Single FTM's & Femme's

Leigh · 10-10-2012, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by GraffitiBoi

I've been there before... Back in 1988!

Wow that's so cool, any chance you might visit again?

GraffitiBoi · 10-17-2012, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Leigh

Wow that's so cool, any chance you might visit again?

No clue if I'll visit again. I like to travel so you never know. I do have tons of vacation time coming up but I have some of it set asaide for a trip south of MN... :-)

Darbonaire · 10-17-2012, 06:21 AM

As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key.

My ex-wife of 10 years said to me "again" very recently that my "lower region " was a mind f*ck for her because it is not anatomically "correct. I am male except for the nether regoins.....she said that "squigged" her & that she was uncomfortable making love to me because of this.....

My question is this then.......I know she was being totally honest & I respect that completely. There is nothing short of surgery that can "correct" that.....so.....truly & honestly....how many of you ladies / women / femmes find that to be the case for you?

Believe me, it can be a mind f*ck for me too at times....lol....but, maybe because I KNOW what's down there in my soul I am able to overlook the discrepency.

Anyway, being in your mid 50's & being FtM is really tough....you begin to realize how old you really are.....LOL

I look forward to reading all replies...<warm smile>

Enjoy the day !!!!

Dance-with-me · 10-17-2012, 06:36 AM

If this forum were visible to members only, I'd answer publicly but since it's publicly viewable I'll answer via PM.

Hominid · 10-17-2012, 07:18 PM

Hey there -

Wow, great question - I'd love to hear your answers (feel free all you generous souls to PM me as well!). I'm right with you - I really thought single life after the break up of my 10 year marriage would be ... at least not this bad. Or lonely. I'm fine alone, in fact I do need alone time. But I have taken on this feeling sort of like a tree falling in the forest. If nobody's with me with whom to share the experience, what's the point? I end up feeling more alone than if I just fart around on the internet, find obscure stuff on cable, and rotate between the three dinners I usually eat. I'm 45 - I wrote before about age and my area. It IS very queer friendly, but whatever Western Mass would like to think of itself, it is not open to guys way post physical transition. I spend most of my time when not working trying to avoid the sinking feeling of unresolved heartbreak - I lost both of my kids - I bought a great house after the breakup so the three of us could heal, and then was hammered with lawsuit after lawsuit over custody. Wah wah ... anyone, overshare. But I feel you. I wish I had some insight. I've had a little luck on one of the mainstream dating sites, so little it's pathetic but I have had a few exchanges. I have this ... feeling. It's very vague and I can't always access it, that someone is out there. I wish I had more to offer, but you're not alone in this.

[QUOTE=Darbonaire;677470]As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key.

Duchess · 10-17-2012, 07:50 PM

Good evening everybody

Darbonaire · 10-18-2012, 04:37 PM

Good to meet you ^5 ! Yes, the young guys are out there but truly, I believe as you do..there IS someone out there for me. I really thought I had found her in my last relationship & she was SO much of what I wanted...& I for her....but, things change, people change, & paths change.......so we move forward & wish each other the best.

So, western Mass eh? Pretty country up there. I was thrilled to move back here to VA for the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mtns.....Alabama was too flat for me..& too damn hot & muggy too!

So, maybe being on this site will help your energy get "noticed" & appreciated. I personally think a more mature woman is better for me at this stage in life. I believe there are women out there who want the same.....so maybe if we both jump up & down they'll see us.....LOL

Anyway, if you ever want to chat just email me at Darbonaire@aol.com.....would like to talk to other guys for sure.

Enjoy your night ^5

Jonathan

Darbonaire · 10-18-2012, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Duchess

Good evening everybody

Good evening Duchess !

Hominid · 10-18-2012, 08:04 PM

Hi Duchess - WV is really beautiful, and much better fishing ...

10-17-2012, 06:21 AM	#3
Darbonaire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: MALE Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Working on myself, thank you Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 186 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 343 Thanked 552 Times in 145 Posts Rep Power: 0	Age As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key. My ex-wife of 10 years said to me "again" very recently that my "lower region " was a mind fck for her because it is not anatomically "correct. I am male except for the nether regoins.....she said that "squigged" her & that she was uncomfortable making love to me because of this..... My question is this then.......I know she was being totally honest & I respect that completely. There is nothing short of surgery that can "correct" that.....so.....truly & honestly....how many of you ladies / women / femmes find that to be the case for you? Believe me, it can be a mind fck for me too at times....lol....but, maybe because I KNOW what's down there in my soul I am able to overlook the discrepency. Anyway, being in your mid 50's & being FtM is really tough....you begin to realize how old you really are.....LOL I look forward to reading all replies...<warm smile> Enjoy the day !!!!

10-17-2012, 07:50 PM	#6
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10-18-2012, 04:37 PM	#7
Darbonaire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: MALE Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Working on myself, thank you Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 186 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 343 Thanked 552 Times in 145 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Hominid Good to meet you ^5 ! Yes, the young guys are out there but truly, I believe as you do..there IS someone out there for me. I really thought I had found her in my last relationship & she was SO much of what I wanted...& I for her....but, things change, people change, & paths change.......so we move forward & wish each other the best. So, western Mass eh? Pretty country up there. I was thrilled to move back here to VA for the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mtns.....Alabama was too flat for me..& too damn hot & muggy too! So, maybe being on this site will help your energy get "noticed" & appreciated. I personally think a more mature woman is better for me at this stage in life. I believe there are women out there who want the same.....so maybe if we both jump up & down they'll see us.....LOL Anyway, if you ever want to chat just email me at Darbonaire@aol.com.....would like to talk to other guys for sure. Enjoy your night ^5 Jonathan

10-17-2012, 06:36 AM	#4
Dance-with-me Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: earth Posts: 419 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 264 Thanked 1,926 Times in 378 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	If this forum were visible to members only, I'd answer publicly but since it's publicly viewable I'll answer via PM.

10-17-2012, 07:18 PM	#5
Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	Hey there - Wow, great question - I'd love to hear your answers (feel free all you generous souls to PM me as well!). I'm right with you - I really thought single life after the break up of my 10 year marriage would be ... at least not this bad. Or lonely. I'm fine alone, in fact I do need alone time. But I have taken on this feeling sort of like a tree falling in the forest. If nobody's with me with whom to share the experience, what's the point? I end up feeling more alone than if I just fart around on the internet, find obscure stuff on cable, and rotate between the three dinners I usually eat. I'm 45 - I wrote before about age and my area. It IS very queer friendly, but whatever Western Mass would like to think of itself, it is not open to guys way post physical transition. I spend most of my time when not working trying to avoid the sinking feeling of unresolved heartbreak - I lost both of my kids - I bought a great house after the breakup so the three of us could heal, and then was hammered with lawsuit after lawsuit over custody. Wah wah ... anyone, overshare. But I feel you. I wish I had some insight. I've had a little luck on one of the mainstream dating sites, so little it's pathetic but I have had a few exchanges. I have this ... feeling. It's very vague and I can't always access it, that someone is out there. I wish I had more to offer, but you're not alone in this. [QUOTE=Darbonaire;677470]As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key.

10-18-2012, 08:04 PM	#9
Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	Hi Duchess - WV is really beautiful, and much better fishing ...