Grandchildren- That Special Bond

[gaea]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

"Abuela" to 3 here: almost-17, 6.5, and, newborn, all born to my ex's dd and 3 different babydaddies, all druggies with significant criminal histories.

The eldest lived with us on and off for most of her life, and full time for the last couple of years after her momism her job and apartment due to her pain pill addiction. She's a beautiful petite energetic young woman who is a cheerleader and soccer player. So far at least she has responded to her mom's issues by staying very clear (by HER choice) from alcohol, drugs and sex. She and I have always had an arm's length relationship, both because her mom had huge issues with me and my ex's indulgence when I tried to have expectations of her such as chores and homework before texting and tv! I'm thrilled that we have finally bonded over something - we're both roller derby freaks

The 6yo is my heart. I've raised her as her primary parent since she was 20m but when the ex finally moves out next month, all the kids will go with her - I have zero legal rights. She has shown a strong preference for boy thing since she was 18m old and has rejected all girl thing since she was 3 and talks to me all the time about that she's really a boy. Her mom and my ex (grandmom/guardian) have huge issues with it and try to push her towards girl stuff, even though my ex is a TG butch.

The new baby was born July 29 at just 3.5lbs and addicted to methadone.

So... Not your typical grandma story.

for several years i raised my sisters kids who were all born addicted right along with mine...I know what your going through

[gaea]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

"Abuela" to 3 here: almost-17, 6.5, and, newborn, all born to my ex's dd and 3 different babydaddies, all druggies with significant criminal histories.

The eldest lived with us on and off for most of her life, and full time for the last couple of years after her momism her job and apartment due to her pain pill addiction. She's a beautiful petite energetic young woman who is a cheerleader and soccer player. So far at least she has responded to her mom's issues by staying very clear (by HER choice) from alcohol, drugs and sex. She and I have always had an arm's length relationship, both because her mom had huge issues with me and my ex's indulgence when I tried to have expectations of her such as chores and homework before texting and tv! I'm thrilled that we have finally bonded over something - we're both roller derby freaks

The 6yo is my heart. I've raised her as her primary parent since she was 20m but when the ex finally moves out next month, all the kids will go with her - I have zero legal rights. She has shown a strong preference for boy thing since she was 18m old and has rejected all girl thing since she was 3 and talks to me all the time about that she's really a boy. Her mom and my ex (grandmom/guardian) have huge issues with it and try to push her towards girl stuff, even though my ex is a TG butch.

The new baby was born July 29 at just 3.5lbs and addicted to methadone.

So... Not your typical grandma story.

Originally Posted by gaea

for several years i raised my sisters kids who were all born addicted right along with mine...I know what your going through

edited to correct my grammar here.... my kida were not born addicted...I raised my sisters addicted babies with my children, ended up with all 9 of her kids not all at once however over the years...the last one though when cps called upon me i told them where to go..

[Lady Pamela]

My 12th grandbaby at 17 weeks..... smiles

[Lady Pamela]

IT'S A GIRL

HER NAME IS SHAY.
19 WEEKS


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[LadyRieinAL]

I only thought I had been in love before and then along came my granddaughter WILLOW!!!!

[Darbonaire]

kid or grandkid kind of guy...BUT, I did & do find joy watching my grand-daughter grow....even though we are miles apart....she will always be in my heart....always !

Jonathan

[Sachita]

I can't believe my little munchkin will be two soon!

[PurpleQuestions84]

I can honestly say my granmother is my BEST FRIEND ...
Nothing like a bond between a granmother and granbaby

[gaea]

This year for halloween

Audree was blueberry muffin
Aleese was 'brave" Merina i think is her name

Next year
Audree is going to be lemon meringue
Alees - Another Princess of course lol

I am now living with my daughter and granddaughters, they are a blessing to be around and i find moments i am getting to share with them to be priceless and most special.

Audree and I have started reading together currently we are reading "The little Princess" she is enjoying our time together as much as i am.

[macele]

Originally Posted by Sachita

I can't believe my little munchkin will be two soon!

she favors you. how pretty, and she looks like she's up to something lol.

[fever]

Took the grandbabies to a Santa Claus Parade at an neighbouring town tonight. We were bundled in blankets, sipping hot chocolate, and waiting for the parade to start. I was feeling so very blessed. I am one lucky grandma.

[fever]

So, what are all of you grandmas and grandpas doing with your grandchildren this Christmas? My gson is 8, gdaughter3, and they are happily awaiting Santa to arrive. Hooray for Barbie Dolls and XBox games!!! lol

[gaea]

Yay for grandbaby # 3 coming along....

I have a question though ......seriously i have no clue at this stage in my life i seem to be a bit more on the safer side of life. As in bringing someone into their life, i know this feeling is not the same as when i raised my kids because i raised my kids with my ex husband and my partner and after we split i have been sorta picky about who i bring around my kids even more so who i bring around my grandkids.

This feeling is for sure different and i cant really explain it.

If I am just dating i do not have to worry about that however if i entertain the idea of a relationship I need to know they are going to be accepted in another persons life.

I am a bit apprehensive, because I care..because i am older...because of a whole lot of reasons.

Do any of you feel this too?

[oksoftbutch]

I have a 3 yr old grandson.....he looks just like his daddy in looks and stature....he has his mommas blue eyes.....he is a tiny little guy ....and he loves his grandma......he almost always tells his mom and dad bye bye when he sees me....he thinks he is going home for the weekend with me..... He is my heart....

[Lady Pamela]

Shay Madeline Calvert has arrived...and came home today...mommy is doing good also.

[Lady Pamela]

[wahya]

My grandson is my heart , I was in the delivery room when he was born , I spent many a nights feeding and burping him, changing diapers,baths, drs appts, parks,pre school, t-ball,skateboarding, etc.. This little boy is now is 7. He is very affectionate which I know he got from me. And his sense of humor. He is smart and the sweetest boy you will ever meet. ( He also has big beautiful brown eyes). I had custody of this little boy while I went through my battle with cancer, he was 5. It was then I got to see his strength courage & compassion. He wanted to help his baba, he wanted to help take care of me, he once rubbed my black( from the chemo) and painful feet and he said I want you to get better so you can one day run with me. That just instantly warmed my heart. Unfortunetly my heart no longer feels warm, It feels nothing now. My daughter has pulled me out of his life. She has done this many times in the past. I have been the best mother I could be to her. I have given her everything she needed and sometimes wanted. She is now with every parents nightmare a psychopath who has turned her against me. She has a daughter with him and of course I have only met her twice. I hope no one has to ever go thru anything like this.

[StoicStone]

I have 6 grandchildren. The oldest is 24, the youngest is 3. My oldest granddaughter (22) just told me she is pregnant. I'm going to be a great grandmother! YAY!!!!

[Soft*Silver]

I LOVE being a grandmother! I have a 3 year old girl named Violet and a 3 month old girl named Evangeline, Vi and EV.

I was so stressed when I was a mother. I never felt like I did a good enough job even tho I tried my very best. But I am a WONDERFUL grand mother! OMG...I am the kind of person who comes armed with a sleeve of photos in her wallet.

I bought them each a pony! Yes, real ponies. They each have a playhouse. My house is filled with toys and dolls. We have many more toddler toys than baby toys since EV doesnt stay overnite with us like Violet does.

I love that I only work 2 days a week because the other days are spent with the GC.

I wish I knew how to post a photo. I am such a proud GM!

I am called Bubi...its russian slav. derived from Baba. They call my husband Pops.

[Soft*Silver]

if you are a grand parent, what do your GC call you?