all! This is such a gift to remember Gilda tonight - this helps me sooo much!!!!

Thanks so much Jet for thinking to post about Gilda Radner tonight!

Kätzchen · 05-20-2010, 10:12 AM

I thought I'd leave a video here this morning before I head out for the day!

I don't know about any of you, but I loved the (TV series) The Dick Van Dyke Show years ago! I always thought of it as a sit-com of an OFOS young couple and their friends and family life!

*enjoy*

Kätzchen · 05-21-2010, 08:49 PM

In my sleeping this afternoon, I was dreamily contemplating all the qualities and characteristics about me that identify me as an Old Fashioned Old Skool Femme....

I favor songs that are soulful, sweet and charming - this seems to reflect my type of temperment. Also, I tend to prefer pet nicknames (for me) like: Darling, Sweetheart, Your Majesty (playfully, of course), and Sugar... among other creative references and my circle of friends tends to be rather small (I only have so much energy)! But, that's about as far as I got this afternoon, while I was thinking about things that are typical of me...

I kind of slept the day away tending to my own needs, so I guess I'll be up all night *silly me* !!!

Jet · 06-08-2010, 05:21 AM

Dance #16: Heart and Soul

If I sat next to you would you think I cared?
If I asked you to slow dance, would you?

Would you sway and twirl
heart to heart, soul to soul?

Would you run through hayfields
and laugh away the years with me?

Would you kiss me in the moonlight?
Would you teach me how?

Would you join me in a life long duet?

I wonder.

Would you love me heart and soul?

—The Dancer of Atlanta

03-12-2010, 06:41 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	my daughter, who is now 26 and almost engaged, took her cues from her momma about dating...when she started dating, she developed a criteria check list that they had to pass before she would accept a date, and a list for after the first date was over. She had seen me date OFOS butches throughout her childhood and expected her hetero bio men to treat her as well as my butches treated me... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-30-2010, 07:30 PM	#5
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03-30-2010, 08:06 PM	#6
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	why am I old school old fashioned? In MY OPINION and ONLY FOR ME maybe because I am not what I consider new school, new day of age, new ways... I dont swear alot I am not disrespectful to myself nor to others.... I dont hang my "tits" out my blouse...in fact they are the girls, not tits... I like knowing AND understanding the words of songs that are sung not screamed I cross my legs not uncross them in order to get the attention of that butch over there smiling at a butch means hello, not wanna fuck? dancing together means dancing not sex dating means dating not sex sex means making love not fucking fucking comes when love is established and secured well..there is more but this will start... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

04-06-2010, 05:48 PM	#7
Mrs. Strutt Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: 16 Years as Queen of Hys Castle Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Gulfport, FL Posts: 243 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 266 Thanked 341 Times in 115 Posts Rep Power: 17282	Being "old school" is having a reverence for respect, integrity and honor--the foundation of what forms any old school soul. It's not something you are just because it's the fashion of the day. It's not a snazzy garment you pull out for special occasions. Being old school is like that soft, many times-washed old cotton t-shirt that fits you like a glove--so comfortable, you don't even know you have it on. I am proud to be an old school femme. __________________ ~ Tiffany http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...FLR/sunset.jpg "If I can put one touch of rosy sunset into the life of any man or woman, I shall feel that I have worked with God." - Gilbert Keith Chesterton

05-17-2010, 01:09 AM	#11
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Relationship Status: Busy dating a special someone here at home Join Date: May 2010 Location: In a small community Posts: 16,265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,369 Thanked 33,632 Times in 10,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	On Gilda Radner: Beautiful late night inspiration ~ Thank you, Jet! Jet??? You were here!!!! AND, you posted about Gilda Radner! Is she amazing or what??? I remember staying up late watching Saturday Night Live and she was my favorite actress-performer!!!! Oh my stars, she was sOoOoOOOoo funny! She was also an inspiration to me and her husband, Gene Wilder, was such a wonderful husband to her -- even during the greatest battle she ever faced -- and he was so good to her! He is a Saint, in my books!!!! Do you feel that way about Gene Wilder too??? That video you left here is very special - You know at the end of the video where there's a quote left by Gilda??? Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity. It's the "ambiguity" piece that has become so important to me, during this past year of studies: One of my favorite professors (in our department), taught me so much this past year on that very thing - ambiguity - and being willing to accept ambiguity because it is an opportunity to explore and discover moments that are shrouded in ambiguity and to not be afraid of the unknown. And to me, this is the priceless part about being in the moment and not knowing what comes next or what change we might need to accept or even use our imagination to creatively find new ways to experience what life offers as we taste ambiguity in our lives! Truly, Gilda's humor and how she faced her fears and battles in life is a shining example and inspiration to us all! This is such a gift to remember Gilda tonight - this helps me sooo much!!!! Thanks so much Jet for thinking to post about Gilda Radner tonight!

03-12-2010, 05:19 PM	#2
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Glad to see this thread bumped up, as it should be

04-07-2010, 09:57 PM	#8
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	The night was warm with just a hint of north breeze now and then. The dance had ended at midnight and most sailors and soldiers had found their way to hotels and bunks on this three-day liberty. I met her at the USO canteen, with its crowd of soldiers and working girls who had volunteered their evenings and their company of doughnuts and hot coffee for as long as they would last. Each girl, with her lined hosiery and upsweep, and 2-inch hemline, which had been cut short for the wool needed ocean's away, made herself available to soldiers to boost their morale and their hopes of returning home. The canteen had grown hot on this night with loud swing music and fast jitterbugs and thoughts of war long forgotton under lilting trumpets and hot saxes and fast drums. It was swing and a time when all of America danced to a different tune. Midnight struck some time ago and she invited me to her apartment to shave and to bunk on her sofa. It was all on the up and up—a sailor and a single girl both fighting for the same thing, in the name of the war effort, which we thought was the right thing. She was beautiful. I didn't want to touch her for fear of losing her, and yet I wanted to touch her all through the night. She offered me Johnny Walker Red and a light for filterless smokes and a place to rest on her sofa. I saw that there were things out of line; a door hinge needed fixing, paint had chipped on the kitchen wall, things needed patching and straightening. And I wanted to stay and take care of everything for her, but it wasn't to be. I could have pursued her and promised her a million things that a million guys would have offered, but I liked her. I was beholden to her generosity and her care that I may or may not ever come back. That alone, meant everything. The Johnny Walker Red loosened my memories of all that I had loved and all that I could lose in a single detonated charge somewhere in the Pacific. I asked her to dance closer to me, and to a beautiful trumpet that made me forget. There wasn't time for explanations, or excuses or promises. What mattered in this moment was the feel of her and possibly the last time I would ever see her. The lights dimmed, the trumpet played and we danced to the unknown on a summer night in 1942...

04-08-2010, 06:05 PM	#9
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Flying in and out to say hello. have a good night.

05-17-2010, 12:41 AM	#10
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Honey Touch Me With My Clothes On

05-20-2010, 10:12 AM	#12
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Relationship Status: Busy dating a special someone here at home Join Date: May 2010 Location: In a small community Posts: 16,265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,369 Thanked 33,632 Times in 10,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Have a beautiful day today, everyone! I thought I'd leave a video here this morning before I head out for the day! I don't know about any of you, but I loved the (TV series) The Dick Van Dyke Show years ago! I always thought of it as a sit-com of an OFOS young couple and their friends and family life! enjoy

05-21-2010, 08:49 PM	#13
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Relationship Status: Busy dating a special someone here at home Join Date: May 2010 Location: In a small community Posts: 16,265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,369 Thanked 33,632 Times in 10,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	In my sleeping this afternoon, I was dreamily contemplating all the qualities and characteristics about me that identify me as an Old Fashioned Old Skool Femme.... I favor songs that are soulful, sweet and charming - this seems to reflect my type of temperment. Also, I tend to prefer pet nicknames (for me) like: Darling, Sweetheart, Your Majesty (playfully, of course), and Sugar... among other creative references and my circle of friends tends to be rather small (I only have so much energy)! But, that's about as far as I got this afternoon, while I was thinking about things that are typical of me... I kind of slept the day away tending to my own needs, so I guess I'll be up all night silly me !!!

06-08-2010, 05:21 AM	#14
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dance #16: Heart and Soul If I sat next to you would you think I cared? If I asked you to slow dance, would you? Would you sway and twirl heart to heart, soul to soul? Would you run through hayfields and laugh away the years with me? Would you kiss me in the moonlight? Would you teach me how? Would you join me in a life long duet? I wonder. Would you love me heart and soul? —The Dancer of Atlanta