Neurodiversity

[violaine]

hallo to everyone from tennessee-

tomorrow, i will be leaving a beautiful family and state for home [indiana]. we have had a great time together, and being around another aspie girl- who is similar to me in some ways [exact in others!] is just the best.

listening to people discuss how alike we are brings a big smile to our faces.

oh! and she loves vegan fare

hope you are all doing well, and have a peaceful week.

andrew, i am looking for a snowball to toss your way

belle

[Andrew, Jr.]

Belle,

You can toss one anytime, day or night. If I am zzzz I am sure Mr. Dino will be ready to catch it and play catch with you. He is like that. Just a lovebug!

Today is hard. I am struggling with words. I feel like I am in a void. Does anyone else feel like that?

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Belle,

You can toss one anytime, day or night. If I am zzzz I am sure Mr. Dino will be ready to catch it and play catch with you. He is like that. Just a lovebug!

Today is hard. I am struggling with words. I feel like I am in a void. Does anyone else feel like that?

Yes, I get this feeling where it's like my brain is in a wind tunnel and sounds and pressure seem to go in and out. Kind of like a cooling unit? Not sure how to describe it.

I hope you feel better!

[Apocalipstic]

Belle, how cool that you got to spend some time with yoru friends, it sounds perfect!

[Andrew, Jr.]

A cooling unit - that is it perfectly. I just cannot stop it. What do you do? I have tried my migrain meds...nothing. I used my reading glasses...nope. I just have no clue. I tried to watch TV...it made it worse.

[Butterbean]

13 years I was diagnosed with:

Hyperprolactinemia- an extremely low grade cancerous brain tumor of the pituitary. In my case, the hypothalamus is affected.

No surgery for its removal. It was successfully shrunk down to micro size with synthetic dopamine, known as "Parlodel." I'll take this for the rest of my life.

Before it was shrunk down, I experienced 3 grand mal seizures while on vacation. The seizure was in my left temporal lobe and the area right behind it,speech, was damanged.

The ability to look at picture type instructions/perform with hand direction is also damaged.

During the first year of the diagnoses, I experienced blinding migraines and was ultra sensitive to light and movement.

I required a surgery immediately after the diagnoses to remove a grapefruit dermatoid cyst from my right ovary. It was peeled off as I refused to allow the remove of my ovary.

I was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia that year. I take 10 medications a day to help my brain along.

Most people have no idea anything is "wrong" with me. That's a blessing and curse depending upon the situation.

I've had about 20 surgeries. I guess the bottom line is the little tumor leaves me with a compromised immune system, weak muscles, light memory loss, asthma, sensitivity to cold and light, light impared speech that worsens with fatigue, and nasty insomnia.

Geesuz, I just accidently turned on my web cam while writing this. That was scary. My new laptop freaks me out sometimes.

But I digress. If anyone has any questions about pit tumors, I'd be happy to try to answer them. Ditto with any of the other diagnoses.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

A cooling unit - that is it perfectly. I just cannot stop it. What do you do? I have tried my migrain meds...nothing. I used my reading glasses...nope. I just have no clue. I tried to watch TV...it made it worse.

I have no idea how to make it go away. Deep breathing and getting away from people seems to help.

I was wearing my MP3 player in public places that freak me out...like the grocery store and crowded airports...but my G/F says that is dangerous. So I don't know.

[Apocalipstic]

So, does anyone have numbness in parts of their body other than hands?

There is a place on one of my thighs which goes numb or gets tingly sometimes and parts of my back. Sould I be concerned?

[violaine]

sent from a friend:


".. There are just relationships between two people -- two complex people -- and in some cases, some of these people have Asperger's. If a relationship fails between an AT and a NT, there are too many factors to say for sure that the cause was Aspergers. Of course, if Aspergers (or ADD or whatever is present), it's easy to point to that and claim (and really feel like) that's the cause. But you can't know that.

In any relationship, both people have their problems. I'm sure that, even as an NT, you're not 100% easy to live with. Relationships work because both people are willing to work on, work through, solve, live with or overlook problems. An Aspie is no different. Aspies may have to work harder at certain things, but they can do the work if they choose to. So once again, it's not about Aspergers, it's about the individual.

So the real question is, can you and your boyfriend/girlfriend -- two PEOPLE -- make it work? No one here can answer that for you. But even if you can't work it out, that says nothing about whether you could have a happy relationship with some other Aspie. It just says you can't have a happy relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend..."

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[Liam]

Originally Posted by violaine

sent from a friend:


".. There are just relationships between two people -- two complex people -- and in some cases, some of these people have Asperger's. If a relationship fails between an AT and a NT, there are too many factors to say for sure that the cause was Aspergers. Of course, if Aspergers (or ADD or whatever is present), it's easy to point to that and claim (and really feel like) that's the cause. But you can't know that.

In any relationship, both people have their problems. I'm sure that, even as an NT, you're not 100% easy to live with. Relationships work because both people are willing to work on, work through, solve, live with or overlook problems. An Aspie is no different. Aspies may have to work harder at certain things, but they can do the work if they choose to. So once again, it's not about Aspergers, it's about the individual.

So the real question is, can you and your boyfriend/girlfriend -- two PEOPLE -- make it work? No one here can answer that for you. But even if you can't work it out, that says nothing about whether you could have a happy relationship with some other Aspie. It just says you can't have a happy relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend..."

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I think about this often. I've worked very hard on my communication skills, and I have done a great deal of personal work, yet the happy/healthy partnership eludes me. My close aspie friends bring much joy into my life, and I appreciate them ever so much. There are times when I think that is the group women that I need to be looking at for a partner.

[christie]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I have no idea how to make it go away. Deep breathing and getting away from people seems to help.

I was wearing my MP3 player in public places that freak me out...like the grocery store and crowded airports...but my G/F says that is dangerous. So I don't know.

I'm not sure how C thinks that its dangerous to wear your MP3 in public places. I use mine in stores all the time - I seem to have a "please come talk to me and tell me your life story in 12 minutes" energy I emit, so I find that if I am jamming out with earphones in, people tend to NOT do that.

I've been known to have the earbuds in and the player off - it keeps the Momma in law from being chatty patty

I would be interested in how C perceives this to be a personal safety issue.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Darth Denkay

I hope I'm not intruding, but I read over this thread regularly. I guess you would call me an NT - although I hate using the term 'normal' for anything. The reason for my post is that I just wanted ya'll to know how brave you are for putting yourselves out here like you do. I have learned a tremendous amount on this thread, and admire each and every one of you.

Thank you and I love the new screen name!

Originally Posted by violaine

i love to write [poetry/haiku/iambic pentameter/screenplay] , draw-pencil, ink , charcoal ,& india. photography is a huge passion . while i was in art school [photography], i decided that social commentary was my responsibility. documenting [image+story] chained dogs began years ago, and i use the photos today in order to better serve outside dogs [the ones we all notice who are 24/7 tethered miserably, and basically forgotten souls.] not glamourous work by any means, like portraiture/wedding photography, but connected are two of my main loves: dogs/photography.

i have so many interests from ants to zoological parks [scheduling lecture series!]. ha. i bet many of you are similar?

I love animals, my fav part of the zoo is the bats. Bats are so cute. I really want a bathouse . I often think I communicate better with dogs and cats than I do humans...(WAY BETTER, we have talks) One time I sat at the Knoxville zoo and looked at a lady bug while my friends walked around.

I like trains, history, maps, art, music, literature. I do write poetry too, and often rhyme even when I don't mean to. I like geeky stuff like what airlines are from which country, stops on train routes, history of man made lakes...information. What year a song came out, label and other info. Diseases. I drew all the time when I was little, I need to do more of that now. I love color.

Originally Posted by christie0918

I'm not sure how C thinks that its dangerous to wear your MP3 in public places. I use mine in stores all the time - I seem to have a "please come talk to me and tell me your life story in 12 minutes" energy I emit, so I find that if I am jamming out with earphones in, people tend to NOT do that.

I've been known to have the earbuds in and the player off - it keeps the Momma in law from being chatty patty

I would be interested in how C perceives this to be a personal safety issue.

I am not sure either, maybe that I won't be paying enough attention? or maybe that she herself is nto able to multitask, so she assumes I can't? Must ask.