What attracts you to Ftms ......

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Martina

That's giving people a lot of power. How could someone here take someone's ideal living arrangement away from them?

And if you don't claim to be living the 50's household life, then my comments aren't relevant to you.

Oh and re saying something is wrong vs saying it isn't for me. I don't think this living arrangement is wrong. But holding up as exemplary an arrangement in which the male id'd person has power and privilege by virtue of his gender -- yeah that's wrong. Was wrong, is wrong, will always be wrong.

One of the great things about living in this country and in this time is that I get to decide what's relevant to me and what isn't, but I appreciate what you say about giving away power. People do that every day. Sometimes people take power from others. Eleanor Roosevelt was a brilliant woman and said that no one could take it away from you if you didn't allow it, but there are an awful lot of ways to take power from someone and dismissing one's way of life is one of them.

I hear you regarding the power inequality and what it used to be, but is it that if both partners are equally investing in this lifestyle and if they bear equal weight from it?