Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

ScandalAndy · 10-04-2012, 05:50 AM

I have to say, i'm baffled that some people would choose to discuss "hotness" as if that's a valid topic of conversation. I can't wrap my mind around it! I prefer to poke around until I find the things they are passionate about. I love seeing the way a person's face lights up when you get them talking about something they care about very much.

LipstickLola · 10-04-2012, 10:00 AM

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

Ginger · 10-04-2012, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)

LipstickLola · 10-04-2012, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)

OMG, yes I was kidding,

ScandalAndy · 10-04-2012, 01:07 PM

Kept covered and treated with regular maintenance!!

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

OMG, yes I was kidding,

LipstickLola · 10-04-2012, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

Kept covered and treated with regular maintenance!!

hahahahaha, funny, really!!

gaea · 10-05-2012, 09:24 AM

I got a great chuckle out of that "low mileage"? wtf does that mean exactly.....that is how i would have responded then i may have responded with its not the miles that counts its the "Ride" hahaha

iridium · 02-17-2013, 10:03 PM

Late entry here on this old thread.

-Don't make me have to make the decisions of what to do or where to go.
-When on a double date I like when the butches walk protectively behind us femmes, in full veiw of us in our high femme club wear.
-When sitting together, boldly touching my knee while telling me how lovely I look in that cute outfit you asked me to wear.

*Anya* · 10-04-2012, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola

True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

That is the funniest thing I have read in a while and never heard that before!

Low miles and gently used?!

Would keep that for a chuckle, not a handle

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LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678218	True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian" Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her...... Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?

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iridium Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Boston Posts: 7 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 22 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 0	Late entry here on this old thread. -Don't make me have to make the decisions of what to do or where to go. -When on a double date I like when the butches walk protectively behind us femmes, in full veiw of us in our high femme club wear. -When sitting together, boldly touching my knee while telling me how lovely I look in that cute outfit you asked me to wear.