The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

ruthie14 · 09-30-2012, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Two-spirit

Hello,

I just want to say I hope all of you who are hurting in anyway, get better..fast and safe..smiles..even thou I may not know any of you folks..Your human and have feelings aches and pains..

Get well,

Little Feather

Thanks Little Feather... I hope we all get well too!

Question for the butches:

Had a great time at the dance. Met (actually remet) a nice butch woman. She seems sweet and assertive ...2 traits I admire in a butch. We danced a couple slow dances..we dance well together. That doesn't always happen. She is a little older than I usually would date, but her smile and personality drew me right away. I had seen her at Sister Space, but I was busy chasing someone and she was busy chasing someone.. lol sooooooooo .. we never got to know each other better. She just got home from the dance and already sent me an email and asked me to go out with her this week. How about THAT!! Nice to have someone want to be with you that much! Now the question is , do I contact her tonight..or be a little coy and girly and wait a day? Ok Butches... advice please. I don't want to appear too anxious, but I don't want her to feel like I'm not interested. What do you think?

Two-spirit · 09-30-2012, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Little Feather... I hope we all get well too!

Question for the butches:

Had a great time at the dance. Met (actually remet) a nice butch woman. She seems sweet and assertive ...2 traits I admire in a butch. We danced a couple slow dances..we dance well together. That doesn't always happen. She is a little older than I usually would date, but her smile and personality drew me right away. I had seen her at Sister Space, but I was busy chasing someone and she was busy chasing someone.. lol sooooooooo .. we never got to know each other better. She just got home from the dance and already sent me an email and asked me to go out with her this week. How about THAT!! Nice to have someone want to be with you that much! Now the question is , do I contact her tonight..or be a little coy and girly and wait a day? Ok Butches... advice please. I don't want to appear too anxious, but I don't want her to feel like I'm not interested. What do you think?

Hello,
Give it a day..whats the rush? and your still in a good time frame where she won't think your not intrested in her..
Let is run naturally...

Little Feather

Dance-with-me · 09-30-2012, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I had seen her at Sister Space....

Not to derail but this made me smile. I haven't been to the Weekend in a dozen years since the timing is terrible for me (right after school starts) but I was heavily involved with SisterSpace and the Weekend for many, many years when I lived in Philadelphia. In fact, a moment at a SisterSpace weekend features prominently in my stories of coming into my own Femme identify. So glad to hear of someone who is still going there - and glad to hear that there are butch/femme chasings and sightings going on!!

Mel C. · 09-30-2012, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Ok Butches... advice please. I don't want to appear too anxious, but I don't want her to feel like I'm not interested. What do you think?

Ok, when you email or text someone, do you want them to respond when they can, or wait until they get around to it? It's one thing to not check your messages, but another to ignore them. You received the message, so why not respond to it?

ruthie14 · 10-01-2012, 04:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel (aka BlistexLez)

Ok, when you email or text someone, do you want them to respond when they can, or wait until they get around to it? It's one thing to not check your messages, but another to ignore them. You received the message, so why not respond to it?

Ya Mel, 2 out of 3 butches said to email her (sorry little feather) so I did. Seems like the right move. Found another lovely email from her this morning. We shall see how it all turns out.

Have a wonderful Monday friends!!!

Ruthie

morningstar55 · 10-01-2012, 05:37 AM

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
its hard to do alot of this posting from my phone , forgive me for not responding much.

Countyfem · 10-01-2012, 12:44 PM

Afternoon everyone! Another rainy day here in NC Pride was nearly washed out this weekend but it seemed everyone had a great time!

Hope ya'll have had a terrific Monday!

Mr.Nobody · 10-01-2012, 01:12 PM

Hey y'all...I would like to hang out in here with you if I may. I live in South Dakota and turned 50 last year. I'm a photographer now, after a first career as a car detailer.
I look forward to getting to know some of you a little...

lusciouskiwi · 10-01-2012, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr.Nobody

Hey y'all...I would like to hang out in here with you if I may. I live in South Dakota and turned 50 last year. I'm a photographer now, after a first career as a car detailer.
I look forward to getting to know some of you a little...

Hiya Mr Nobody, sure you can hang out with us

What kind of photography do you do? Are you able to make a living out of it?

morningstar55 · 10-01-2012, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr.Nobody

Hey y'all...I would like to hang out in here with you if I may. I live in South Dakota and turned 50 last year. I'm a photographer now, after a first career as a car detailer.
I look forward to getting to know some of you a little...

((((((((((MrNobody)))t))))))))))) U .... r sombody to me.. lol
welcome to the loft

how many yrs have we known each other???? Ha..
ladies ... Mr nobody is a tall handsome thing

Sachita · 10-02-2012, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr.Nobody

Hey y'all...I would like to hang out in here with you if I may. I live in South Dakota and turned 50 last year. I'm a photographer now, after a first career as a car detailer.
I look forward to getting to know some of you a little...

go away! you can't hang out here boo! lol kidding.

hy is a great photographer and took some pics here at the farm.

Two-spirit · 10-01-2012, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Ya Mel, 2 out of 3 butches said to email her (sorry little feather) so I did. Seems like the right move. Found another lovely email from her this morning. We shall see how it all turns out.

Have a wonderful Monday friends!!!

Ruthie

Smiles,

Its all good and dandy,I hope u find what you are seeking for..good luck..

Mel C. · 10-01-2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Ya Mel, 2 out of 3 butches said to email her (sorry little feather) so I did. Seems like the right move. Found another lovely email from her this morning. We shall see how it all turns out.

Have a wonderful Monday friends!!!

Ruthie

I think the best advice I can offer a femme is to be YOU. No facade, no "lemme try to be who they want", no games (unless they are games you are both into). JUST BE YOU. After the wooing, YOU is what remains, so why not start off with that? Plus, having met in person, I think YOU is wonderful

ruthie14 · 10-01-2012, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel (aka BlistexLez)

I think the best advice I can offer a femme is to be YOU. No facade, no "lemme try to be who they want", no games (unless they are games you are both into). JUST BE YOU. After the wooing, YOU is what remains, so why not start off with that? Plus, having met in person, I think YOU is wonderful

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

Oh well, such is my love life recently....

on top of that, my dog has been ill the last 24 hours. Was trying to figure it out... finally I realized my mother had given her a steak bone from her dinner last night. Bella has a very sensitive tummy and cannot eat but very spacific things. So here I am, up late, washing her bedding, cooking rice and will have to get up early to cook her chicken (had to get it out of the freezer and is just starting to thaw) so she can have it for breakfast. She is still throwing up. I am exhausted! Only had Sunday afternoon off from working and will work straight through to the weekend. 2 jobs on tues and thursday. urrrrggggg

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Mel C. · 10-01-2012, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Poor baby. I am sorry to hear things aren't great. I am a big fan of being real. I have major highs and major lows. If someone only sees one or the other, they don't know ME. I figure, put it all out there and the ones who are skeered aren't the "right" people to be in your inner circle. Sometimes people just need to absorb for a bit and then they come to their senses.

I'm also wishing your pup a better tummy.

HUGS

clay · 10-01-2012, 09:29 PM

evening all you beautiful lofters! Welcome to the newbies! Great to see new folks on this thread.
I read posts often, don't post much here! Enjoy seeing how everyone is doing!
Hugs Ruthie...it WILL get better....hang in there my friend!!
Enjoy your evening everyone...Clay

LipstickLola · 10-02-2012, 07:13 AM

Wow! Lots of action in here, yaaaaay!

Ruthie, hang tight!!! I share your struggles!! I'd love to be able to connect with other women, there just isn't a place like that in my community and everyone I know is partnered, sigh....

It's rainy and nasty out this morning and since I'm still in recovery mode I think I'll nap then head off to the gym for a little light rehab.

Hope everyone here (Welcome New Lofters!!) has had a great start to their week!!

dykeumentary · 10-02-2012, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

I told you that you should have made a move on the OTHER one!!!

Ruthie, you're amazing and the perfect butch will come to you.
We will just keep having fun until then, ok ! ?

Canela · 10-02-2012, 09:44 AM

Hi Everyone,

I'd like to be part of this group as well...
I'm 49 and am having a great time and a hard time with myself right now...lol

I'm in transition, I moved last year, downsizing since I'm now an empty-nester (but that's getting easier)...I'm in a healing place right now, as far as my heart is concerned and I'm really needing/looking for a safe/comfortable place in our community, if you will. This feels like that place.

So, I hope it's okay if I stay awhile...?

Two-spirit · 10-02-2012, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

Oh well, such is my love life recently....

on top of that, my dog has been ill the last 24 hours. Was trying to figure it out... finally I realized my mother had given her a steak bone from her dinner last night. Bella has a very sensitive tummy and cannot eat but very spacific things. So here I am, up late, washing her bedding, cooking rice and will have to get up early to cook her chicken (had to get it out of the freezer and is just starting to thaw) so she can have it for breakfast. She is still throwing up. I am exhausted! Only had Sunday afternoon off from working and will work straight through to the weekend. 2 jobs on tues and thursday. urrrrggggg

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Sorry to hear about yr dog. hope he/she gets better..

10-01-2012, 05:37 AM	#6
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Morning loft dwellers nd peekers its hard to do alot of this posting from my phone , forgive me for not responding much. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

10-01-2012, 01:12 PM	#8
Mr.Nobody Member How Do You Identify?: Niizh manidoowag... Preferred Pronoun?: I prefer amature nouns Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 840 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 370 Thanked 1,528 Times in 536 Posts Rep Power: 15623423	Hey y'all...I would like to hang out in here with you if I may. I live in South Dakota and turned 50 last year. I'm a photographer now, after a first career as a car detailer. I look forward to getting to know some of you a little... __________________ Noblesse oblige...

10-01-2012, 09:29 PM	#16
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,662 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	evening all you beautiful lofters! Welcome to the newbies! Great to see new folks on this thread. I read posts often, don't post much here! Enjoy seeing how everyone is doing! Hugs Ruthie...it WILL get better....hang in there my friend!! Enjoy your evening everyone...Clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

10-02-2012, 09:44 AM	#19
Canela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babe, she, her, ella Relationship Status: Well loved… Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 2,375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,644 Thanked 6,502 Times in 1,694 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Jumping in... Hi Everyone, I'd like to be part of this group as well... I'm 49 and am having a great time and a hard time with myself right now...lol I'm in transition, I moved last year, downsizing since I'm now an empty-nester (but that's getting easier)...I'm in a healing place right now, as far as my heart is concerned and I'm really needing/looking for a safe/comfortable place in our community, if you will. This feels like that place. So, I hope it's okay if I stay awhile...? __________________ . . . . . Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

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Countyfem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NC Posts: 244 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 469 Thanked 932 Times in 211 Posts Rep Power: 9455033	Afternoon everyone! Another rainy day here in NC Pride was nearly washed out this weekend but it seemed everyone had a great time! Hope ya'll have had a terrific Monday!

10-02-2012, 07:13 AM	#17
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678218	Wow! Lots of action in here, yaaaaay! Ruthie, hang tight!!! I share your struggles!! I'd love to be able to connect with other women, there just isn't a place like that in my community and everyone I know is partnered, sigh.... It's rainy and nasty out this morning and since I'm still in recovery mode I think I'll nap then head off to the gym for a little light rehab. Hope everyone here (Welcome New Lofters!!) has had a great start to their week!!