Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

StrongButch · 10-03-2012, 04:10 PM

Thank you ladies. I have been reading this post and im sorry some of you havent been treated so nicely. I believe if you ask a woman out you should treat her with respect,be kind,compliment her, and be attentive to her. I even say thank you for spending time with me. Good luck ladies!

~ocean · 10-03-2012, 04:32 PM

on a date i am all about the B&F dynamic ~ this would be a given ~ if a date was already accepted. flirting w. eachother ~ enjoying a convo ~ kiss' ~ lots of kiss'

ScandalAndy · 10-04-2012, 05:50 AM

I have to say, i'm baffled that some people would choose to discuss "hotness" as if that's a valid topic of conversation. I can't wrap my mind around it! I prefer to poke around until I find the things they are passionate about. I love seeing the way a person's face lights up when you get them talking about something they care about very much.

LipstickLola · 10-04-2012, 10:00 AM

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

Ginger · 10-04-2012, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)

LipstickLola · 10-04-2012, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)

OMG, yes I was kidding,

ScandalAndy · 10-04-2012, 01:07 PM

Kept covered and treated with regular maintenance!!

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

OMG, yes I was kidding,

*Anya* · 10-04-2012, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

That is the funniest thing I have read in a while and never heard that before!

Low miles and gently used?!

Would keep that for a chuckle, not a handle

10-03-2012, 04:10 PM	#1
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10-04-2012, 05:50 AM	#3
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LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678217	True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian" Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her...... Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?