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Old 03-12-2010, 10:58 PM   #1
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Like some others, I've let myself slack off a bit lately. It's to the point that it's annoying me. That's a good thing for me because it means I'm ready to act in my own best interest.

For me, it's like listening (or not) to your GPS. Turn left here....no, I don't WANT to turn left here....I'm going to eat a cookie on the right over here....

After a while, you begin to ignore the GPS (the voice inside, I call it) and you begin to lose that voice in the back of your head that says "Do you REALLY need that right now?" or "Are you hungry or bored or stressed?" or "Wouldn't it be GREAT to get ready and go for a long walk/jog/hike/etc?" If I get to the point where I don't heed it at all, I'll lose it and if I lose it, then I have to start allllllll the way over from the beginning. It's a training process and, though I have a long way to go, I've come a long way.

My motivation is still a bit low right now, but my annoyance factor is rising and I have realized it's time to try and get back on the bandwagon. Why not? It's a wagon; there's a band. Good times!

This coming Monday is the 15th of the month and 5 months from the Reunion. Even though Monday will come a bit earlier (change your clocks forward that Sunday!), I am ready for it. I'm the type of person to need a checkpoint or something that stands out and marks the day and this 5 month marker should work for me.

I have a difficult time getting to the gym on the weekends, especially when I work the midshift (my gym opens later on both days), so it wouldn't be logical to try to begin then. Monday is a day I am more likely going to be able to devote as much time as I need to get started again.

I'm also going to take advantage of the free personal training my Y offers, even though it may result in some wonky scheduling for a while. I've noticed that my arms are getting 'soft' around the elbow area, like my gran's used to be. It's hard to describe here but I see it and make the connection of where it is heading. I don't want to go there, so I'm going to encourage someone to make me sweat, cry, beg and work the Hell out.

Like Candace, putting this out here is a way of creating accountability for myself. In the end, it's my body and my life and I'm the only one who can live in either.
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Good morning and happy Monday biggest losers

Well, it does appear that some of us are having a hard time getting back on track. The little slip ups or set backs are inevitable sometimes, but it's up to us to snap back!

Gemme... I totally get what you are saying about getting in gear. Having a goal, like the Reunion, is a great way of keeping ourselves motivated to make healthy decisions and motivate ourselves to get it going and keep going. I have all the faith in the world in you, and everyone else here, that we CAN do this. Oh yes we can!

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step"

That is something that I have to keep reminding myself. I know that I didn't put this weight on overnight, and I have to remember that it's not gonna come off overnight either. I am really bad about wanting instant gratification... damn my lack o' patience!

I've been doing pretty good... just monitoring my calories @ about 1600 a day and trying to force down as much water as possible. I work two jobs, so my time at the gym is limited, too. But, I do manage to go on Tuesday, Wednesday and at least one day of the weekend. I thought I was gonna die the first time I got on the eliptical machine (which I have finally worked up to about 10 minutes on). I'm doing about 15 - 20 minutes on the treadmill, then switching to the eliptical and then doing about 30 minutes of weight training.

Two weeks ago, I faced my biggest fear and got on the scale. Kinda like Candace saying that it's good to know where your starting point is. I was disgusted to see the numbers... just knowing that I'm at the highest weight I have ever been in my life.

That right there was motivation enough for me to finally say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I refuse to live this way. I love myself unconditionally, but I need to be healthy (heart, mind, soul & BODY).

After one week, I weighed on Friday and had only lost 3 pounds. I seemed a little discouraged, but my boo handed me a pair of my old jeans and told me to put them on (yes, a pair that I couldn't even button 2 weeks prior). Reluctantly, I put them on, and they fit. Ok, they were a little tight, but I got the damn things on!

Even though the scale might not show it, I know that I am losing inches. We started taking our measurements (bust, waist, hips, thigh & arm), and in one month we are gonna do them again and see the progress.

So, let's keep up the good work and remember that we are not alone. We are all on this journey of wellness together!

Have a great day folks!
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Good morning and happy Monday biggest losers

Well, it does appear that some of us are having a hard time getting back on track. The little slip ups or set backs are inevitable sometimes, but it's up to us to snap back!

Gemme... I totally get what you are saying about getting in gear. Having a goal, like the Reunion, is a great way of keeping ourselves motivated to make healthy decisions and motivate ourselves to get it going and keep going. I have all the faith in the world in you, and everyone else here, that we CAN do this. Oh yes we can!

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step"

That is something that I have to keep reminding myself. I know that I didn't put this weight on overnight, and I have to remember that it's not gonna come off overnight either. I am really bad about wanting instant gratification... damn my lack o' patience!

I've been doing pretty good... just monitoring my calories @ about 1600 a day and trying to force down as much water as possible. I work two jobs, so my time at the gym is limited, too. But, I do manage to go on Tuesday, Wednesday and at least one day of the weekend. I thought I was gonna die the first time I got on the eliptical machine (which I have finally worked up to about 10 minutes on). I'm doing about 15 - 20 minutes on the treadmill, then switching to the eliptical and then doing about 30 minutes of weight training.

Two weeks ago, I faced my biggest fear and got on the scale. Kinda like Candace saying that it's good to know where your starting point is. I was disgusted to see the numbers... just knowing that I'm at the highest weight I have ever been in my life.

That right there was motivation enough for me to finally say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I refuse to live this way. I love myself unconditionally, but I need to be healthy (heart, mind, soul & BODY).

After one week, I weighed on Friday and had only lost 3 pounds. I seemed a little discouraged, but my boo handed me a pair of my old jeans and told me to put them on (yes, a pair that I couldn't even button 2 weeks prior). Reluctantly, I put them on, and they fit. Ok, they were a little tight, but I got the damn things on!

Even though the scale might not show it, I know that I am losing inches. We started taking our measurements (bust, waist, hips, thigh & arm), and in one month we are gonna do them again and see the progress.

So, let's keep up the good work and remember that we are not alone. We are all on this journey of wellness together!

Have a great day folks!
You are right, Pinkie. One step and then another and another...eventually, we'll make it to a place that is lovely for us. I don't believe we'll be "there" as "there" is a continuously changing level but I do believe that all of us can (and WILL) find a place that is good for us, in all the ways that it counts.

As far as losing a particular amount of weight, your boo did the best thing to do....measure yourself against yourself, not some machine. Give your boo a big hug for me for doing that for you.

I weigh 140 pounds. Some of you might wonder why I'm here and why I keep trying to get healthier. Well, for one thing, we should all strive to be healthier as a whole. Some people are built very solid and a lot of their weight is pure muscle. I am no such person. I'm not much over 5 feet tall and I'm pear-shaped, so my arms and shoulders are much smaller than my lower half. For me, it's about losing the jiggle (because I have LOTS of it...and cellulite) and gaining more balance between my top and bottom halves and more balance in general. I'm not the most graceful person either.

On another note, I LOVE the elliptical machines! The Precor 100i is my fave (has the snowshoe looking foot rests). I tend to stick with what I love and so I have to make myself jump on the bikes and treadmills but I'm going to try to learn as much as I can about all the machines at my Y and take as many classes as I can, to mix things up.

I stuck with what I knew today, since it's been almost a full month since I've been to the gym and I didn't want to hurt myself too badly. An hour on my favorite elliptical burned almost 600 calories and gave me a nice 'welcome back' although the first 20 minutes went by so slowly it felt like I was watching paint dry. Thankfully, the ole body figured out what it was supposed to do and got into the groove of things eventually.

I made an appointment to work with a trainer next week for weight training and I signed up for an assessment test too. It's the one from p.e. in middle school....3 minute step test, flexibility, etc. I know my results won't be stellar but it will give me a good starting point to monitor my success.

Note: I said success and not progress.
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hi peeps-now most of u know i dont post much but i felt like i could here. and i may be repeating info already here so please excuse i just cant read thru everything. some of u know me i am a short fat butch and have been that most of my life. a few years ago i fell and it turned my life for the worse. i have arthritis is both knees and a few other spot as well as other things. but most important was(is) my weight. i was very heavy and hbp, etc. now it took me a long time and i still cant do what i would like to but i did lose weight. took me about a year and half to lost almost 100 pounds.
i have gained a bit back and am still 10 pounds from what i call my first goal weight.
what i am doing and has been working for me is just making small changes in diet-- like looking at the ingrediants-i check sugar,fat and fiber content especially. i got more fiber in diet and multi grain or whole grains. supplemented where i needed to with vitamins -doing what i can a piece at a time.
now i know i will never be skinny and i wish it could be faster but i have to believe i am a work in progress. i am frustrated with doctors and have quit them for the most part. i prob need some help for a medication but i am reading up on naturak ways to help myself because i feel that is a better way to go. it is harder when u live by yourself and dont really like to cook for one. what i am saying is i support whatever way works for u. u can listen to advice and interpret that for urself. i commend all those in this thread-thanks for letting me spout off and rememeber the rabbit didnt win that race-the slow but sure old tortoise did.
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Good morning and another happy Monday biggest losers! I hope that everyone had a nice weekend and is back and at em' today!

Welcome FR! You are right my friend, the rabbit didn't win the race. None of us put this weight on overnight, and we shouldn't have some outlandish expectations on it coming off quickly. Good for you for making small changes first. I know for me, when I looked at the big picture, I felt overwelmed. How in the world was I gonna lose 100 pounds?! So, I started setting small step goals (15 pound increments and/or clothing sizes). Whatever it takes to get you going and keep the positive energy flowing is a plus. So, come back often and update us on your progress ~ we are all together on this journey.

It seems as though we are all super busy right now living life... it happens. I just wanted to let you all know how proud I am of you all for making healthy decisions for yourselves. I know I may sound like a broken record of positive thinking... but I am a firm believer that positive thinking brings about positive change!

Well, I went to the dr on Friday for my weekly weigh in... and I lost 5 pounds last week. That brings my total for 2 weeks to 8 pounds. I know, it might not seem like alot, but right now it's helping me remind myself that YES, I can do this.

When my ex and I were together, we lost quite a bit of weight together. I think that it was in the beginning, and I had lost about 15 pounds. I was whining that it didn't seem like much. We were in the grocery store in the produce section and she had me a 5 pound sack of potatoes, then another and another. She said, THAT'S how much weight that you aren't carrying around anymore. It was a great way for me to see the change, in those smaller increments.

Well anyway, I hope that everyone has a great week, and that healthy eating & exercising are going strong. Take care of yourselves my friends!!
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Hello all....I've been reading the thread since it started and so I'm jumping in because I need motivation to lose my last 15 pounds. I've stalled out the last few months. On the positve side I haven't gained any back but I feel stuck. I've lost 23lbs over the last year or so plus I had a breast reduction about a year ago which has made me feel a lot better in so many ways.

Good luck to all and wish me luck too

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