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PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 03:56 PM

Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

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Originally Posted by Darbonaire

<~ 5'10" tall here so....why is that not good for you??

Ginger · 10-31-2012, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Well, I'm sure you're saying this from experience—but I find it hard to accept as a generalization.

If it's true, then I'd think that was sad, that such a sexist value was being adopted and applied to pollute a new paradigm—because it denigrates the beauty of tall femmes. My sisters.

Soon · 10-31-2012, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

Well, I'm sure you're saying this from experience—but I find it hard to accept as a generalization.

If it's true, then I'd think that was sad, that such a sexist value was being adopted and applied to pollute a new paradigm—because it denigrates the beauty of tall femmes. My sisters.

Thank YOU!

5' 9" here and I tell any interested party pretty quickly that I am this tall...my height has never deterred the butches and guys of only the best kind...

People may have a preference and so be it--one cannot force physical attraction be it height, body shape etc. If that's the case, ok, no harm done.

Not to mention, it can work the OTHER way around. There may be taller femmes who just aren't attracted to guys who are under a certain height as well. It's possible.

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 05:10 PM

Maybe i have just ran into the wrong ones so far

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Originally Posted by Soon

Thank YOU!

(5' 9" here and I tell any interested party pretty quickly that I am this tall...my height has never deterred the butches and guys of only the best kind...)

Ginger · 10-31-2012, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Maybe i have just ran into the wrong ones so far

Hang in there. Someone who accepts your strengths, your weaknesses; your past, your present; your uniqueness and your ordinariness will have no problem accepting your height. And loving it.

Soon · 10-31-2012, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Maybe i have just ran into the wrong ones so far

I consider myself lucky. I have had some great relationships with fabulous butches and transguys. Or maybe it isn't luck. There is some skill, perceptiveness and time (experience too) involved in finding partners who enrich one's life no matter how long the relationship.

/ends derail!

PurpleQuestions84 · 10-31-2012, 06:04 PM

Correction FTM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Nadeest · 10-31-2012, 08:34 PM

Thanks for the correction. I was wondering about that, though there are some MTF Butches about. I was thinking, though, that you were probably referring to FTMs.

Ginger · 10-31-2012, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

Thanks for the correction. I was wondering about that, though there are some MTF Butches about. I was thinking, though, that you were probably referring to FTMs.

Yeah, I assumed that too.

SelfMadeMan · 11-08-2012, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Because most MTF/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Nah, I don't think so at all
I've known several FTMs and Butches that weren't the taller in the relationship. And someone who didn't want to be with you based on your height, probably isn't someone you want to be with anyway - that would be pretty shallow IMHO!

DMW · 11-08-2012, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleQuestions84

Because most FTM/ Butch want to be the taller person in the relationship ...

Considering i am almost legally a midget...well, as one of my exes
would fondly and affectionately remind me that i am short in stature (that i would be a midget
if i were so many inches shorter..forget how many) when i would forget...(i do that often)
i could say that most women would want a taller man... but, i don't
know if that is true. I just don't know.
If a woman doesn't want a short dude....
then it ain't me babe...no, no, no...it ain't me your lookin' for babe....
[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2R2NrV4ve1o"]It ain't me babe - Johnny Cash & June Carter Cash - YouTube[/nomedia]

To each his own PurpleQuestions...and i bet you are just perfect for
someone out there. If the butch or FTM has an issue with your height...
then, that is their issue...not yours. Hopefully, they will just be honest
and upfront with you that they can't deal with your height,
and you will not have to suffer.

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Originally Posted by Soon

Thank YOU!

5' 9" here and I tell any interested party pretty quickly that I am this tall...my height has never deterred the butches and guys of only the best kind...
People may have a preference and so be it--one cannot force physical attraction be it height, body shape etc. If that's the case, ok, no harm done.

Not to mention, it can work the OTHER way around. There may be taller femmes who just aren't attracted to guys who are under a certain height as well. It's possible.

Totally agree with you Soon. I do the same. I have a similar perspective, sentiment and attitude about it. It is just another way of finding out quicky whether or not two people are compatible. Honesty is the best policy.

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Nah, I don't think so at all
I've known several FTMs and Butches that weren't the taller in the relationship. And someone who didn't want to be with you based on your height, probably isn't someone you want to be with anyway - that would be pretty shallow IMHO!

Yep!

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Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	Thanks for the correction. I was wondering about that, though there are some MTF Butches about. I was thinking, though, that you were probably referring to FTMs.