Vanilla thread ... How about a "hook up" thread for us Vanilla folk? ... Vanilla thread

iamkeri1 · 11-09-2012, 01:17 PM

Please reead the title of the thread and the first post before you make your own posting. This is a thread for single folks who are not into BDSM practices to meet and get to know each other for the objest of dating. Vanilla is a label chosen for us by BDSM folks. I used it because it is known, not because of it's descriptive capacity.

Vanillans do not consider ourselves to be boring. We in fact are not boring, at least not any more or less than BDSM folk.

Some of us are kinky as hell, by most definitions. But we do not tie each other up, whip each other, use humiliation tactics as a sexual turn on, or make each other stand in the corner when we are "bad." I am not saying this to be insulting to BDSM people, just listing a few of the practices I have read about on BDSM threads on this site.

If you know you are non BDSM and you like it, and you wish to date others like yourself, then please post here. Start with a description of your self similar to the one Rockin and I did.

If you are trying to work out whether you are Vanilla or Bdsm, or you wish to make funny comments about vanilla (or BDSM for that matter) sexual practices, please do that on another thread. Thanks.
Smooches,
Keri

Toughy · 11-10-2012, 12:56 PM

What is the difference between kink and BDSM?

Martina · 11-10-2012, 01:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

But we do not tie each other up, whip each other, use humiliation tactics as a sexual turn on, or make each other stand in the corner when we are "bad." I am not saying this to be insulting to BDSM people,

But you are being insulting to BDSM folks. Clearly these ideas are appalling to you. Not something you need to express online. Just as you didn't need to point out that, to you, femmes who don't partner with butches aren't really femmes.

Martina · 11-10-2012, 01:51 PM

Shit. I just remembered about not pulling stuff from other threads into current discussions. I can't edit now. Mods, if you want to, I would be fine with you removing my comment about femmes from my previous post.

QueenofSmirks · 11-10-2012, 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Some of us are kinky as hell, by most definitions. But we do not tie each other up, whip each other, use humiliation tactics as a sexual turn on, or make each other stand in the corner when we are "bad." I am not saying this to be insulting to BDSM people, just listing a few of the practices I have read about on BDSM threads on this site.

Keri, I'm sorry to even be posting in this thread, and I battled with myself for about 20 minutes before I decided to go ahead and do so.

First - I looked for a post in the thread that would have warranted your response. I didn't see one, so I'm not sure what compelled you to say what you did. Having said that, I'm curious as to what you mean by "some of us are kinky as hell" but then you say you do not do X, Y, Z, etc. Well, if you are kinky as hell, what DO you do?

Also, I don't think it's fair to say you aren't trying to be insulting to BDSM people by listing a few practices you read about on the BDSM threads. It would be like me talking about Christians and saying "I don't speak in tongues, burn witches at the stake, or believe that women are "unclean" while menstruating... oh, but I am not saying this to be insulting to Christians." It just doesn't hold up.

I'm sorry you feel that this site has somehow pandered to the BDSM community - it's funny how we're a minority but we're seen as having some special privilege instead of just having equal access.

Martina · 11-10-2012, 01:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by QueenofSmirks

I'm sorry you feel that this site has somehow pandered to the BDSM community - it's funny how we're a minority but we're seen as having some special privilege instead of just having equal access.

It's because we are allowed to speak. That's our special privilege.

nycfem · 11-10-2012, 02:31 PM

MODERATION

Hey, folks, this is a Vanilla Hook Up thread. Let's get it back on track and allow for those who id as vanilla (or what it alludes to) to post and get to know each other.

However, this is a public forum, so if something is posted that you read as discriminatory towards people who practice BDSM, by all means report it. We don't condone that towards any group or identity. Let us discuss in the mod/admin thread and see if it indeed warrants intervening.

By the same token, Keri, if you feel that someone is mocking your thread, instead of striking out in a passive-aggressive way towards those who practice BDSM, report it and let us take a look.

Finally, please do not report the posts prior to my post. Let's just take it from here.

Thanks, everyone!

Jennifer

Nadeest · 11-10-2012, 10:27 PM

I'm sorry, Keri, but I have never been good about talking about myself. I figure that anyone interested in me will learn more in one good convo with me, then I could ever tell them by writing things down. This just seems to work better for me, somehow.

Sweet Bliss · 08-05-2013, 05:13 PM

Geez, wondering if I should post in here. Awful quiet.

Oh well. Yes I'm old fashioned, old school, June Cleaver kinda gal. Have no interest in anything beyond vanilla. Not interested in anyone who claims they left the other team to join the Vanilla scoop. Been there done that, the end.

You can read my posts to figure out if you are interested or not. I'm considered too much by some, not enough for others. If you have an interest in the unusual then we might hit it off.

11-10-2012, 12:56 PM	#2
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11-09-2012, 01:17 PM	#1
iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	Please reead the title of the thread and the first post before you make your own posting. This is a thread for single folks who are not into BDSM practices to meet and get to know each other for the objest of dating. Vanilla is a label chosen for us by BDSM folks. I used it because it is known, not because of it's descriptive capacity. Vanillans do not consider ourselves to be boring. We in fact are not boring, at least not any more or less than BDSM folk. Some of us are kinky as hell, by most definitions. But we do not tie each other up, whip each other, use humiliation tactics as a sexual turn on, or make each other stand in the corner when we are "bad." I am not saying this to be insulting to BDSM people, just listing a few of the practices I have read about on BDSM threads on this site. If you know you are non BDSM and you like it, and you wish to date others like yourself, then please post here. Start with a description of your self similar to the one Rockin and I did. If you are trying to work out whether you are Vanilla or Bdsm, or you wish to make funny comments about vanilla (or BDSM for that matter) sexual practices, please do that on another thread. Thanks. Smooches, Keri

11-10-2012, 01:51 PM	#4
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,285 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Shit. I just remembered about not pulling stuff from other threads into current discussions. I can't edit now. Mods, if you want to, I would be fine with you removing my comment about femmes from my previous post.

11-10-2012, 02:31 PM	#7
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,794 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,452 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	MODERATION Hey, folks, this is a Vanilla Hook Up thread. Let's get it back on track and allow for those who id as vanilla (or what it alludes to) to post and get to know each other. However, this is a public forum, so if something is posted that you read as discriminatory towards people who practice BDSM, by all means report it. We don't condone that towards any group or identity. Let us discuss in the mod/admin thread and see if it indeed warrants intervening. By the same token, Keri, if you feel that someone is mocking your thread, instead of striking out in a passive-aggressive way towards those who practice BDSM, report it and let us take a look. Finally, please do not report the posts prior to my post. Let's just take it from here. Thanks, everyone! Jennifer

11-10-2012, 10:27 PM	#8
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	I'm sorry, Keri, but I have never been good about talking about myself. I figure that anyone interested in me will learn more in one good convo with me, then I could ever tell them by writing things down. This just seems to work better for me, somehow.

08-05-2013, 05:13 PM	#9
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Geez, wondering if I should post in here. Awful quiet. Oh well. Yes I'm old fashioned, old school, June Cleaver kinda gal. Have no interest in anything beyond vanilla. Not interested in anyone who claims they left the other team to join the Vanilla scoop. Been there done that, the end. You can read my posts to figure out if you are interested or not. I'm considered too much by some, not enough for others. If you have an interest in the unusual then we might hit it off.