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10-03-2012, 01:32 AM
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I have to say I have encountered it more in CA than I did in Michigan. And Canadians have the rep of being more diffident. |
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10-03-2012, 08:38 AM
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10-03-2012, 08:42 AM
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10-03-2012, 09:15 AM
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*puke* Instant turn OFF! Why don't people get this? I am from California as well and have encountered this a lot too. As soon as this is brought up, they immediately fall off my radar![/QUOTE]
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10-03-2012, 11:50 AM
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RIGHT??? I dont get it either, low self esteem perhaps? self inflated ego's perhaps? over zealous perhaps? who knows but it certainly is most annoying.
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10-03-2012, 12:08 PM
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RIGHT???
I dont get it either, low self esteem perhaps? self inflated ego's perhaps? over zealous perhaps? who knows but it certainly is most annoying.[/QUOTE] Since several people on the thread have said they've encountered this behavior (declaring one's own hotness on a first date), I don't doubt it's out there, but I just wanted to say, no one I've ever dated has ever talked about how hot they are on on a first date or any date. (Shaking head) (Chuckling) |
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10-03-2012, 12:15 PM
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? Probably the same way butches do? I'm not big on someone opening the door for me or bringing me flowers, but I do like to hold hands or wrap my arm around theirs. Physical displays of affection are way better than all the other bells and whistles. Although, I suppose that would happen after you have established a connection with someone you are dating.
Oh fuck it. Bring me flowers and hold the door open for me, dammit! |
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10-03-2012, 04:00 PM
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since I don't date butch folk and none of my butch friends would say how 'hot' they are to anyone they are on a date with.........I'm a bit shocked this happens........
it's kinda icky and creepy just hearing about it.........
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10-03-2012, 04:10 PM
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Thank you ladies. I have been reading this post and im sorry some of you havent been treated so nicely. I believe if you ask a woman out you should treat her with respect,be kind,compliment her, and be attentive to her. I even say thank you for spending time with me. Good luck ladies!
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10-03-2012, 04:32 PM
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on a date i am all about the B&F dynamic ~ this would be a given ~ if a date was already accepted. flirting w. eachother ~ enjoying a convo ~ kiss' ~ lots of kiss'
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10-04-2012, 05:50 AM
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I have to say, i'm baffled that some people would choose to discuss "hotness" as if that's a valid topic of conversation. I can't wrap my mind around it! I prefer to poke around until I find the things they are passionate about. I love seeing the way a person's face lights up when you get them talking about something they care about very much.
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10-04-2012, 10:00 AM
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True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"
.gif "Say What?") Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her...... Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site? |
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10-04-2012, 10:09 AM
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She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically. I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor. Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people. (I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...) |
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10-04-2012, 11:39 AM
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Low miles and gently used?! Would keep that for a chuckle, not a handle
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10-05-2012, 09:24 AM
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I got a great chuckle out of that "low mileage"? wtf does that mean exactly.....that is how i would have responded then i may have responded with its not the miles that counts its the "Ride" hahaha
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10-05-2012, 09:53 AM
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I was dating a fella (when i was a teenager) and he picked me up one day and brought along with him someone else he had decided to "pit myself and her against each other" when she and i exited the car, i had a chat with her, told her he was a serious waste of my time at this point and that she could have him cause he would do the same thing to her he had just done to me and I am not into playing these sort of games. She gave much thought to this and then decided she didn't want him either.....when he was close to dropping me off she told him what a jerk he was and that she would never be with him, when I got out of the car i looked at him and told him to "fuck off" and please don't call me anymore.....
As an adult I have experienced this same thing..... I would stand proudly next to my sister's than play a silly childish (teenage) game with anyone. Im not into the games and im not into being "one" of many notches etc... Life is too short for all that.
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