FTM place to vent and talk

BrutalDaddy · 10-30-2012, 06:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hominid

Avatar Change 'cause I keep thinking "holy crap, did I post that?" and it's Brutal

LOL. Sorry about that!

I chose this one cause I love monkeys and I wear glasses.

Four Eyed Monkey Lover,
Brute.

P.S. I love monkeys so much I even have a tatt of one. /End Derail.

DMW · 10-30-2012, 06:39 PM

I think that is funnier than hell Brute....I have been called that before....
Monkey

Keepin' it light is nice

I hope you are safe on the road out there...where are you Brute?

You guys are makin' me laugh reading your stories. The TSA...uh huh..
Another thing that cracks me up...I call trans - friendly toilets ...(TFT's)....
This is a good tool to have and use in public with others...depending on the situation.

I love goin' into the mens room to piss and there are just urinals or no doors....
Lovin' that especially when i am about to whizz my pants and my bladder is bursting...and screamin' at me and me EYE balls are just about to pop out of me HEAD....OY(sarcasm).
That right there is a great feeling and very healthy for our bladders....can anyone say
dehydration? So, important to drink enough water. I do.
I am comfortable in the men's room majority of the time. Just not lovin it when there isn't a door.
A lot more comfortable in the men's than i ever was in the women's restroom. I never really was
comfortable there...i was shy and felt like an intruder. but, i was a gentleman
(when i used to have to go in there) ...you know? Even as a child growing up it felt so wrong.
So confusing.
just don't look at anything. But, embarrassing to go in there. Scary even!
Gonna go try and watch the TV...I hope Obama wins...

Hominid · 10-30-2012, 07:40 PM

I know you had it first - I thought it went well with "Hominid" - but I'm way more into aliens than chimps - you win! Except they didn't have an alien with glasses ...

Quote:

Originally Posted by BrutalDyke

LOL. Sorry about that!

I chose this one cause I love monkeys and I wear glasses.

Four Eyed Monkey Lover,
Brute.

P.S. I love monkeys so much I even have a tatt of one. /End Derail.

DMW · 10-30-2012, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hominid

I know you had it first - I thought it went well with "Hominid" - but I'm way more into aliens than chimps - you win! Except they didn't have an alien with glasses ...

I have a Jack avatar for you Hominid.
They are out there in cyber space.
You should check them out.

DMW

Hominid · 10-30-2012, 10:50 PM

Now what?

We met on OKC, apparently she had been "looking" at me for several months - but has been moving, changing jobs, etc. and wasn't actively reaching out to anyone. She was one of my "mandatory" few that I send a message to a week. We met for breakfast - have talked on the phone a few times, and now we're going to the movies and dinner Saturday (not very original, but neither of us has been in a while and it's kind of retro).

Anyway, she is straight. Well, not really - well - she defines as straight but was with a few women over 8 years ago. She's never been with anyone trans, doesn't know anyone trans. She told me tonight she gets a little wobbly in the knees when we talk and has said nothing about my being trans or made no references to it ... which I admit is kind of nice.

That said, if we get that far (which won't be this week), how does one deal with sex? My ex and I had sex pretty much the same way after transition as before - and I was with a woman last year sexually who had been with butch lesbians so the "hardware" thing was just a given (hearkening to my comment about it being a little easier to date queer women). So, I mean, you're making out ... one thing leads to another ... then you excuse yourself? Do I talk about this very thing so when the time comes she's like "go upstairs honey, I'll be up in a minute" so I can be in bed already?

I plan to take my time, not rush into sex, but I'm curious about others' experiences with this delicate, embarrassing (to me) issue.

Darbonaire · 10-31-2012, 06:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hominid

Now what?

We met on OKC, apparently she had been "looking" at me for several months - but has been moving, changing jobs, etc. and wasn't actively reaching out to anyone. She was one of my "mandatory" few that I send a message to a week. We met for breakfast - have talked on the phone a few times, and now we're going to the movies and dinner Saturday (not very original, but neither of us has been in a while and it's kind of retro).

Anyway, she is straight. Well, not really - well - she defines as straight but was with a few women over 8 years ago. She's never been with anyone trans, doesn't know anyone trans. She told me tonight she gets a little wobbly in the knees when we talk and has said nothing about my being trans or made no references to it ... which I admit is kind of nice.

That said, if we get that far (which won't be this week), how does one deal with sex? My ex and I had sex pretty much the same way after transition as before - and I was with a woman last year sexually who had been with butch lesbians so the "hardware" thing was just a given (hearkening to my comment about it being a little easier to date queer women). So, I mean, you're making out ... one thing leads to another ... then you excuse yourself? Do I talk about this very thing so when the time comes she's like "go upstairs honey, I'll be up in a minute" so I can be in bed already?

I plan to take my time, not rush into sex, but I'm curious about others' experiences with this delicate, embarrassing (to me) issue.

I'm not worried about the "outing" myself...it's sex with a straight wamon that makes me question the "how to do it" the easiest & most comfortable way...NOT talking about positions here guys.....LOL.....just fyi.....

I'll be interested in the answers....thanks Hominid ! & Good luck when it happens & enjoy your date !!!

Darbonaire · 10-31-2012, 06:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

I'm not worried about the "outing" myself...it's sex with a straight wamon that makes me question the "how to do it" the easiest & most comfortable way...NOT talking about positions here guys.....LOL.....just fyi.....

I'll be interested in the answers....thanks Hominid ! & Good luck when it happens & enjoy your date !!!

BTw...what's OKC ? a dating site ?

Linus · 10-31-2012, 07:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Darbonaire

BTw...what's OKC ? a dating site ?

OK Cupid (dating site).

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 10:53 AM

Just fill her in about your situation and ask her what she likes

Quote:

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

I'm not worried about the "outing" myself...it's sex with a straight wamon that makes me question the "how to do it" the easiest & most comfortable way...NOT talking about positions here guys.....LOL.....just fyi.....

I'll be interested in the answers....thanks Hominid ! & Good luck when it happens & enjoy your date !!!

Julien · 10-31-2012, 10:56 AM

Just stopped by to say good afternoon to everyone. I hope your day is a good one.

DMW · 10-31-2012, 11:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Just fill her in about your situation and ask her what she likes

Welcome to butchfemme planet Purple, i completely agree with your answer to the question that you replied to....Smile.

I see that you are new here. Just to fill you in regarding what i have asked for
from the community.

I have made this thread a thread for FTM's to share a space. It isn't exactly private for us but, it is the best we got.

You did remind me that another thread needs to be made though.

Have a good day and please don't take my request personally...I am sure there will be more people ...to drop by unaware... I myself, have messed up plenty,so no need to feel badly or to apologize.

There are a lot of good people here and there is room for everyone of all colors,shapes and sizes....
have fun, and welcome again.

DMW

10-30-2012, 06:39 PM	#2
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,858 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I think that is funnier than hell Brute....I have been called that before.... Monkey Keepin' it light is nice I hope you are safe on the road out there...where are you Brute? You guys are makin' me laugh reading your stories. The TSA...uh huh.. Another thing that cracks me up...I call trans - friendly toilets ...(TFT's).... This is a good tool to have and use in public with others...depending on the situation. I love goin' into the mens room to piss and there are just urinals or no doors.... Lovin' that especially when i am about to whizz my pants and my bladder is bursting...and screamin' at me and me EYE balls are just about to pop out of me HEAD....OY(sarcasm). That right there is a great feeling and very healthy for our bladders....can anyone say dehydration? So, important to drink enough water. I do. I am comfortable in the men's room majority of the time. Just not lovin it when there isn't a door. A lot more comfortable in the men's than i ever was in the women's restroom. I never really was comfortable there...i was shy and felt like an intruder. but, i was a gentleman (when i used to have to go in there) ...you know? Even as a child growing up it felt so wrong. So confusing. just don't look at anything. But, embarrassing to go in there. Scary even! Gonna go try and watch the TV...I hope Obama wins... Last edited by DMW; 10-30-2012 at 06:57 PM.

10-30-2012, 10:50 PM	#5
Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	Some sucker agreed to a date ... Now what? We met on OKC, apparently she had been "looking" at me for several months - but has been moving, changing jobs, etc. and wasn't actively reaching out to anyone. She was one of my "mandatory" few that I send a message to a week. We met for breakfast - have talked on the phone a few times, and now we're going to the movies and dinner Saturday (not very original, but neither of us has been in a while and it's kind of retro). Anyway, she is straight. Well, not really - well - she defines as straight but was with a few women over 8 years ago. She's never been with anyone trans, doesn't know anyone trans. She told me tonight she gets a little wobbly in the knees when we talk and has said nothing about my being trans or made no references to it ... which I admit is kind of nice. That said, if we get that far (which won't be this week), how does one deal with sex? My ex and I had sex pretty much the same way after transition as before - and I was with a woman last year sexually who had been with butch lesbians so the "hardware" thing was just a given (hearkening to my comment about it being a little easier to date queer women). So, I mean, you're making out ... one thing leads to another ... then you excuse yourself? Do I talk about this very thing so when the time comes she's like "go upstairs honey, I'll be up in a minute" so I can be in bed already? I plan to take my time, not rush into sex, but I'm curious about others' experiences with this delicate, embarrassing (to me) issue.

10-31-2012, 10:56 AM	#10
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