~*Dare To Tell The Truth*~

[~ocean]

Not knowing of my ability to provide for my family after Oct. 15,2012

Are you capable of saying you are sorry ?

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by ~ocean

Are you capable of saying you are sorry ?

No one answered this one. Yes, as a matter of fact, as a consequence of growing up in a home where everything was my fault or I was scapegoated for it; I tend to apologize too much-even when something is not actually my fault.

True or false: have you ever faked an orgasm and why?

[Nomad]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

No one answered this one. Yes, as a matter of fact, as a consequence of growing up in a home where everything was my fault or I was scapegoated for it; I tend to apologize too much-even when something is not actually my fault.

True or false: have you ever faked an orgasm and why?

of course. why? because i'm a woman and it's practically required by my culture that a woman never bruise the ego of someone who has no idea how to blow her skirt up. (and G*d forbid you should offer them help)

have you ever faked interest in a partner's family?

[laruss]

Originally Posted by Nomad

of course. why? because i'm a woman and it's practically required by my culture that a woman never bruise the ego of someone who has no idea how to blow her skirt up. (and G*d forbid you should offer them help)

I laughed when I read this because it is so true. Although now that I am older I have to say I don't bother.

Originally Posted by Nomad

have you ever faked interest in a partner's family?

No, I will be polite if needed, but I won't fake interest. I only had one partner this was really an issue with, I just never had anything to do with them.

Have you ever done something that shook your trust in yourself and how do/did you recover from that?

[Nomad]

Originally Posted by laruss

. Have you ever done something that shook your trust in yourself and how do/did you recover from that?

yes. and i havent recovered. sometimes we dont recover, we just adapt to the shift in our perception of ourselves. when we cant adapt or learn to embrace the truth about ourselves we're forced to choose survival rather than living. in the last 2 months i've discovered that the choices i've made have insured my survival but not an actual life. that truth is more painful and more disconcerting than my original mistake. an interesting study in karma. put another way, i got what i deserve.


have you found that you are more or less tolerant as you get older? why do you think that is?

[ahk]

I think it depends on the situation, really. But lately, I find myself more tolerant. Why? Because its just not worth it sometime, I think why would I bother to let myself get all worked up over something that probably won't matter next week.

If you could change one thing in your life -- what would it be?

[ahk]

Originally Posted by pajara

Tolerant....more. Picky....much more. I seem to find annoying things and behaviors alot more as I have gotten older. But....I tend to step back and think what has made this person the way they are. And be more accepting of whatever it is that annoys me. I've come to realize that my way of thinking, apparently isn't the only way. I think it has just come with more exposure to differences AND an understanding that I have many flaws as well and that doesn't make me "less than".

Have you ever taken a friendship to the next level, then been able to recover the friendship because you probably should have just been friends all along?

no.

Originally Posted by Metro

Less tolerant of BS... Because as I age it becomes ever more apparent that time is finite. I want to spend as much of that time as possible with those who treat me and my loved ones authentically and with respect.

What defines your real life day-to-day "family" and/or system(s) of support?

my wife.

Nomads Questioned, Answered:

I think it depends on the situation, really. But lately, I find myself more tolerant. Why? Because its just not worth it sometime, I think why would I bother to let myself get all worked up over something that probably won't matter next week.

If you could change one thing in your life -- what would it be?

[pajama]

Originally Posted by Nomad

yes. and i'm not sure i have. recovered, that is. sometimes i dont think we always do recover. sometimes we just adapt to the shift in our perception of ourselves. and sometimes i suppose we dont.


have you found that you are more or less tolerant as you get older? why do you think that is?

Tolerant....more. Picky....much more. I seem to find annoying things and behaviors alot more as I have gotten older. But....I tend to step back and think what has made this person the way they are. And be more accepting of whatever it is that annoys me. I've come to realize that my way of thinking, apparently isn't the only way. I think it has just come with more exposure to differences AND an understanding that I have many flaws as well and that doesn't make me "less than".

Have you ever taken a friendship to the next level, then been able to recover the friendship because you probably should have just been friends all along?

[Metro]

Originally Posted by Nomad

yes. and i'm not sure i have. recovered, that is. sometimes i dont think we always do recover. sometimes we just adapt to the shift in our perception of ourselves. and sometimes i suppose we dont.


have you found that you are more or less tolerant as you get older? why do you think that is?

Less tolerant of BS... Because as I age it becomes ever more apparent that time is finite. I want to spend as much of that time as possible with those who treat me and my loved ones authentically and with respect.


Have you ever taken a friendship to the next level, then been able to recover the friendship because you probably should have just been friends all along?

No. Tried, always ended up being awkward for someone or another.


What defines your real life day-to-day "family" and/or system(s) of support?